DH likes me less than others like me, but more than he likes others

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand what you are saying. Who are "others"? Women? Family?

Friends, acquaintances, the other men I dated seriously, etc.

I thought, I prefer him, he prefers me, done. I didn't focus on the fact that I was an A to my prior boyfriends and a B to him, even if his prior best was a B-

What do I do now? Children and love still there.

You put the wine down and relax.

Wine might help me relax. None thus far tonight. Weird assumption?

Inference bring that you're incoherent.

[Anonymous]

OK, I'll bite.

I think it's kind of flattering that your husband likes you better than he likes most people. I would hope so, or he hopefully wouldn't have married you. I've dated guys like this - they were kind of unemotional by nature. I wouldn't necessarily call them sociopaths, but they were only capable of so much emotion - less than other people.

Other people are capable of feeling more deeply than your husband is, so they are capable of liking you more.

He's limited. So, what are you going to do with this? How much does it bother you? It would bug me.

[Anonymous]

Does it matter? He's with you.

Does he not treat you well? Is he cheating?

[Anonymous]

Eek...Give me a sec to wrap my head around what this might mean here....

[Anonymous]

You married him and I don't think this is really a surprise. Some people are not very rah-rah, but that doesn't mean their feelings aren't genuine. Is he loyal and accepting?

Those are the types of qualities that matter. Love isn't a Hollywood movie. The other ppl that like you, well who's to say they aren't fake. Lots of people can make you feel like you matter when they meet up with you for coffee, but what matters is who is there for you day in and day.

[Anonymous]

Is he hypercritical? depressed?