Nephew thinks others are jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nephew is 10, he just started at a private Montessori mid grade last year due to problem he had at his other school.
Anyway, I saw him and he went on and on about how all his old classmates are so jealous that he goes to private Montessori. I found it an odd thing to say.
I wonder where he got the idea his old classmates are jealous. He took a lot of pride in it. His mom is weird and like to compete with the world. Maybe he got if from her.

Jealous wasn't even a word my kids used at that age.
Is this a bit odd?

It's more odd that you've given this so much thought that you were compelled to post about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You know it's odd. Don't come on an anonymous forum to ask strangers to join in trashing your nephew and his mother OP.

Pretty much this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understood the concept of jealousy at 11. Then again, I'm female and girls become quite petty early on.

But I can't help but wonder if a few of his friends said, 'Man, I'm so jealous! You're lucky to be leaving this crummy school! And you're going to Montessori???
How cool!!!'

I can remember my son's 3rd grade friends telling him he was so lucky and they were so jealous he was being pulled out of school for a week+ to go abroad.

When he recounted this, it didn't seem weird. Seemed like typical 'my school sucks' kid stuff.

OP, you're the worst.

More likely he got picked on and his mother said, "they're just jealous."

Still very weird for OP to be obsessing about this.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why everyone is bashing the OP for a pretty typical DCUM post.

The kid sounds odd--but it sounds like his mom is definitely encouraging this line of thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understood the concept of jealousy at 11. Then again, I'm female and girls become quite petty early on.

But I can't help but wonder if a few of his friends said, 'Man, I'm so jealous! You're lucky to be leaving this crummy school! And you're going to Montessori???
How cool!!!'

I can remember my son's 3rd grade friends telling him he was so lucky and they were so jealous he was being pulled out of school for a week+ to go abroad.

When he recounted this, it didn't seem weird. Seemed like typical 'my school sucks' kid stuff.

OP, you're the worst.

More likely he got picked on and his mother said, "they're just jealous."

Still very weird for OP to be obsessing about this.

Why would a kid be picked on for transferring to a different school???

Happens everyday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why everyone is bashing the OP for a pretty typical DCUM post.

The kid sounds odd--but it sounds like his mom is definitely encouraging this line of thought.

Seriously? You don't understand why people would object to someone trying to whip up judgmental condemnation of her SIL by using her nephew as a pawn in that effort? You don't understand how it's fair to point out that when she points a finger at her nephew for being "odd" that three point back at her for making such a fuss about it? Seriously? You really don't understand that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why everyone is bashing the OP for a pretty typical DCUM post.

The kid sounds odd--but it sounds like his mom is definitely encouraging this line of thought.

Because picking on a kid who's having a hard time is a bit much even for the hypermean DCUM crowd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why everyone is bashing the OP for a pretty typical DCUM post.

The kid sounds odd--but it sounds like his mom is definitely encouraging this line of thought.

First of all, it's OP who sounds odd to me.

I don't doubt some of his old classmates expressed 'jealousy' (Boy, you're lucky! Wish it were me! I hate being at X School!). OP's probably jealous she can't and won't ever be able to afford to send her kids private. Probably always wanted to send her future kids to Montessori. Now they're here and she realizes she can't. But don't take that out on your nephew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why everyone is bashing the OP for a pretty typical DCUM post.

The kid sounds odd--but it sounds like his mom is definitely encouraging this line of thought.

Because picking on a kid who's having a hard time is a bit much even for the hypermean DCUM crowd.

Who says the kid us having a hard time? Boy you guys really ran with that one line.

OP said he had a problem at his old school. We don't know if it was academic, social, etc. I didn't assume the worst about the kid when I read that line. Lots of school kids-if not ALL-have a struggle of some sort in school.

[Anonymous]

What's really odd to me is that OP thinks an 11 year old wouldn't understand the concept of jealousy (and that kids that age don't actually exhibit or express jealousy). Hell, we worry about jealousy from 3 year olds when a newborn comes into the picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why everyone is bashing the OP for a pretty typical DCUM post.

The kid sounds odd--but it sounds like his mom is definitely encouraging this line of thought.

