Anyone else grow up with a weird mom?
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dressed. not dresses. |
Anonymous
Never mind! Clearly this post has brought back the trauma and I can no longer type. Sigh. 
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Anonymous
| My mother was just ...odd. I could say something directly to her face and it wouldn't register; I might as well talk to a plant. Also, there didn't seem to be any block between her brain and her mouth. Whatever she thought, she said, regardless of how silly or hurtful it might be. |
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My mom as I now think was, and is, mentally ill - not terribly ill, but definitely disturbed. She has become a hoarder over the years, it started in my childhood and was getting worse and worse.
At the time I did not realize that her weirdness was part of her OCD or whatever her problem is. Like, she had doorbell dread and made me come out and lie to people that she is not home. I thought it was just mean of her - now I realize she is just sick. She made me wear truly ridiculous clothes and eat a ridiculous diet. I was always too hung up on food when I was in other people's houses or camps or wherever. She said she was trying to keep a healthy diet for all of us - in reality it was food prepared by the worst cook ever. Just so gross. She was a big believer in the "cold water is healthy for you" kind of thing, made us take cold baths up to age 14 or so, to strengthen our immune system. I don't know how much it helped me to stay healthy, but I am sure a bit too permissive re: food with my child. And he strengthens his immune system in the pool, I think that's enough. I am a bit hung up on food even now, at 38, and a bit overweight. I think she did look very weird to many, as did my father. I feel sorry for the kids with parents who seem even slightly weird, even though I realize they may be loving and kids may not even notice. |
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Wow, I clicked this thinking I'm a weird mom (and wanted to see if that drove kids of weird moms crazy), because I make up silly songs to sing to my kids to get them to laugh, make faces at them all the time, pretend to talk to their toys, etc.
A lot of the stories you guys have makes it sound like you have/had abusive or mentally ill moms, not just weird. I am so sorry for what you've all been through.  I really think any mom who acted like some of the moms in PP's posts need to get counseling (I actually did for anger management way back in my 20s and it has been a huge benefit to me in parenting, I never yell at my kids, thank god). These stories are heartbreaking.
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Anonymous
 humblebrag. You are the best mom for playing with your kid so much and being so fun. You are not weird- we all wish we could do what you do more often. Is that the praise you were looking for. I thought you got enough validation with you singing in the grocery store thread.
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Anonymous
Think PP may be the OP of the thread about other moms giving her the side eye when she goofs around with DC. And she was wondering if other moms do that with their DCs. So maybe not a humblebrag? |
Anonymous
Sounds like you see her as worthless because she is a unreliable babysitter. Maybe it's time to look at her needs, not yours. |
Anonymous
| My mother is mentally ill. She is 87 and will never die! Sigh |
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| DSDs mom struggles with alcohol and drug addiction; has offered her both, and tries to be friends with DSDs friends. I wish she'd get help, but it's been long enough I don't think it's going to happen. DSD has an otherwise large and stable family, but still a pretty difficult reality. |
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| My mother was nice-cruel when I was growing up. She'd offer me some small luxury and then make me chose between it and something basic that I needed. She humiliated me in front of my friends and said that if they were really my friends they wouldn't care. She allowed my brother to physically abuse me until I moved away from home. |
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Some of these are really sad, guys. I am so sorry to read these.
My mom was a great mom but definitely weird weird. She would complain all the time about how we didnt have money for clothes and then we would have fois gras for dinner. She was really into homeopathic remedies, which I love, but a lot of it involved crystals and shit. She saw ghosts. We would start meals with "oooommmmmmmm", like in yoga. So sort of like a prayer? But just "ooooomm". In hindsight I am totally into it. I hope I am a loony mom, haha. Sometimes I go to my 9-5 job and take my graduate classes and go home to my reasonable husband and I am like, I need to cultivate my mom more often. |
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My mom is getting weirder every year. This weekend, we were at the beach and at dinner time, I noticed a grape tomato by mom mom's dinner plate.
Me: "Did you grow that tomato, mom?" Mom: "No, I found it floating in the ocean earlier." Me: ????!!!! |
Anonymous
Just saw this. You are an asshole. Go troll somewhere else. |
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My mom was/is super duper weird. She has a HUGE doll collection and played with them all the time with her sister. They are better taken care of than she is. Slept in the same bed with her sister. Slept on the floor actually with her sister. Baby talked to her sister. Sucked her fingers (not thumb). Had a comfort rag. There was a lot of trauma in their past.
Man, the stories I could tell. |