People who you get annoyed with when they complain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me:

-parents who adopt 4 kids and then complain about not having free time
-people who follow a certain diet (not out of necessity ie. gluten free w/o celiac) and then complain about the side effects

Adoption is different than giving birth? People like you annoy me when you separate adoptive parenting from giving birth and thinking the kids are somehow different. 4 kids are 4 kids regardless of how they join your family.

Of course it's different. Adopted kids come from a different vagina and a different set of genes. Often, even when feeling loved by their parents, adoptive kids grow up feeling like they "don't fit" or wanting to discover their heritage to find out who they really are. Sure, my adoptive parents wanted and loved me, but I will still go through life not feeling a sense of identity or connected. It's okay and it's life, but to say biological and adoptive kids are the same just isn't true.

I don't think that you should assume all adopted kids feel the same way. I have a friend who was adopted who doesn't feel that way at all. He was very close to his mother (she passed away). He, in fact, has NEVER had any interest in searching out his biological parents.

Different people process things in different ways. There are plenty of biological kids who don't feel connected to their biological families -- they don't fit in, feel like outsiders. I don't think it's safe to make sweeping statements when it comes to something that is so variable.

And I think PP is talking about OP's assumption that somehow people who adopt kids have less of a right to complain about the trials and tribulations of parenting than people who have biological kids. I don't think just because you adopt that you have less a right to get frustrated when parenting is hard.

I think anyone who has 4 biological kids could've stopped at one if they thought it was too hard. I have a tough time believing that someone had an oops pregnancy 4 times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP. well said

Well said? That PP does not speak for all adoptees. Most adoptees have a sense of identity and feel connected. Some do not. Some biological children do not. Speak for yourself and deal with your personal issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me:

-parents who adopt 4 kids and then complain about not having free time
-people who follow a certain diet (not out of necessity ie. gluten free w/o celiac) and then complain about the side effects

Adoption is different than giving birth? People like you annoy me when you separate adoptive parenting from giving birth and thinking the kids are somehow different. 4 kids are 4 kids regardless of how they join your family.

Of course it's different. Adopted kids come from a different vagina and a different set of genes. Often, even when feeling loved by their parents, adoptive kids grow up feeling like they "don't fit" or wanting to discover their heritage to find out who they really are. Sure, my adoptive parents wanted and loved me, but I will still go through life not feeling a sense of identity or connected. It's okay and it's life, but to say biological and adoptive kids are the same just isn't true.

Glad my kids do not feel like you do.

[Anonymous]

Lazy parents who do not acknowledge that their kid is insufferable, and so are they.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Lazy parents who do not acknowledge that their kid is insufferable, and so are they.

LOL! Nice. Your expectations are a bit high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me:

-parents who adopt 4 kids and then complain about not having free time
-people who follow a certain diet (not out of necessity ie. gluten free w/o celiac) and then complain about the side effects

Adoption is different than giving birth? People like you annoy me when you separate adoptive parenting from giving birth and thinking the kids are somehow different. 4 kids are 4 kids regardless of how they join your family.

Of course it's different. Adopted kids come from a different vagina and a different set of genes. Often, even when feeling loved by their parents, adoptive kids grow up feeling like they "don't fit" or wanting to discover their heritage to find out who they really are. Sure, my adoptive parents wanted and loved me, but I will still go through life not feeling a sense of identity or connected. It's okay and it's life, but to say biological and adoptive kids are the same just isn't true.

true

It's much easier having your own kids - in many, MANY ways.

Adopting is a TRUE sacrifice.

[Anonymous]

I have biological kids and adopted kids and I can tell you, it's the same. Something takes hold inside that you have no control over and that child becomes you child. Period.

[Anonymous]

Becomes YOUR child (obviously...).

[Anonymous]

No one is questioning adoption and if it is right or wrong. Please take this debate elsewhere

[Anonymous]

Martyr parents (mostly moms).....want to have a date night/night with friends/your own time? Then get a sitter. Stop bitching all the time.

Also parents who over schedule kids with soccer, piano, dance, karate, etc then complain about how over scheduled they are. STFU! No one told you you just HAD TO put your kids in 3, 4, 5 activities each week

People who complain about how they hate cleaning. Get a cleaner. Yes, if you let go of other things, you can afford one most of the time. I make way under 6 figures and having a cleaner is awesome. So what if I rarely go out or eat out? It's something I really want so fit it in my budget.

[Anonymous]

I get annoyed with people who encourage bamboo to grow uncontrollably in their yard, and then complain about the permeating "smell" of the concentrated bird droppings from the massive flocks of birds that it attracts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get annoyed with people who encourage bamboo to grow uncontrollably in their yard, and then complain about the permeating "smell" of the concentrated bird droppings from the massive flocks of birds that it attracts.

Did not know that. Learn something new everyday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get annoyed with people who encourage bamboo to grow uncontrollably in their yard, and then complain about the permeating "smell" of the concentrated bird droppings from the massive flocks of birds that it attracts.

Those are the worst kind.

[Anonymous]

It annoys me when my friends on FB whine about how their husbands are out of town for a few days or a week and how hard it is "being a single parent."


- an actual single parent 24/7/365

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get annoyed with people who encourage bamboo to grow uncontrollably in their yard, and then complain about the permeating "smell" of the concentrated bird droppings from the massive flocks of birds that it attracts.

I get annoyed by people who have too much time on their hands, can't MYOB; and try to fear monger about bamboo, or any other trivial matter, in any way possible.

I have heard bamboo kills you in your sleep. If your neighbor isn't mob-related, that is. Otherwise, assume it was the neighbor you wrongly annoyed.