specialist or. support groups for parents w DS always dressing like a girl playing girl things

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

This is why pre-teens and teens are killing themselves. Lack of unconditional love from their parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be very cautious about trying to diagnose somethong here. There is no need to place a label on such a young child either way. There is really no way to tell if he is gay, straight, truly transgender, or just likes dresses. He can just be a boy who likes dress up, without pushing any adult notions on him for the time being.

Clearly you don't know much about gender dysphoria. It's not about labeling a child as being gay or straight or transgender. The parents are seeking information. Perhaps a diagnosis will come out of it, perhaps not. But if it does, it will come from medical professionals well-versed in this area.

It is only gender dysphoria if somebody makes him dysphoric. And I think there is a real risk of overdiagnosing gender dysphoria. Many many gay men report engaging in stereotypical feminine play as children. It is good to get support, but tagging a boy who likes to play with dolls as transgender is just as wrong as any other kind of gender essentialism.

And to pp who would not allow it in your home - f you, you are the problem

So you think diagnosing a child with gender dysphoria is just about whether he plays with dolls? Really, are you that naive?

From the DSM-V: Characteristics of the condition:
For a person to be diagnosed with gender dysphoria, there must be a marked difference between the individual’s expressed/experienced gender and the gender others would assign him or her, and it must continue for at least six months. In children, the desire to be of the other gender must be present and verbalized. This condition causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
Gender dysphoria is manifested in a variety of ways, including strong desires to be treated as the other gender or to be rid of one’s sex characteristics, or a strong conviction that one has feelings and reac- tions typical of the other gender.
The DSM-5 diagnosis adds a post-transition specifier for people who are living full-time as the desired gender (with or without legal sanction of the gender change). This ensures treatment access for indi- viduals who continue to undergo hormone therapy, related surgery, or psychotherapy or counseling to support their gender transition.
Gender dysphoria will have its own chapter in DSM-5 and will be separated from Sexual Dysfunctions and Paraphilic Disorders.

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

This is why pre-teens and teens are killing themselves. Lack of unconditional love from their parents.

Oh please you know everything don't you

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

This is why pre-teens and teens are killing themselves. Lack of unconditional love from their parents.

NP. But I agree with the not allowing this, at least to the extreme OP describes. And not to worry, I would deal with it a long time before the child became a pre-teen or a teen.

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

That's really sad because there are real children who are born one sex, but identify completely with the other sex. Look up "gender dysphoria." They feel there some kind of mistake in their sex assignment. Some children as young as age six have gone so far as to attempt to mutilate themselves to become the other sex. It's not a "choice" or a phase or a result of improper influences. It's just who they are.

It's a sin and you deal with it and pretend its not there. Fake it . I would not want my child to burn in hell. This life is a stepping stone to a much greater world called heaven. I would be heartbroken if my child didn't go because I allowed them to be gay or transgender.

And yes I know what it is my cousin has decided to become a girl, he is transgender.

A heaven that requires a soul to fake a life must not be Heaven. Acceptance and Truth would be held in regard in Heaven.

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

That's really sad because there are real children who are born one sex, but identify completely with the other sex. Look up "gender dysphoria." They feel there some kind of mistake in their sex assignment. Some children as young as age six have gone so far as to attempt to mutilate themselves to become the other sex. It's not a "choice" or a phase or a result of improper influences. It's just who they are.

It's a sin and you deal with it and pretend its not there. Fake it . I would not want my child to burn in hell. This life is a stepping stone to a much greater world called heaven. I would be heartbroken if my child didn't go because I allowed them to be gay or transgender.

And yes I know what it is my cousin has decided to become a girl, he is transgender.

A heaven that requires a soul to fake a life must not be Heaven. Acceptance and Truth would be held in regard in Heaven.

It's not "faking a life." The poor kid needs help understanding what being a boy is -- and the wide spectrum that may define that. He does not need suggestions that he has gender confusion issues.

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

That's really sad because there are real children who are born one sex, but identify completely with the other sex. Look up "gender dysphoria." They feel there some kind of mistake in their sex assignment. Some children as young as age six have gone so far as to attempt to mutilate themselves to become the other sex. It's not a "choice" or a phase or a result of improper influences. It's just who they are.

It's a sin and you deal with it and pretend its not there. Fake it . I would not want my child to burn in hell. This life is a stepping stone to a much greater world called heaven. I would be heartbroken if my child didn't go because I allowed them to be gay or transgender.

And yes I know what it is my cousin has decided to become a girl, he is transgender.

Good thing Jesus died for our sins, right? No chance of burning in hell, now, even if you turn out to be a hateful bitch like you.

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

That's really sad because there are real children who are born one sex, but identify completely with the other sex. Look up "gender dysphoria." They feel there some kind of mistake in their sex assignment. Some children as young as age six have gone so far as to attempt to mutilate themselves to become the other sex. It's not a "choice" or a phase or a result of improper influences. It's just who they are.

It's a sin and you deal with it and pretend its not there. Fake it . I would not want my child to burn in hell. This life is a stepping stone to a much greater world called heaven. I would be heartbroken if my child didn't go because I allowed them to be gay or transgender.

