Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:PP@11:36 here.
Yes, a lot of men cheat on their pregnant wives, and it does seem over the top horrible (you did this to her - made her this way - how can you then cheat on her for that!) but really: I do not find it weird that spouses (husbands or wives) who are cut off from a sex life wind up cheating. Better to cheat than to leave! If I wanted sexual celibacy, I would have entered a cult/religious order, and "married jesus" and not gotten married to a woman. I am not so judgemental about affairs.
I'm not cheating myself because: 1) I don't want to look in the mirror and see myself that way and 2) I expect this to be temporary. I can pull a stint if I know there is an end in site in the future. If it seemed indefinite, I'd probably already be cheating. I feel shame about "you couldn't make do for a year or two?" but I would not feel shame about "hey, we're not and never will, so I found some elsewhere".
re: shopping for lingerie, candles, etc. Look, I'd be happy if we were sleeping in the same bed again. Right now I'm working on making the bed comfortable enough for her to sleep in, so she's not propped up in a bunch of pillows in a recliner in the TV room. I bought her a couple of sexy pregnancy nighties for Christmas...and she liked them, but no, this is way past that.
Right now I'm focussing on pampering my wife while she's enduring this very uncomfortable pregnancy.
Just get your action elsewhere. No one would blame you for it - other than your wife if she found out. But you can't be expected to remain celibate because she is pregnant.