Relationship with Former Coworker

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have any respect for your current partner? It doesn't sound like it. You should end one relationship before you start another. Yes, you're taking a risk that it won't work out with your colleague and then you'll be alone, but it's completely unfair to your current partner to keep them in the wings while you test out someone else. Why are you with someone you clearly don't give a f-k about?

For gosh sake, please clam down I asked what you would do. I haven't done anything but am weighing my options. That I'm being thoughtful about this and haven't done anything with my coworker means I do respect my partner.

If you really respected your partner you wouldn't be posting here asking about this.
You would know that it's disrespectful to your partner to pursue someone else while you keep them in the wings...period.
But the fact that you are considering this tells me you are not fulfilled in your current relationship.

Sure I would still wonder EVEN IF I was totally in love. That's life and human nature. The key is in the action. Otherwise my mind and heart are my own.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you loooove male attention, playing the game.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If neither of you are married or dating anyone else. Absolutely go on a date and see where it goes.

That's the problem, we're now both dating other people. Is it worth all the break ups to see where it goes?

Only you two can decide that, unfortunately. It's a risk, for sure, and there's a chance you'll regret taking it, and a chance you'll regret not taking it.

I'd venture to guess that either you aren't actually in love with your current partners, or if you are, you've been having problems lately, and that's why you're contemplating leaving them for each other. If you are truly in love with your current partner, I'd try to work that out first. If you aren't in love with your current guy, and these feelings for the coworker are still there after 2 years, that probably means something. In that case, I'd end things with the current partners and give it a try.

One question that wasn't clear from your post though - is the former coworker actually suggesting you both break up your current relationships and start something? I know that's how you're seeing it, obviously, but is he possibly suggesting some kind of on-the-side/cheating arrangement? I'd be very sure which it was he wanted before I went any further.