Father wants me (single/unwed) to change child's last name...Can he ? Will the court grant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you solve the problem of giving the child both last names. Do two separate last names, no hyphen and the child can drop on later on or choose to use just one right now. There is nothing wrong with your last name. Traditionally kids get their father's name. Nice is child has both names. If he is paying child support and on the birth certificate and having visits, it is nice to also make this about him too, and for some people the name is important. Just like the name is important to you, it is to him. So, you do Larla Eliza Johnson Smith. Simple.

At this point this is a dumb idea. Tell him you're happy to discuss when he has been around for 3 years. I plan on letting my child decide at 21. But ex shares a name with a Nazi. Literally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it.

I agree. What if you changed your child's last name and then his father is an absent one again? don't change to the father's last name

Absent or not, he still is the child's father. This is about the child, not parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you solve the problem of giving the child both last names. Do two separate last names, no hyphen and the child can drop on later on or choose to use just one right now. There is nothing wrong with your last name. Traditionally kids get their father's name. Nice is child has both names. If he is paying child support and on the birth certificate and having visits, it is nice to also make this about him too, and for some people the name is important. Just like the name is important to you, it is to him. So, you do Larla Eliza Johnson Smith. Simple.

New PP here. This guy is an ass! It's unlikely he will be around next year. Why would you consider telling OP to do this?

[Anonymous]

He just wants child to have his last name.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He just wants child to have his last name.....

But not to be an actual father. He should put up at least the next 3 years or shut up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it.

I agree. What if you changed your child's last name and then his father is an absent one again? don't change to the father's last name

Absent or not, he still is the child's father. This is about the child, not parents.

Actually, she had to have a court force him to accept Biological Data connection. He is technically 99.98% NOT excluded as related to the child.... Not so neat is it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He just wants child to have his last name.....

I agree. If you agree he is the father (and you obviously do given your history together), why not do this....?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He just wants child to have his last name.....

I agree. If you agree he is the father (and you obviously do given your history together), why not do this....?

did you read the rest of the answers? Are you a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it.

I agree. What if you changed your child's last name and then his father is an absent one again? don't change to the father's last name

Absent or not, he still is the child's father. This is about the child, not parents.

Actually, she had to have a court force him to accept Biological Data connection. He is technically 99.98% NOT excluded as related to the child.... Not so neat is it.

Oh, it's you again. Take your Maury Show problems elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it.

I agree. What if you changed your child's last name and then his father is an absent one again? don't change to the father's last name

Absent or not, he still is the child's father. This is about the child, not parents.

Actually, she had to have a court force him to accept Biological Data connection. He is technically 99.98% NOT excluded as related to the child.... Not so neat is it.

Oh, it's you again. Take your Maury Show problems elsewhere.

Ha ha there are more than 1 of us. You know why? Some men suck. Sorry trolly polly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absent father the first 3 years of my son's life keeps pressuring me to change the child's last name (my last name) to his. We have been through Montgomery County Courts and establish paternity... added his name to birth certificate ... set visitation which commenced a month ago..... and child support. I'd like to share the same last name with my son. I've told him his name is now on the birth certificate and he has now the opportunity to have the relationship... why change the last name ..what's wrong with mine...doesn't come to doctor's appointments.. sports... I have a feeling he will take this to court... Does anyone have experience with a matter like this in court? What is the courts/judges position. He left me when I told him I was pregnant after 4 years... then in court 3 years later states on paper he is a good married man father of 3.

I'd like to hear from anyone who has suggestions on how to support my son keeping my last name...anyone with the experience in court...
Should I give in.?

Good married father of 3... From different women. Yes, definitely father of the year

[Anonymous]

Court won't force it, and I wouldn't change it if I were you. Your child can make the decision to take his name when he's old enough. A name doesn't make a relationship, and your son's father should be focused on earning that role in his child's life rather than bullying people into it.

[Anonymous]

OP I find it hard to believe he could win. But if my ex did this? I'd just go ahead and change MY name to still match my kid's!

[Anonymous]

Actions speak louder than words. He was absent for the first 3 years of his child's life. Now he's back and wants you to change the kid's last name to his? No way. You are under no obligation to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absent father the first 3 years of my son's life keeps pressuring me to change the child's last name (my last name) to his. We have been through Montgomery County Courts and establish paternity... added his name to birth certificate ... set visitation which commenced a month ago..... and child support. I'd like to share the same last name with my son. I've told him his name is now on the birth certificate and he has now the opportunity to have the relationship... why change the last name ..what's wrong with mine...doesn't come to doctor's appointments.. sports... I have a feeling he will take this to court... Does anyone have experience with a matter like this in court? What is the courts/judges position. He left me when I told him I was pregnant after 4 years... then in court 3 years later states on paper he is a good married man father of 3.

I'd like to hear from anyone who has suggestions on how to support my son keeping my last name...anyone with the experience in court...
Should I give in.?[/quote]

No, don't give in.