If you got pregnant while cosleeping/nursing...

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I don't have any snark - what works for you works for you. But I appreciate the people who answered the question about logistics because I was genuinely curious.

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Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant while co-sleeping/nursing. Had sex on couch after DDs first bday party. Weaned as soon as I realized I was pregnant. Co-slept entire pregnancy. When #2 was born he was in the co-sleeper to my left and DD continued to sleep on my right. She gradually transitioned to a mattress on the floor and then her room. By the time he was too big for the co-sleeper she was on the mattress on the floor and he came into the bed. Now they are 4 and 2 and occasionally both sleep with me. Love those cuddly nights but also love the nights when they are in their own beds. It was tricky at times but worked out. I have no regrets and my kids don't have attachment issues.

op here. haha, my LMP date will be DS's birthday if I get pregnant this cycle. a few Qs for you:
how big is your bed?
how did you wean?
where was your husband in all this? Mine is very AP (much more so than me) and pro-BFing and cosleeping, but he does miss having space in bed and doesn't deal well with sleep disruptions. Maybe I should just get a king bed

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have any snark - what works for you works for you. But I appreciate the people who answered the question about logistics because I was genuinely curious.

+1. I was the PP of the logistics question and genuinely appreciate the responses. Whatever works for you!

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Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant while co-sleeping/nursing. Had sex on couch after DDs first bday party. Weaned as soon as I realized I was pregnant. Co-slept entire pregnancy. When #2 was born he was in the co-sleeper to my left and DD continued to sleep on my right. She gradually transitioned to a mattress on the floor and then her room. By the time he was too big for the co-sleeper she was on the mattress on the floor and he came into the bed. Now they are 4 and 2 and occasionally both sleep with me. Love those cuddly nights but also love the nights when they are in their own beds. It was tricky at times but worked out. I have no regrets and my kids don't have attachment issues.

op here. haha, my LMP date will be DS's birthday if I get pregnant this cycle. a few Qs for you:
how big is your bed?
how did you wean?
where was your husband in all this? Mine is very AP (much more so than me) and pro-BFing and cosleeping, but he does miss having space in bed and doesn't deal well with sleep disruptions. Maybe I should just get a king bed

we got a king bed and it. is. AWESOME. so much room. it is worth every cent. I loooove cosleeping now. before it was just a matter of making it work with the baby, but now it's so cuddly, yet there's all that SPACE! mine's 13 mo. not weaned yet. push the king bed up against the wall and stuff cushions in between so there's no gap and you're good to go. so comfy.

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Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant while co-sleeping/nursing. Had sex on couch after DDs first bday party. Weaned as soon as I realized I was pregnant. Co-slept entire pregnancy. When #2 was born he was in the co-sleeper to my left and DD continued to sleep on my right. She gradually transitioned to a mattress on the floor and then her room. By the time he was too big for the co-sleeper she was on the mattress on the floor and he came into the bed. Now they are 4 and 2 and occasionally both sleep with me. Love those cuddly nights but also love the nights when they are in their own beds. It was tricky at times but worked out. I have no regrets and my kids don't have attachment issues.

op here. haha, my LMP date will be DS's birthday if I get pregnant this cycle. a few Qs for you:
how big is your bed?
how did you wean?
where was your husband in all this? Mine is very AP (much more so than me) and pro-BFing and cosleeping, but he does miss having space in bed and doesn't deal well with sleep disruptions. Maybe I should just get a king bed

We have a king bed.
Weaning was easy with DD- I just always had a bottle ready and made sure the milk was warm. Got lucky there. My DS is still nursing at age 2.5. Not sure how/when he will wean but he's our last so I'm not too worried.
My husband often goes to the guest room and it's working for us. He misses time in the bed sometimes but once the kids are asleep I'll go hang out with him in the guest room. He is very pro-nursing and co sleeping so it's fine. We both realize it's temporary. Funny - we never really thought of ourselves as "attachment parenting" types but we are just doing what feels natural and loving and it's turning out to very Dr. Sears-ish

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Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant while co-sleeping/nursing. Had sex on couch after DDs first bday party. Weaned as soon as I realized I was pregnant. Co-slept entire pregnancy. When #2 was born he was in the co-sleeper to my left and DD continued to sleep on my right. She gradually transitioned to a mattress on the floor and then her room. By the time he was too big for the co-sleeper she was on the mattress on the floor and he came into the bed. Now they are 4 and 2 and occasionally both sleep with me. Love those cuddly nights but also love the nights when they are in their own beds. It was tricky at times but worked out. I have no regrets and my kids don't have attachment issues.

op here. haha, my LMP date will be DS's birthday if I get pregnant this cycle. a few Qs for you:
how big is your bed?
how did you wean?
where was your husband in all this? Mine is very AP (much more so than me) and pro-BFing and cosleeping, but he does miss having space in bed and doesn't deal well with sleep disruptions. Maybe I should just get a king bed

Yes! Do it. It will make everyone so much more comfortable.

