Initiating sex for the first time with someone new

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cocktails. If he can't get it going, I would say something isn't right.

OP here. We quit drinking together as part of a healthier lifestyle and also work out together. That may be part of the issue, we are used to getting drunk before sleeping with somebody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Touch him outside his pants. Is he hard? Enjoy the way he feels in your hand. Tell him that you like it. Tell him you want him. Then go. Not rocket science. Don't turn it into drama. You are a grown up and it's sex.

Some guys need more foreplay than that.

What if he isn't hard?
What if he is hard purely because of the physical stimulation but isn't mentally aroused?

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should work out together and then initiate a shower together.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should work out together and then initiate a shower together.....

OP here. I like this idea!

[Anonymous]

Well?

[Anonymous]

Well instead of TALKING about doing it, how about some action instead?

Since you like him so much, I can understand that nerves can be a huge factor. Would a little wine help?

The next time you are both alone at his or your place, snuggle up to him + while kissing, try moving your hand down and stroking his manhood.

Then let things progress organically from there.

In other words, let nature take its course.

Try not to overthink anything and also not to strategize anything either. This can be catastrophic when it comes to sex.

Good luck and have fun tonight!

[Anonymous]

OP here. We stayed up late and ended up waking up around 10, so I took advantage of the fact we couldn't get our morning workout in, but we could still do some cardio it was a good morning!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We stayed up late and ended up waking up around 10, so I took advantage of the fact we couldn't get our morning workout in, but we could still do some cardio it was a good morning!

Do neither of you work?
Are you in recovery?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We stayed up late and ended up waking up around 10, so I took advantage of the fact we couldn't get our morning workout in, but we could still do some cardio it was a good morning!

Do neither of you work?
Are you in recovery?

We both work, but I go in at 3pm and he goes in between 5-6pm. We are not in recovery per se, we both were college athletes that lost it once we entered the real world and are trying to get back to someplace we are comfortable now that we have the rhythm down in the rest of our lives.

[Anonymous]

This is fake.