And yes I know what it is my cousin has decided to become a girl, he is transgender.

Good thing Jesus died for our sins, right? No chance of burning in hell, now, even if you turn out to be a hateful bitch like you.

Yes he died for our sins. But that is no free pass. We have to earn our way there. And most beds in heaven are already taken. Chances are most humans living now probably 90-99% will burn in hell. That's why we need to stop producing children. Why have something that is doomed from the start. Knowing your child will burn forever is sickening but know one seems to care everyone is selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

That's really sad because there are real children who are born one sex, but identify completely with the other sex. Look up "gender dysphoria." They feel there some kind of mistake in their sex assignment. Some children as young as age six have gone so far as to attempt to mutilate themselves to become the other sex. It's not a "choice" or a phase or a result of improper influences. It's just who they are.

It's a sin and you deal with it and pretend its not there. Fake it . I would not want my child to burn in hell. This life is a stepping stone to a much greater world called heaven. I would be heartbroken if my child didn't go because I allowed them to be gay or transgender.

And yes I know what it is my cousin has decided to become a girl, he is transgender.

I like your confidence.

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

That's really sad because there are real children who are born one sex, but identify completely with the other sex. Look up "gender dysphoria." They feel there some kind of mistake in their sex assignment. Some children as young as age six have gone so far as to attempt to mutilate themselves to become the other sex. It's not a "choice" or a phase or a result of improper influences. It's just who they are.

It's a sin and you deal with it and pretend its not there. Fake it . I would not want my child to burn in hell. This life is a stepping stone to a much greater world called heaven. I would be heartbroken if my child didn't go because I allowed them to be gay or transgender.

And yes I know what it is my cousin has decided to become a girl, he is transgender.

Just because you claim to "know" what gender dysphoria is does not mean you understand it.

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Everybody calm down. Going from the posts they are just looking for guidance and want to be sure they are doing the best they can by their son. Maybe dysphoria, maybe not, maybe growing up gay, maybe not, maybe a boy that just enjoys girl things and will be a sensitive husband to his wife.

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My son likes more girlish things than most boys. I am perfectly fine with it, and bought several books, like The Sissy Duckling, to reinforce that its ok to be be different.
I can understand the desire to join support groups, and second the recommendation for Childrens.
That said, we are taking the support, wait and see approach. I can't change who he will be, and I want him to explore on his own without feeling any more different by going to specialists. We read a LOT of books of every type, so reading LGBT friendly childrens books sometimes is not unusual or seen as some lecture.
FWIW, I have a transgender brister (born female, now male), and a homosexual brother. My parents tried to beat being different out of them. They tried the prayer route, the "you're going to hell" lectures... It did not change who they are, it only made their childhood and teen years that much more painful.
Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:My son likes more girlish things than most boys. I am perfectly fine with it, and bought several books, like The Sissy Duckling, to reinforce that its ok to be be different.
I can understand the desire to join support groups, and second the recommendation for Childrens.
That said, we are taking the support, wait and see approach. I can't change who he will be, and I want him to explore on his own without feeling any more different by going to specialists. We read a LOT of books of every type, so reading LGBT friendly childrens books sometimes is not unusual or seen as some lecture.
FWIW, I have a transgender brister (born female, now male), and a homosexual brother. My parents tried to beat being different out of them. They tried the prayer route, the "you're going to hell" lectures... It did not change who they are, it only made their childhood and teen years that much more painful.
Good luck!

Maybe not, but you can stop putting some of these crazy ideas into his head.

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Anonymous wrote:I just can't . I would not let my kid do that. Do what you want at 18 but in my house we are not ok with that.

That's really sad because there are real children who are born one sex, but identify completely with the other sex. Look up "gender dysphoria." They feel there some kind of mistake in their sex assignment. Some children as young as age six have gone so far as to attempt to mutilate themselves to become the other sex. It's not a "choice" or a phase or a result of improper influences. It's just who they are.

It's a sin and you deal with it and pretend its not there. Fake it . I would not want my child to burn in hell. This life is a stepping stone to a much greater world called heaven. I would be heartbroken if my child didn't go because I allowed them to be gay or transgender.

And yes I know what it is my cousin has decided to become a girl, he is transgender.

Good thing Jesus died for our sins, right? No chance of burning in hell, now, even if you turn out to be a hateful bitch like you.

Yes he died for our sins. But that is no free pass. We have to earn our way there. And most beds in heaven are already taken. Chances are most humans living now probably 90-99% will burn in hell. That's why we need to stop producing children. Why have something that is doomed from the start. Knowing your child will burn forever is sickening but know one seems to care everyone is selfish.

So, you believe that Christ's love for us is finite? That there are limits to His grace and forgiveness?
There is not a competition for entry into God's Kingdom. His grace is enough.

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PP, I am speachless: you believe God created a world in which he (I assume in your world view God is a man) would send 9 out of 10 of his children, lovingly created, to a fiery hell forever? And you WORSHIP such a God? No human would be so evil.

Good lord Jesus help you. And I say that in all sincerity.