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Anonymous wrote:I got pregnant while co-sleeping/nursing. Had sex on couch after DDs first bday party. Weaned as soon as I realized I was pregnant. Co-slept entire pregnancy. When #2 was born he was in the co-sleeper to my left and DD continued to sleep on my right. She gradually transitioned to a mattress on the floor and then her room. By the time he was too big for the co-sleeper she was on the mattress on the floor and he came into the bed. Now they are 4 and 2 and occasionally both sleep with me. Love those cuddly nights but also love the nights when they are in their own beds. It was tricky at times but worked out. I have no regrets and my kids don't have attachment issues.

op here. haha, my LMP date will be DS's birthday if I get pregnant this cycle. a few Qs for you:
how big is your bed?
how did you wean?
where was your husband in all this? Mine is very AP (much more so than me) and pro-BFing and cosleeping, but he does miss having space in bed and doesn't deal well with sleep disruptions. Maybe I should just get a king bed

We have a king bed.
Weaning was easy with DD- I just always had a bottle ready and made sure the milk was warm. Got lucky there. My DS is still nursing at age 2.5. Not sure how/when he will wean but he's our last so I'm not too worried.
My husband often goes to the guest room and it's working for us. He misses time in the bed sometimes but once the kids are asleep I'll go hang out with him in the guest room. He is very pro-nursing and co sleeping so it's fine. We both realize it's temporary. Funny - we never really thought of ourselves as "attachment parenting" types but we are just doing what feels natural and loving and it's turning out to very Dr. Sears-ish

op here. yeah DH has no idea that's what he is but all his instincts are that way. It's cute to watch him be this super-crunchy parent. I have to say things like "you know, CIO is not actually child abuse. You should watch the company you say that in because it is a very controversial position."

You all have me rethinking my king bed stance. We did just buy a cheapo twin foam mattress for my mom to sleep on when she visits, she hates aerobeds, I wonder if we could put it next to the queen and be happy that way--is there any way to do that safely from a cosleeping POV?

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We got DS a queen bed. We would read him books on his bed until he fell asleep and then we moved to our bed. He is now 5 and he still crawls into our bed in the morning. I actually like cuddling with my kids in the morning before I go to work.

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op here. FYI, as a result of the other thread that was going at the same time as this one, we tried a sidecar crib this weekend and it was AWESOME. We're kicking ourselves for not doing it sooner.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have any snark - what works for you works for you. But I appreciate the people who answered the question about logistics because I was genuinely curious.

+1. I was the PP of the logistics question and genuinely appreciate the responses. Whatever works for you!

Agreed. I like knowing the logistics even if its 100% not for me- we are both toss/turn sleepers and we have a queen so I can't imagine it but hearing about the kind beds and side-cars makes sense.

I am excited for the day when LO will want to come snuggle up in bed for a movie or something on a rainy night- right now just a baby still!

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Anonymous wrote:I got pg while ttc and bf. We would sneak off in the night to try for #2. It worked, and I got pg. We did not transition dd #1 out of the bed, but we did transition in the baby when she came. So it was dh on one side, then dd#1 next to me (between dh and me), then me, and dd#2 on the side next to the bedrail. We had a king sized bed.

Well there was that one time when dd#1 was out like a light, and we ttc on the other side of the bed. She didn't seem to notice. All those people in developing countries do this don't they?

Wow -- what if she had woken up?? Wouldn't she have seen DH in you??

I don't know how old a kid you are imagining, PP, but my dd is 13 months and would have no idea what she was seeing even if she did wake up. It's like having sex in front of a pet. They don't give a damn, so why should you?

NP here and you are disgusting. WTF is wrong with you and your DH? You poor child...seriously!

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Anonymous wrote:I got pg while ttc and bf. We would sneak off in the night to try for #2. It worked, and I got pg. We did not transition dd #1 out of the bed, but we did transition in the baby when she came. So it was dh on one side, then dd#1 next to me (between dh and me), then me, and dd#2 on the side next to the bedrail. We had a king sized bed.

Well there was that one time when dd#1 was out like a light, and we ttc on the other side of the bed. She didn't seem to notice. All those people in developing countries do this don't they?

Wow -- what if she had woken up?? Wouldn't she have seen DH in you??

I don't know how old a kid you are imagining, PP, but my dd is 13 months and would have no idea what she was seeing even if she did wake up. It's like having sex in front of a pet. They don't give a damn, so why should you?

NP here and you are disgusting. WTF is wrong with you and your DH? You poor child...seriously!

Nothing is wrong with us. We know how the brain works and know that nothing an infant might see while waking up is capable of creating long-term trauma.

