Same ring?

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[Post New]10/09/2014 20:18
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You need a new ring. The diamond should be a minimum
of 50% larger than the first ring.


hi gold digger - where you been?
[Post New]10/09/2014 20:21
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Anonymous
How about having the old ring refashioned into a new ring by an artisan?
Or you can have it made into an A for adulterer pin or tie tack?
[Post New]10/09/2014 20:26
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Anonymous
How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?
[Post New]10/09/2014 20:29
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Anonymous

OP is probably the type of woman who likes the idea of a push gift.
[Post New]10/09/2014 20:51
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Anonymous
OP are you the one whose husband got invited to a wedding and you didn't?
[Post New]10/09/2014 20:55
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?


OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.
[Post New]10/09/2014 22:26
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?


OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.


+1
[Post New]10/09/2014 22:30
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?


OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.


Put down your glasses of chardonnay.

A ring is a symbol of marriage and fidelity. A new ring represents a new beginning. It's not a trinket.
[Post New]10/09/2014 22:30
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Anonymous
Op, if looking at the ring reminds you of the betrayal, and your DH is on board, and finances are not a concern - go for it. Or reset the stone or whatever feels right. There are no guidelines for this.
[Post New]10/09/2014 22:44
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?


OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.


Put down your glasses of chardonnay.

A ring is a symbol of marriage and fidelity. A new ring represents a new beginning. It's not a trinket.


Heh. I didn't have a glass of Chardonnay when I posted that but I do have one now. If it were me, the original ring would remind me of getting married, and a new ring would remind me of the infidelity. But as PP said, do what you both agree to because there are no rules.
[Post New]10/09/2014 23:37
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?


OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.


Put down your glasses of chardonnay.

A ring is a symbol of marriage and fidelity. A new ring represents a new beginning. It's not a trinket.


Heh. I didn't have a glass of Chardonnay when I posted that but I do have one now. If it were me, the original ring would remind me of getting married, and a new ring would remind me of the infidelity. But as PP said, do what you both agree to because there are no rules.


+1

I would keep the old ring and focus on your relationship working. The old ring is about getting you back to where you were and the vows you made.
[Post New]10/10/2014 00:25
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Op, if looking at the ring reminds you of the betrayal, and your DH is on board, and finances are not a concern - go for it. Or reset the stone or whatever feels right. There are no guidelines for this.


THIS. Whatever you two want to do/will make you feel best is what you should do.
[Post New]10/10/2014 08:49
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You need a new ring. The diamond should be a minimum
of 50% larger than the first ring.


hi gold digger - where you been?


Hi. I'm a dude. I've been at work.
[Post New]10/10/2014 17:09
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Anonymous
It would depend a lot on our finances at the moment.

And the value of our current rings.

As an act of goodwill on your husband's part, it would be nice of him to trade your ring or sell it, then get you another one so you won't have to be reminded of any lingering pain.

Again, if the current one is of considerable value or if your finances are not very good right now, then something like that can wait. Unless it is a huge priority for YOU right now.
[Post New]10/10/2014 17:09
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Anonymous
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