How do you deal with dumb kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Prepare to be shocked when this kid gets into a better college than your own child(ren.)

Remember that you heard it hear first.

Awesome.

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Holy crow. I'm quick to be irritated by bratty, annoying children but OP makes me look like MaryeffinPoppins.

Don't try to have a "sustained conversation" with a 5 year old. Give him a snack and call it a day, if you don't know what else to do.

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You are truly awful, but you already knew that. I guarantee that if most people you know could hear your inner thoughts they wouldn't associate with you.

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OP, we have a 12 year old boy in our family like that. As a kid very ill behaved but now there are no lights on behind his eyes. He scares us. Advanced in academics but socially and emotionally a nightmare. I stay far way from him when I can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy crow. I'm quick to be irritated by bratty, annoying children but OP makes me look like MaryeffinPoppins.

Don't try to have a "sustained conversation" with a 5 year old. Give him a snack and call it a day, if you don't know what else to do.

+1. well said.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you trying to have sustained conversations with a five year old? You're stupid.

+1

Short and varied conversations are best practices for 5 year olds.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, we have a 12 year old boy in our family like that. As a kid very ill behaved but now there are no lights on behind his eyes. He scares us. Advanced in academics but socially and emotionally a nightmare. I stay far way from him when I can.

This sounds like mental health not intelligence.

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You haven't described an actual problem and I'm not sure what kind of tips you're hoping to hear in terms of "dealing" with this non-issue. He's a good, sweet kid. Why do you need to have a sustained conversation with a 5 year old? Can't you have that with the adults in your life? It's a bit much to put that on a 5 year old.

Conversing with kids doesn't come naturally to all. I suspect you don't know how to talk to the kid, rather than the kid being the one who's lacking. I'm sure if you genuinely expressed interested in what he finds exciting, he'd have plenty to say. Kids take detours in conversations. Go with it! That's half the fun.

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OP, I sympathize because I can't deal with bitches and trolls.

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I get the sense OP is gonna be one lonely bitch when she gets older. With that crabby attitude and low-tolerance for others she's gonna have very few visitors to the nursing home.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband's good friend's child is very, very sweet but is a complete dumbo. Just turned five and cannot sustain a conversation, cannot always follow simple directions, cannot keep on topic or often stay focused. In other ways this child is talented and clever, but in terms of interacting, sometimes it's like nobody is home. I don't think there's any serious problem; I just think there's a lack in the smarts department. The mom is also a bit of a dumbo.

Yes, I am a bitch, but it drives me a little nuts because it's hard to have a sustained interaction.

Um, this was my child and still to some degree is 5 years later. She has social anxiety and has trouble be quick thinking on her feet. She also had auditory processing issues which meant when people spoke to her it took her longer to understand and then formulate the answer.

Yes, I saw lots of parents and still do give my kid a side ways glance when she says something dumb. I cringe too. Sometimes, she says the exact opposite of what she means.

We did therapy and have done tons of work at home as well as medication. She is who she is. She isn't dumb but I acknowledged that to casual observers and random people she might appear that way.

You could be me. I have a kid like that.

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I get sick thinking we share a planet with people as cruel as the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't deal with them. I abhor stupidity and am too cruel about it to be around the person. I know they can't help it, so I remove myself.

DD is friends with a very sweet girl who has gotten massive amounts of tutoring each year. Last night I saw the texts she's sent DD and I cringed at all the spelling mistakes. Kind girl though, so I let DD continue being friends with her.

Can you just say hi to the kid, and then turn to the other adults? Let the parents entertain their own kid.

Did you really say this? Your son is old enough to have a phone and text and you "let" him be friends with someone who needed tutoring and had spelling errors in texts?! Obviously your son is a nicer person than you.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband's good friend's child is very, very sweet but is a complete dumbo. Just turned five and cannot sustain a conversation, cannot always follow simple directions, cannot keep on topic or often stay focused. In other ways this child is talented and clever, but in terms of interacting, sometimes it's like nobody is home. I don't think there's any serious problem; I just think there's a lack in the smarts department. The mom is also a bit of a dumbo.

Yes, I am a bitch, but it drives me a little nuts because it's hard to have a sustained interaction.

I think you are a troll. But in case you are not, you are horrible. This kid sounds like my son at 5. He just developed at a different pace than other children, particularly socially. But he scored off the hook on the Cognat, went on to AAP, and is a social butterfly as the teacher calls him. The only trouble we have with him is that he talks too much in class. He began to become social and following social cues in second grade. You can't judge a child at age 5, often the development in boys is slow and their milestones are reached later. But they get there.

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Calling a 5-year-old a dumbo and complaining that she is just too stupid for you to deal with...

You are a sad excuse for a person, OP. And I'm sure you're passing on your cruelty to your own children, deliberately or otherwise. Shame on you.