Of weddings you've been to, how many of the couples later divorced?
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Anonymous
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let's see ...
For my four cousins, I've been to six weddings, five of which ended in divorce. Everyone else, 19 weddings in total, three of which I know ended in divorce and one where I completely lost track of them and couldn't tell you whether they're together or not. |
Anonymous
| There are at least two where I'm stunned by the longevity. |
Anonymous
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Only one. Beautiful wedding. Touching ceremony, I totally cried. Found out later they were in counseling after 6 months, and divorced after 2 years. We were all young though, early 20's.
There was another friend's wedding that I predicted would end in a split, and now it's 10 years later and they're still going strong, so what do I know? |
Anonymous
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Of all the weddings I've been to (15), none have gotten divorced yet. I'm thinking that its too soon. I'm 37. Once we all get into our 40's I think that's when the mid-life crisis stuff hits. One of my good friends was planning on divorcing her cheating sleazebag husband, but she decided to stay with him. Not sure how that will turn out in the end. I honestly have a hard time believing he won't do it again in the future -but I'm not sure she would leave him anyway.
My marriage has been through a lot. I would say we have had to deal with a lot more shit than most of my friends (outside of the one with the cheating husband) we've had job loss for both of us, special needs child, moving several times, short selling a home)....and we are still together, but I often think of throwing in the towel. This is going to sound bad, but a big reason I don't want to (other than for the sake of my child) is that I do not want to be that THAT person out of all of our friends who failed in their marriage. Certainly many other reasons to try to stick it out, but that comes to my mind a lot. People already are probably talking behind my back about "poor Larla"...doesn't her life suck?....I really don't need it to get worse. |
Anonymous
| I haven't been to that many weddings, but the one where the couple divorced in less than a year was the one where the couple wrote their own super sappy vows declaring the perfection of their love. |
Anonymous
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Ten formal weddings, one divorce. Yes, I saw it coming. They were in love but not mature enough to handle all the stress.
Did not make it to the five shot-gun weddings that my friends had (they were in a hurry). Four out of five divorced. |
Anonymous
So the friends got pregnant and then married? |
Anonymous
| None. I am 35. I know 4 divorced couples/friends. |
Anonymous
| None. I'm 39, attended about 20 weddings. Don't know whether it because we are relatively young, or a lucky bunch. |
Anonymous
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I'm 28, 1 wedding so far (out of 10ish?) ended in divorce. Saw it coming from a million miles away. It was DH's best friend, and we all tried to warn him, gently. His sister came flat out and said don't do it. He was love struck though. They got married, within the year she cheated and left him.
There is one other I can think of that I don't have high hopes for, but it only occurred a few months ago. They are both extremely argumentative and strong personalities who fought like cats and dogs while dating. We'll see. Hope for the best for them, but I won't be surprised if it doesn't last. |
Anonymous
saw the same. Two very good people who couldn't make it work. |
Anonymous
| I think 5 so far. My uncle (twice), cousin, brother, and a shotgun friend. I could have guessed all of them except my cousin, but they still have a great relationship, just not married. I have many other friends that have gotten divorced, I just didn't go to their weddings. I'm 37. |
Anonymous
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None. Not even from ones I attended as a young child.
I've been to probably 30 weddings over the years. My peer group started getting married 9 years ago and are thankfully mostly all married now because it was years of what felt like endless weddings! |
Anonymous
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I always think this is an interesting question. I'm 33 and have been to around 15 or so weddings as an adult. Of those, two couples are divorced/divorcing.
The first couple I hardly knew (wife was a grad school classmate but we didn't stay in touch), but I was surprised they divorced. The wife was probably pretty young at the time of the wedding, though, maybe 22 or 23, and they moved way out into the boonies afterwards. When I saw her by chance after the divorce, she mentioned that she had hated living so far out and it also sounded like her husband hadn't treated her very well. Second couple I know much better (husband is good friend of my DH). They were a questionable match from the start for many reasons (age difference, very different career goals, and not much affection on husband's part--or so it seemed to me). They are divorcing after just a year and I admit that while I questioned whether the marriage would last, I was surprised it ended so soon. I guess I had thought that since they had decided to marry in spite of all the issues, that they were going to try and make it work. In general, almost no one in my social circle is divorced except for friend mentioned above. Most of our friends married in their late 20s/early 30s and have only been together for a few years, just starting to have children. There is one couple that is clearly unhappy already but most others seem to be doing well. |
Anonymous
| Lemme think...six. One was a total shock, two were a surprise but not a shock, and three weren't a surprise at all. |