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Anonymous wrote:My SIL and MIL cannot stop commenting on my dd's size. She's a little on the small side- it hurts my feelings bc they act like I'm not feeding her enough. When they ask her percentile and her weight I tell them that I don't know (she's in the 23rd or something). And I tell them that no one else is concerned and we don't worry about that type of thing in our house (lots of eating disorder issues in both my family and DH's family).

"This is the third time you've made a comment about Larla's size. Her pediatrician is fine with it, and that's all that matters to me. Please don't bring it up again." Then take Larla and walk out of the room. Be pleasant as pie with them for the rest of the visit.

We get these annoying comments for the opposite reason - DS (22 months) is 95th percentile. BIL: "Wow! His hands are almost as big as mine!" MIL: "He will eat anything, won't he?" (Not true, but he generally eats well). Drives me batty. I don't think it's appropriate to comment, period. Wish people would follow the old adage "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." (FWIW, I don't comment on my BIL and SIL's similarly-aged toddler who is quite small for her age - they have a pediatrician who I am sure monitors her progress, so my input is not necessary, as far as I'm concerned. Sadly, they don't feel the same way.)

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JFC. MIL does not provide enough food, nor ask for contributions, and I am already agonizing not saying no. She keeps inviting more people, and planning/serving barely enough food for the immediate family (before multiple spouses, kids, cousins, et al). And she never liked hosting to begin with, but wants bragging rights. Yup, I made a post about this.

The wine is looking great

Thanks for the venting thread, OP! Merry Merry!

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Most people wouldn't find this annoying but I am sick and tired of MIL going on and on about how DD is clearly gifted and ahead of her peers. Sure she's a smart kid but not atypically so. I get the proud grandparent thing but she talks about it ALL the time. It's odd especially because dd is pretty much just a normal curious kid.

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MIL had literally five mimosas this morning then made a snarky comment about how I'd be falling over soon when I went to get my third glass. WTF?

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LIES

ALL LIES

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MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 20 yr old DD is coming home for Christmas. YAY!
She is bringing her boyfriend. BOO!

My boyfriend is freaking out about it, and managing him is driving me crazy.

Trashy.

Widows are trashy? If they remarry they have to have a boyfriend at some point, right?
And even in the case of non-widows- your world can't be this small. It just can't be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My SIL and MIL cannot stop commenting on my dd's size. She's a little on the small side- it hurts my feelings bc they act like I'm not feeding her enough. When they ask her percentile and her weight I tell them that I don't know (she's in the 23rd or something). And I tell them that no one else is concerned and we don't worry about that type of thing in our house (lots of eating disorder issues in both my family and DH's family).

"This is the third time you've made a comment about Larla's size. Her pediatrician is fine with it, and that's all that matters to me. Please don't bring it up again." Then take Larla and walk out of the room. Be pleasant as pie with them for the rest of the visit.

We get these annoying comments for the opposite reason - DS (22 months) is 95th percentile. BIL: "Wow! His hands are almost as big as mine!" MIL: "He will eat anything, won't he?" (Not true, but he generally eats well). Drives me batty. I don't think it's appropriate to comment, period. Wish people would follow the old adage "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." (FWIW, I don't comment on my BIL and SIL's similarly-aged toddler who is quite small for her age - they have a pediatrician who I am sure monitors her progress, so my input is not necessary, as far as I'm concerned. Sadly, they don't feel the same way.)

Maybe they aren't trying to be mean?

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Not huge drama, I guess. I just feel badly for the disappointed kids involved:

I offered to take my kids and my nieces/nephews to a fun event tomorrow. Plans were all firmed up last week. I bought the tix, and my brother bailed tonight, most likely because he's fighting with his girlfriend. So I'm stuck with 4 extra tickets. And my own kids are really disappointed they don't get to hang out with their cousins.

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Anonymous wrote:Not huge drama, I guess. I just feel badly for the disappointed kids involved:

I offered to take my kids and my nieces/nephews to a fun event tomorrow. Plans were all firmed up last week. I bought the tix, and my brother bailed tonight, most likely because he's fighting with his girlfriend. So I'm stuck with 4 extra tickets. And my own kids are really disappointed they don't get to hang out with their cousins.

Can't you take the cousins as well, without your brother?

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Anonymous wrote:Not huge drama, I guess. I just feel badly for the disappointed kids involved:

I offered to take my kids and my nieces/nephews to a fun event tomorrow. Plans were all firmed up last week. I bought the tix, and my brother bailed tonight, most likely because he's fighting with his girlfriend. So I'm stuck with 4 extra tickets. And my own kids are really disappointed they don't get to hang out with their cousins.

Can't you take the cousins as well, without your brother?

I was only taking the kids in the first place.

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Awkward as hell...on Christmas eve we had a friend of my sister in laws boyfriend. He told me he was very attracted to my sister (based on a few facebook pics since sil is friends with my sister) and started explaining his rating system for women.

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My 20 yr old DD is coming home for Christmas. YAY!
She is bringing her boyfriend. BOO!

My boyfriend is freaking out about it, and managing him is driving me crazy.


Why would YOUR boyfriend freak out? And how old are you anyway?


Is she not allowed a boyfriend? I don't understand the problem.

It a dad and hisi boyfriend.

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Anonymous wrote:MIL tried to physically yank infant DD from my arms when she started crying while I was getting her calmed down. I know she wanted to be helpful, but don't. Grab. My. Baby. From me.

Oh, you never come between mamma bear and her cub. Never. I'm surprised people don't know that.

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I apparently don't know how to do anything. I have no idea how I get through each day. I'm not allowed near the stove, I can't use a Brita, I don't understand my child's cries, I don't know how to clean table mats, load the dishwasher. I mean, without my ILs constant commentary and incredibly helpful "tips," I'd probably be stuck licking a tree or something. If I don't offer to help, I'm obviously ungrateful. But when I try, it's all wrong (oh, no, MIL, I've obviously never peeled potatoes before. How dare I not cut off the quarter centimeter of skin stuck on its side ? It will surely ruin the mashed potatoes.)