That's why the victim making excuses for the abuser is so obvious. |
| Get to a safe place and plan an exit strategy. Her behavior is not okay. You deserve to feel safe in your home. |
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Yikes!!
You are living w/a mental unstable woman who sounds too unstable to even be raising a child to me. I would definitely leave the home + try to get custody of my child. She sounds nuts. However, if you did something to make her this crazy (cheated on her, for example), then I would still leave her house, but let her keep the kid. |
| Are you the guy with the 16 yo DD who comes here all the time to complain about his crazy wife? Sheesh - divorce her already. |
Why is it her house? And, no I did not cheat on her. I just refuse to bend to her will and give her "what she wants." |
| She made the throat slitting no comment when I told her by law the house snd all our other assets are marital property and that I would gladly leave provided I have a property settlement and custody arrangement in hand. |
lololol |
+1 |
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I'm sorry this is happening, OP. Your wife is mentally unstable and needs treatment. You need a safe place, and your child needs to be safe. Call the police if your wife has stolen your things. Get out in any way you can, but do not leave the child with her if she is so unhealthy. |
Adultery is not justification for a threat to "slit your throat." Unless OP is threatening to kill people, there's no reason his wife should be threatening to slit her throat. Lots of women on here making excuses and justifications for a woman making death threats (re-read page 1). If the genders were reversed, would a single, solitary soul be saying anything *OTHER* that DTMFA? |
| If she's threatening to kill you, you must kill her first. |
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OP, you post here a lot. I have sympathy for you, but the advice is always the same here: Leave the relationship. End it. Divorce.
When you choose not to do this, and you stay, and you post again and again about the same types of fights, it seems to me that you and she take turns being verbally abusive to each other. Have you considered the support group Coda? (Codependent No More). You and your spouse can't seem to end a co-dependent relationship. |