Husband make you feel desirable?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you've been married for awhile, maybe more than 7 years and have kids, do you generally feel like your husband desires you? Like, you feel attractive and wanted? If so, how does he show it?

I'm just wondering what it's like.

Does your husband know what makes you feel like he desires you?

For example, the PP whose husband is constantly groping her and talking dirty, but she wants him to say she's gorgeous. He may think he's doing something that makes her feel good and tells her how much he desires her. She wants something else.

Most men are happy with direction. If you let him know what makes you feel good/desired/etc., odds are he will do it (unless there are other issues in the relationship).

21:51 here. Yeah, that didn't work for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been with my boyfriend for 22 years. He does make me feel like he desires me, both directly and indirectly. I overheard a friend of his ask if he's ever cheated and he responded "If you lived with her, trust me, you'd never want to cheat." We have a ton of framed pictures on the piano, which he plays and I don't. One of our daughters asked why her picture was behind mine and he told her it's because he wants to look at me when he's playing.

Sometimes when he's leaving he'll kiss me goodbye, but then come back for a second kiss. He brings home flowers every once in a while for no reason.

Basically, I know he desires me because he's still trying. That's the bottom line.

He might just be afraid of you

[Anonymous]

I know it's a cliche, but men tend to express themselves less verbally than women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been with my boyfriend for 22 years. He does make me feel like he desires me, both directly and indirectly. I overheard a friend of his ask if he's ever cheated and he responded "If you lived with her, trust me, you'd never want to cheat." We have a ton of framed pictures on the piano, which he plays and I don't. One of our daughters asked why her picture was behind mine and he told her it's because he wants to look at me when he's playing.

Sometimes when he's leaving he'll kiss me goodbye, but then come back for a second kiss. He brings home flowers every once in a while for no reason.

Basically, I know he desires me because he's still trying. That's the bottom line.

He might just be afraid of you

Lol, I fully encourage that.

[Anonymous]

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Yes, even though I KNOW I'm belly-wrinkled and flat-chested, after 10 years, 2 kids, and an eternity of breastfeeding.

+1. As another pp stated, dh only has to see some T&A while I'm changing or in the shower, and he's ready. This is after 14 yrs together. Dh tells me I'm beautiful often and brings me flowers for no reason.

[Anonymous]

No, he doesn't and it sucks. He rarely wants sex. Married 6 years and have kids. What an ego killer.

[Anonymous]

25 years of marriage and we have sex at least 4 times a week.

I am at my physical worst shape of my life right now (and same for DH) - but in bed we still find each other hot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:25 years of marriage and we have sex at least 4 times a week.

I am at my physical worst shape of my life right now (and same for DH) - but in bed we still find each other hot!

pp, you are really lucky!
You cannot believe the number of women who get physically rejected by their husbands because they gained weight and do not look as attractive as before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You cannot believe the number of women who get physically rejected by their husbands because they gained weight and do not look as attractive as before.

Actually I totally CAN believe that!
What I really CAN'T believe is how the number of women who gain weight period.

Why do so many women do that? Why do they think this doesn't affect attractiveness and desirability?

Yes, some men are attracted to heavier women. But those men probably started off the relationship with a heavier gal.

If the weight gain happened after the relationship began, well then clearly that man has a preference for thinner and then don't be surprised if he loses attraction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:25 years of marriage and we have sex at least 4 times a week.

I am at my physical worst shape of my life right now (and same for DH) - but in bed we still find each other hot!

Awesome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot believe the number of women who get physically rejected by their husbands because they gained weight and do not look as attractive as before.

Actually I totally CAN believe that!
What I really CAN'T believe is how the number of women who gain weight period.

Why do so many women do that? Why do they think this doesn't affect attractiveness and desirability?

Yes, some men are attracted to heavier women. But those men probably started off the relationship with a heavier gal.

If the weight gain happened after the relationship began, well then clearly that man has a preference for thinner and then don't be surprised if he loses attraction.

And then they cut all their hair off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you've been married for awhile, maybe more than 7 years and have kids, do you generally feel like your husband desires you? Like, you feel attractive and wanted? If so, how does he show it?

I'm just wondering what it's like.

Nope. He wasn't really into me physically by the time we got married. We'd been together four years by then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot believe the number of women who get physically rejected by their husbands because they gained weight and do not look as attractive as before.

Actually I totally CAN believe that!
What I really CAN'T believe is how the number of women who gain weight period.

Why do so many women do that? Why do they think this doesn't affect attractiveness and desirability?

Yes, some men are attracted to heavier women. But those men probably started off the relationship with a heavier gal.

If the weight gain happened after the relationship began, well then clearly that man has a preference for thinner and then don't be surprised if he loses attraction.

And then they cut all their hair off.

Oh, jeeze. The hair! The weight gain I understand -- getting older just slows down your metabolism, life gets busy, exercise can be difficult or insufficient. But it's pretty easy to not get the mommy-bob . . . if you care what your husband thinks about your appearance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good grief yes. Hes out of control. We've been together since we were 20 &21 and are now 36&37. You would think he'd be tired by now, but no. I change for bed in the bathroom. He sees tits and ass and is ready to go.

I complain, but really it is pretty awesome that my husband still finds me hot. I work hard on diet and exercise and its nice to be noticed. However I think he'd still want me regardless of my size.

+1. I change in the walk in closet for the same reason. 13 years together, married for 10. 2 kids I breastfed foreeeeever.

Me too ! 44--we've been together since 25. We both are in the same shape as our 20s. Working out is very important to us. The physical attraction is still intense.

[Anonymous]

a man's job is not to make you feel desirable. your job is to be desirable.

to OP: are you at your most desirable?