MIL: would you rather?

[Anonymous]

Would your DH take time off if you traveled to his mother? If so, make him take that same amount of time off when she's here. And yes, schedule time you need to do your own thing and line up help with your DS and get it done.

I wouldn't want to spend 3 days in a freezing climate packed into a house with my in-laws. No way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would your DH take time off if you traveled to his mother? If so, make him take that same amount of time off when she's here. And yes, schedule time you need to do your own thing and line up help with your DS and get it done.

I wouldn't want to spend 3 days in a freezing climate packed into a house with my in-laws. No way.

That exactly.

[Anonymous]

Option Three: Tell MIL she can only come for 3 days (or your choice of time length). If that upsets her, then she can also not come at all and save her money.

Don't lie to her and say that you have some non-negotiable thing. She might ask a million questions about why she can't come. The bottom line is it's your house and you get to decide who can/can't come and for how long, and what dates are best for you.

[Anonymous]

Update. She is coming here for 4 nights. 2 of them fall over a weekend and DH's work is closed for one of the non-weekend days. I think this is a best case scenario. Hopefully I'm right.

-OP

[Anonymous]

Mm..fly in late, stay at the Ritz, go to the spa. Send hubby with regrets that you sick.

Live happily ever!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update. She is coming here for 4 nights. 2 of them fall over a weekend and DH's work is closed for one of the non-weekend days. I think this is a best case scenario. Hopefully I'm right.

-OP

Sounds good. It'll be fine. Be sure to make yourself scarce for some of that time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Easy, but we don't get along. At all. Fly and see her for three nights. It's two days that I get back, plus she's not in my space messing things up and giving me the stank eye. Finally let her cook and host and I can relax take walks and feel like I don't have to entertain all day long.

+1

THIS.

[Anonymous]

That's a tough one but I guess I would go with five nights at my house. That way I am on my own turf and can keep some semblance of an upper hand if need be. Plus I can find reasons to peel off periodically. Plus if those five night are during the week, I go to work.

[Anonymous]

Have her visit and make your DH take the week off. There, problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Come and stay for 5 nights. I can just ignore her half the time. But she doesn't bathe and fish and visitors smell in 3 days. Perhaps she would visit for shorter amounts of time in the future if it wasn't all that pleasant of a visit.