At what age do kids know they're gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually sometime between 3 and 60.

True.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is usually pretty easy to tell when they are young. For boys: do they like girls toys? Are they dramatic and whiney? Do they act girly?

Source: my youngest son

You do realize that "girly" behaviors and toy preference have nothing to do with sexual preference right? You're discussion gender stereotypes, and maybe gender identification on the far end of the spectrum, not sexual preference (ie. "gayness")

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is usually pretty easy to tell when they are young. For boys: do they like girls toys? Are they dramatic and whiney? Do they act girly?

Source: my youngest son

You do realize that "girly" behaviors and toy preference have nothing to do with sexual preference right? You're discussion gender stereotypes, and maybe gender identification on the far end of the spectrum, not sexual preference (ie. "gayness")

+1 My daughter loves Star Wars, hot wheels, Lego's, and other building toys. She finds the "pink aisle" boring. I guess she is a lesbian, right?

[Anonymous]

DH's cousin played with dolls in pre-K, so nobody was really surprised when he came out LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is usually pretty easy to tell when they are young. For boys: do they like girls toys? Are they dramatic and whiney? Do they act girly?

Source: my youngest son

You do realize that "girly" behaviors and toy preference have nothing to do with sexual preference right? You're discussion gender stereotypes, and maybe gender identification on the far end of the spectrum, not sexual preference (ie. "gayness")

+1 My daughter loves Star Wars, hot wheels, Lego's, and other building toys. She finds the "pink aisle" boring. I guess she is a lesbian, right?

Wait. That means I'm a lesbian, too! How did I miss it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is usually pretty easy to tell when they are young. For boys: do they like girls toys? Are they dramatic and whiney? Do they act girly?

Source: my youngest son

You do realize that "girly" behaviors and toy preference have nothing to do with sexual preference right? You're discussion gender stereotypes, and maybe gender identification on the far end of the spectrum, not sexual preference (ie. "gayness")

+1 My daughter loves Star Wars, hot wheels, Lego's, and other building toys. She finds the "pink aisle" boring. I guess she is a lesbian, right?

Wait. That means I'm a lesbian, too! How did I miss it?

Guys, the PP was being facetious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is usually pretty easy to tell when they are young. For boys: do they like girls toys? Are they dramatic and whiney? Do they act girly?

Source: my youngest son

You do realize that "girly" behaviors and toy preference have nothing to do with sexual preference right? You're discussion gender stereotypes, and maybe gender identification on the far end of the spectrum, not sexual preference (ie. "gayness")

+1 My daughter loves Star Wars, hot wheels, Lego's, and other building toys. She finds the "pink aisle" boring. I guess she is a lesbian, right?

Wait. That means I'm a lesbian, too! How did I miss it?

Guys, the PP was being facetious.

Sadly, I don't think they were. It's pretty stereotypical talk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is usually pretty easy to tell when they are young. For boys: do they like girls toys? Are they dramatic and whiney? Do they act girly?

Source: my youngest son

You do realize that "girly" behaviors and toy preference have nothing to do with sexual preference right? You're discussion gender stereotypes, and maybe gender identification on the far end of the spectrum, not sexual preference (ie. "gayness")

+1 My daughter loves Star Wars, hot wheels, Lego's, and other building toys. She finds the "pink aisle" boring. I guess she is a lesbian, right?

Wait. That means I'm a lesbian, too! How did I miss it?

you'll know for sure when you get your welcome to lesbianism toaster in the mail.

[Anonymous]

My son who did nothing but play kitchen and make-believe is married with 3 kids and chef. If I would have pushed him away from "girly" things he wouldn't be happy with his career choice. I can not believe so many people think they "know" by what toys they play. I guess I should let my daughter-in-law know their marriage is a sham based on DCUM messages.

How about you let kids do what they want and if/when they decide to let you know about their sexual preferences, you just be okay with it and love them the exact same way. Why this need to have to know?? I Think it makes it awkward.

[Anonymous]

My DS, who is 5, insists that he is gay and is going to marry a man. I'm fine with it if that's actually the case, but I suspect he may just want to be like our neighbors, who are a gay couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS, who is 5, insists that he is gay and is going to marry a man. I'm fine with it if that's actually the case, but I suspect he may just want to be like our neighbors, who are a gay couple.

My big sister was once married to an abusive dickhead, so her son assumed that marrying a woman would make him like his dad and resolved to be gay like his uncle (me). That faded in middle school when everyone was "dating" people of the other sex, but then he came out again last year in 10th grade. Great kid and also not stereotypically gay at all-star of the soccer team from what I hear, and wants to become a sports manager. I also have a friend with a trans daughter, who came out around age 8 I think and has been fully accepted by everyone around her. My friend said she had absolutely no idea, there were no "warning signs," and actually had a long period of depression over her guilt that she'd raised her daughter "wrong" for seven years. That's what hurts me so much reading about the Leelah Alcorn girl-identity can be such a tricky thing and in a sense I think her parents knew what their behavior was was wrong, but it was their feeling that God had messed up that prevented them from fulling accepting their child. You feel like it's feelings versus what should be, and that can never lead to true confidence. Nonetheless, we're moving into an age where accepting your child for whoever they might be is not only the norm but the only reasonable societal response, and that makes me truly happy. My coming out journey was remarkably easy ("Mom, I have a boyfriend" "What's his GPA? Does he drink? Bring him over for dinner and invite his parents") but there are many others who can't say that. I knew this gay woman once who used to steal hotel and church bibles in huge quantities and burn them because she was so angry at the religious movement against same-sex equality. It's true the church did some really bad shit and said some things no person should ever hear about themselves, but I believe people who can find it in their hearts to love others no matter who they are can and have fixed those things, and will continue to do so into the future. Parents on here, the only thing you have to do is raise your child. You can't change their sexual orientation and honestly it doesn't really matter. The day when gay or straight or trans or girl or boy or whatever else becomes as much of a big deal as your eye color is the day I will be truly happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is usually pretty easy to tell when they are young. For boys: do they like girls toys? Are they dramatic and whiney? Do they act girly?

Source: my youngest son

That's completely inaccurate.

I was playing with baby dolls and Barbies my entire childhood. Guess who is a gold star lesbian?

[Anonymous]

You wait till they tell you.

[Anonymous]

My brother said that he knew it when he was 10 but didn't really have the words until he was 16.

We didn't believe it at first when he came out to the family because he was the toughest kid on the street.

I don't think anyone but the person themselves can tell what their sexual preference is going to be. It would be silly to think that toys, or hobbies are true indicators.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is usually pretty easy to tell when they are young. For boys: do they like girls toys? Are they dramatic and whiney? Do they act girly?

Source: my youngest son

You do realize that "girly" behaviors and toy preference have nothing to do with sexual preference right? You're discussion gender stereotypes, and maybe gender identification on the far end of the spectrum, not sexual preference (ie. "gayness")

You are assuming I'm looking at it through a very narrow window. If an otherwise normal boy picked up a doll for 5 seconds it doesn't automatically mean he will be gay (not that there's anything wrong with that), but if has liked barbies for a while now and has many, asks for more dolls, cries for girl toys, acts feminine and dramatic, plays only with girls because they like the same things, goes to princess movies and watches princess shows, etc he will surely be gay.