Guy Who is 4 Years Younger Than Me is Acting Weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you'll be fine with guys your age or a year or two older. Even younger isn't necessarily bad but in this case, with this guy, it won't work. Leave him, sooner than later.

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[Anonymous]

But it's nice to be wanted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP needs a man to fuck her silly this weekend. Not a boy.

+1

Try dating a man that is slightly older than you, who is mature, has a career and will appreciate you. You want a man to treat you like a lady, not like an older sister

OP here. I've actually not really dated older than me for a couple years, and even then the oldest I've dated is one year older. I dont really like when a guy tries to act like a "man" and call all the shots.. it's not a turn on for me. If anything I like to call the shots, which is why same age or younger has always worked for me. But I'm really shocked and turned off by this immaturity here. It just seems so... childish. I guess I would be open to dating older, so long as he was respectful

OP, frankly, you sound rather immature yourself. Predicting here that you will go through many more guys before you find The One, so just enjoy. If you like spending time with him, do so. If and when you don't, move on. I guarantee you this is not a permanent relationship that you are currently in.

Oh no, it's not permanent. To be frank, I'm not really looking for a boyfriend, per se, or thinking super long term about these things. And certainly not with him. I was really turned off by his rudeness to me and haven't responded to his messages since this incident (other than the "dude..." text I sent back), but I wanted to get DCUM's confirm that he's a jerk.

He sounds a little bit immature, but you honestly sound a bit in your own head.

[Anonymous]

OP, a guy who is a few years older (like 5-10 years) is not going to necessarily be bossier than a 22 year old. A lot of young guys have titanic egos before they are humbled by life.

[Anonymous]

He's an immature idiot, OP. Dump him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's an immature idiot, OP. Dump him.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP needs a man to fuck her silly this weekend. Not a boy.

You sound pretty crude and immature yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP needs a man to fuck her silly this weekend. Not a boy.

You sound pretty crude and immature yourself.

x2. It always amuses me when some young girl comes on to talk about relationship problems and an older creeper uses it as an opportunity to try to hit on her. Like, what do they think this is? Tinder?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, a guy who is a few years older (like 5-10 years) is not going to necessarily be bossier than a 22 year old. A lot of young guys have titanic egos before they are humbled by life.

You are right about that. I will have to be more open.

[Anonymous]

Try dating guys a few years older. They are more mature, don't have young guy drama, attitudes, insecurity. They are nicer, have more experience with sex, which is incredible. Guys who have their shit together are amazing.

[Anonymous]

If he is constantly bringing up the age issue, then it really is bothering him.

A 22 yr. old guy is still very very immature while a 26 yr. old gal is a lot higher up on the maturity ladder in my opinion.

First women mature quicker than men and second, people usually don't start to take life too seriously until their mid-twenties anyway.

If I were you, I would just date someone older.

Because the line that he gave you seriously sounds like it came from a middle-schooler.

[Anonymous]

22 year old guys are much more immature than women the same age. It's just how it is. Guys who are 28-30 will see you as more of an equal.

If you're not looking for a boyfriend, what the hell are you looking for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP needs a man to fuck her silly this weekend. Not a boy.

+1

Try dating a man that is slightly older than you, who is mature, has a career and will appreciate you. You want a man to treat you like a lady, not like an older sister

OP here. I've actually not really dated older than me for a couple years, and even then the oldest I've dated is one year older. I dont really like when a guy tries to act like a "man" and call all the shots.. it's not a turn on for me. If anything I like to call the shots, which is why same age or younger has always worked for me. But I'm really shocked and turned off by this immaturity here. It just seems so... childish. I guess I would be open to dating older, so long as he was respectful

OP, frankly, you sound rather immature yourself. Predicting here that you will go through many more guys before you find The One, so just enjoy. If you like spending time with him, do so. If and when you don't, move on. I guarantee you this is not a permanent relationship that you are currently in.

Oh no, it's not permanent. To be frank, I'm not really looking for a boyfriend, per se, or thinking super long term about these things. And certainly not with him. I was really turned off by his rudeness to me and haven't responded to his messages since this incident (other than the "dude..." text I sent back), but I wanted to get DCUM's confirm that he's a jerk.

Old DCUMers know that emails and texts often come across unintentionally as rude because you can't always get the nuance.

My guess would be he's joking around and kind of immature, or at worst trying to make you think the clock is ticking for you so you'll want to give it up if you ever hook up in person.

But, then, you don't seem to have much invested in the "relationship," nor do I have much invested in this thread, so we can all go on to something else, right?

[Anonymous]

OP is ignoring texts from him vs talking about the issue? Sounds to me like she isn't all that mature herself.