Because picking on a kid who's having a hard time is a bit much even for the hypermean DCUM crowd.

Who says the kid us having a hard time? Boy you guys really ran with that one line.

OP said he had a problem at his old school. We don't know if it was academic, social, etc. I didn't assume the worst about the kid when I read that line. Lots of school kids-if not ALL-have a struggle of some sort in school.

Switching schools midyear is pretty hard no matter what happened at the old school. I'd cut the kid a break -- I think the real problem here is that the OP dislikes the mom and is therefore looking for stuff wrong with the kid. Not pretty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the normal world maybe but not for this forum.

Every bit of criticism on this forum is met with comments that the person who disagrees with you is "jealous" or "bitter."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You know it's odd. Don't come on an anonymous forum to ask strangers to join in trashing your nephew and his mother OP.

Amen. But I would say it isn't odd. The kid took a huge blow to his ego, he is ten, and has concocted what he thinks is a face-saving story to use with the family.

Why can't you just let your poor nephew alone? I am sure he is no gem, but he clearly had a hard time.

Yes, this, but you know what I think is really odd? That you OP, an adult, did not just engage your nephew in conversation about it if it struck you as so odd. Why in the world didn't you say something like "That's interesting, what makes you think they're jealous?" and listen to his answer?

I completely agree that this is the story that he has created to help him deal with whatever led to him being ousted from his last school. And I'll go further and say it's highly likely that whatever problems he had, he mainly has because his parents aren't focusing on the right things (can't you see a child who would conclude that his former peers are jealous of him at a private Montessori also being the kind of mom who would argue with school staff that it was never her son's fault and never take responsibility?).

Lastly, what 10 yr old who doesn't go to Montessori even knows what a Montessori school is? Yeah, clearly the child is making this up, but as an adult in his life you should maybe take a more productive approach and engage him in healthy conversation about it. Something that maybe his parents aren't doing? Instead of coming here to kinda trash him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understood the concept of jealousy at 11. Then again, I'm female and girls become quite petty early on.

But I can't help but wonder if a few of his friends said, 'Man, I'm so jealous! You're lucky to be leaving this crummy school! And you're going to Montessori???
How cool!!!'

I can remember my son's 3rd grade friends telling him he was so lucky and they were so jealous he was being pulled out of school for a week+ to go abroad.

When he recounted this, it didn't seem weird. Seemed like typical 'my school sucks' kid stuff.

OP, you're the worst.

More likely he got picked on and his mother said, "they're just jealous."

Still very weird for OP to be obsessing about this.

Why would a kid be picked on for transferring to a different school???

Happens everyday.

Sometimes the cluelessness of some DCUM parents is truly astonishing. You're not even trying to use common sense to answer your own question, are you. Hmm, can't imagine why students either at the previous school or new school would pick on someone if they found out he was transferred for something bad that happened? You need to get out more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understood the concept of jealousy at 11. Then again, I'm female and girls become quite petty early on.

But I can't help but wonder if a few of his friends said, 'Man, I'm so jealous! You're lucky to be leaving this crummy school! And you're going to Montessori???
How cool!!!'

I can remember my son's 3rd grade friends telling him he was so lucky and they were so jealous he was being pulled out of school for a week+ to go abroad.

When he recounted this, it didn't seem weird. Seemed like typical 'my school sucks' kid stuff.

OP, you're the worst.

More likely he got picked on and his mother said, "they're just jealous."

Still very weird for OP to be obsessing about this.

Why would a kid be picked on for transferring to a different school???

Happens everyday.

Sometimes the cluelessness of some DCUM parents is truly astonishing. You're not even trying to use common sense to answer your own question, are you. Hmm, can't imagine why students either at the previous school or new school would pick on someone if they found out he was transferred for something bad that happened? You need to get out more.

Boy you make lots of ASSumptions. Know what that makes you?

First, you assume he transferred because something big, bad and spooky happened.

Then, you assume students found out about this big, spooky, still unknown reason.

Clearly, I've been a parent and teacher much longer than your dumb ass has had commonsense. Kids transfer all the time and not one kid blinks. They're too busy trying to maintain their own pre-adolescent lives.

You're an idiot for sure.