Doing the M: DS vs. DD?

[Anonymous]

Quizzing your child (either sex) about the frequency of their masturbation waayyyy crosses the line. Have some boundaries, please! It's enough to just respect their privacy and make sure they have all the information they need, and maybe to talk about gender inequities ("he's a stud, she's a slut") in general terms. You can convey a positive, open attitude without getting so creepy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quizzing your child (either sex) about the frequency of their masturbation waayyyy crosses the line. Have some boundaries, please! It's enough to just respect their privacy and make sure they have all the information they need, and maybe to talk about gender inequities ("he's a stud, she's a slut") in general terms. You can convey a positive, open attitude without getting so creepy.

This has nothing to do with quizzing and just about everything to do with mother:daughter communication and how it might differ than mother:son communication. Communication also includes verbal and non-verbal methods of consent or disapproval that no matter how subtle or perhaps insignificant to the mother could grossly impact the daughter (or son) and her ability to shamelessly express her sexuality as she knows it.

[Anonymous]

When my DD was a preschooler and touched herself, I basically just said, "Sweetie, it's okay to do that, but it's only for private, just for you, so wait until you're alone." (And I reminder her to wash her hands after. ) When they were younger and checking themselves out in the bathtub, I told them the names of their parts. Older is now 7, younger is 3. We have books and so forth that they can refer to (the older can do this already--she's a very good reader)... other than that, I'll take the conversation and discussion about masturbating as it comes. But it's not a very high-priority topic right now at tis age. The information they have right now seems to be sufficient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Quizzing your child (either sex) about the frequency of their masturbation waayyyy crosses the line. Have some boundaries, please! It's enough to just respect their privacy and make sure they have all the information they need, and maybe to talk about gender inequities ("he's a stud, she's a slut") in general terms. You can convey a positive, open attitude without getting so creepy.

This has nothing to do with quizzing and just about everything to do with mother:daughter communication and how it might differ than mother:son communication. Communication also includes verbal and non-verbal methods of consent or disapproval that no matter how subtle or perhaps insignificant to the mother could grossly impact the daughter (or son) and her ability to shamelessly express her sexuality as she knows it.

OK well I think you're way overstepping to think that a parent has to give "consent" to masturbation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do people really say "Doing the Masturbation"? Is that a term?

Lol. I hope not!

Sounds like a dance. . . Didn't Billy Idol have a song about this?

"the Masturbation" is like those other DCUM favorites, "the poors" and "the gays."