We are also naked in front of her pretty much every day. NAKED, PP! And she sucks on my nipples! All the time!!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I got pg while ttc and bf. We would sneak off in the night to try for #2. It worked, and I got pg. We did not transition dd #1 out of the bed, but we did transition in the baby when she came. So it was dh on one side, then dd#1 next to me (between dh and me), then me, and dd#2 on the side next to the bedrail. We had a king sized bed.

Well there was that one time when dd#1 was out like a light, and we ttc on the other side of the bed. She didn't seem to notice. All those people in developing countries do this don't they?

Wow -- what if she had woken up?? Wouldn't she have seen DH in you??

I don't know how old a kid you are imagining, PP, but my dd is 13 months and would have no idea what she was seeing even if she did wake up. It's like having sex in front of a pet. They don't give a damn, so why should you?

NP here and you are disgusting. WTF is wrong with you and your DH? You poor child...seriously!

Nothing is wrong with us. We know how the brain works and know that nothing an infant might see while waking up is capable of creating long-term trauma.

We are also naked in front of her pretty much every day. NAKED, PP! And she sucks on my nipples! All the time!!!!!!

Again, I feel terrible for your child. Seek some help lady.

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Anonymous wrote:I got pg while ttc and bf. We would sneak off in the night to try for #2. It worked, and I got pg. We did not transition dd #1 out of the bed, but we did transition in the baby when she came. So it was dh on one side, then dd#1 next to me (between dh and me), then me, and dd#2 on the side next to the bedrail. We had a king sized bed.

Well there was that one time when dd#1 was out like a light, and we ttc on the other side of the bed. She didn't seem to notice. All those people in developing countries do this don't they?

Wow -- what if she had woken up?? Wouldn't she have seen DH in you??

I don't know how old a kid you are imagining, PP, but my dd is 13 months and would have no idea what she was seeing even if she did wake up. It's like having sex in front of a pet. They don't give a damn, so why should you?

NP here and you are disgusting. WTF is wrong with you and your DH? You poor child...seriously!

Nothing is wrong with us. We know how the brain works and know that nothing an infant might see while waking up is capable of creating long-term trauma.

We are also naked in front of her pretty much every day. NAKED, PP! And she sucks on my nipples! All the time!!!!!!

Again, I feel terrible for your child. Seek some help lady.

Another NP. PP that say "feel terrible" or "disgusting", you are seeing this scene as adult way and that is where feeling is from. I agreed with poster, 13 month old will not remember or understand anything from seeing it, plus the room is dark enough for the kid to sleep so they will not see much. As long as mom is nearby to comfort when waking up, that kid is going to fall back to sleep soon and won't remember anything the next day or any time later. Nothing wrong with that PP.

Don't just put your adult's brain in all cases. You will never understand the kid's world if you do.

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Anonymous wrote:I got pg while ttc and bf. We would sneak off in the night to try for #2. It worked, and I got pg. We did not transition dd #1 out of the bed, but we did transition in the baby when she came. So it was dh on one side, then dd#1 next to me (between dh and me), then me, and dd#2 on the side next to the bedrail. We had a king sized bed.

Well there was that one time when dd#1 was out like a light, and we ttc on the other side of the bed. She didn't seem to notice. All those people in developing countries do this don't they?

Wow -- what if she had woken up?? Wouldn't she have seen DH in you??

I don't know how old a kid you are imagining, PP, but my dd is 13 months and would have no idea what she was seeing even if she did wake up. It's like having sex in front of a pet. They don't give a damn, so why should you?

NP here and you are disgusting. WTF is wrong with you and your DH? You poor child...seriously!

Nothing is wrong with us. We know how the brain works and know that nothing an infant might see while waking up is capable of creating long-term trauma.

We are also naked in front of her pretty much every day. NAKED, PP! And she sucks on my nipples! All the time!!!!!!

Again, I feel terrible for your child. Seek some help lady.

Another NP. PP that say "feel terrible" or "disgusting", you are seeing this scene as adult way and that is where feeling is from. I agreed with poster, 13 month old will not remember or understand anything from seeing it, plus the room is dark enough for the kid to sleep so they will not see much. As long as mom is nearby to comfort when waking up, that kid is going to fall back to sleep soon and won't remember anything the next day or any time later. Nothing wrong with that PP.

Don't just put your adult's brain in all cases. You will never understand the kid's world if you do.

I am not picturing this from my view or trying to say her child knows whats going on...obviously a baby does not.

I find this to be child abuse. The fact that grown ass adults cannot MOVE into another room to have sex when their child is next to them is horrendous. I could care less if you walk around naked etc., but there is nothing cute, funny, or normal about having sex next to your kid. No matter what age they are.

Please grow the fuck up and stop thinking this is acceptable. I find it to be child abuse and I am truly appalled at this behavior.