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Would a single live in nanny with a child agree to work for room and board?
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Anonymous
| OP, did you ever pursue this, and did you get anywhere with it? |
Anonymous
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Before pursuing this, you may want to consider the advice posted on another thread:
“as PP stated, room and board can't be more than 40% of wages. So in addition to R&B you would need to pay the sitter the other 60% of minimum wage (~$4/hr is you are in VA).” http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/42685.page#287574 |
Anonymous
| I'm the OP and no I haven't pursued it b/c I see too many potential pitfalls that I hadn't thought of. Instead, I think a co-abode match would be better, and hopefully we could each cover for the other in case of emergency/ late nights. The live-in nanny for R&B would not have any income to save up for other expenses, which is not reasonable. |
Anonymous
OP, can you email me offline? m_falcon@live.com |
Anonymous
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I am not the OP but I would be interested in talking to some of the moms who replied that they ARE interested in a situation where two single moms trade room/board/childcare.
I have a single family home..... |
Anonymous
| where are you located? what sor tof trade off are you looking for? |
Anonymous
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16:50, do you want to email me at:
mydcurbanbox@live.com and I will go into details? Thanks! |
Anonymous
I don't see this as a problem. I would agree to do something like this if 1) the kids and I had insurance through my ex and 2) it was not forever. If it were just for a year or two, until my child is school age, or the economy improves, I could see doing this. The two single moms basically become a family, one parent works, the other stays home. The stay-at-home parent would need SOME cash stipend obviously. |
Anonymous
I guess what I am thinking is, I have a really nice single family home, which I can not afford by myself because my ex and I are splitting. Or, I might be able to afford it if I didn't pay so much for child care each month. Basically, I was looking for a roommate to contribute half the mortgage - about $1350 a month, which is about what a one or two bedroom apartment goes for around here. But reading this post made me wonder: What if there is another single mom, perhaps in a similar rough spot, who wants to be home with her preschool aged child(ren) and wanted to trade child care for housing? Basically what if we were like a family, where one WOHM and one SAHM? The savings I am looking for is either a $1350/mo income from a roomate or a $1350 SAVINGS on child care per month. I would ask her to watch my 16 month old full time and my school aged child after school - but I am also home all day so I'd be able to help, too. I have four bedrooms and three full baths. Big yard, big deck, my ex even put in a hot tub - which basically we use for the kids to swim year round. He completely remodeled the house (which is why I can't afford it) and it really is very nice. I am in Fairfax County. I have a local phone line, computer, internet access, cable tv, car that she can share. I can drive her to important appointments if necessary. I'd provide the food and utilities. I am not much of a cook though! I realize she needs health insurance, which I cannot provide, and some kind of cash income. Maybe a mom who is still getting insurance from her ex and a small amount of child support? Is this even legal? Probably not 
But as a mom, if it kept me from being homeless and kept me home with my baby instead of working for crappy wages and paying for daycare, personally I would consider it. |
Anonymous
| PS and what I mean by home all day, before you get the wrong idea, is that I WORK from home. But I work hard, my boss expects instant answers, will suddenly call me and make me go to a meeting, participate in a client call, etc. etc. and it's impossible to concentrate, never mind speak to a client, with a busy, climbing, crying 16 month old tugging on your hem, as I'm sure you can imagine if you have kids! |
Anonymous
I'm no expert, but I think it would be legal. But it sounds like you couldn't call the woman who moved in with you a "nanny" or probably not even an "employee". So you might not be able to have a legal contract trading child care for room and board. That doesn't mean you can't do it, just that you might not be able to formalize it legally in a written agreement -- or at least not an employment contract. Maybe a rental contract? A key question would be, what happens if the mom who moves in with you just decides she doesn't want to care for your child anymore. Can you evict her, or demand rent? |
Anonymous
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If you did this I would find a way to at least pay the au pair cash stipend each week. (I think that's about $125/week?)
Still would save you a lot on childcare and makes it far more possible for someone to do this exchange. Otherwise maybe a nanny share with the other family paying the bulk ($350?) a week. That might work if the other mom's child is older/in school at least p/t. |
Anonymous
| It may work, but you would still need to pay something. Room and board alone will not do it since she will be basically be paid at subsistence level. She also needs money to spend on her child, on herself, to pay medical and other bills associated with childcare. I don't know how legally it would work out with minimal pay, etc. but you could explore options for paying a bit less and providing room and board. |
Anonymous
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Im a nanny 27 years old with a lot of experience and great references but I have 3 months old baby.. if someone agree in having me and my baby . providing room and board and ANY CASH TO BUY HIS FORMULA... I would trade childcare and help in the house.
plz leave your e-mail and I will e-mail you for more info and you can tell me what you expect from me. |