Future MIL: far right hate speech

[Anonymous]

Curious what you consider hate speech since that term seems to have lost its meaning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your future MIL is at the age to be around for a long time and your future DH does not already have a sense of what a horror his mother is and does nothing to run interference for you (his future wife). I would really think hard about whether it was a marriage I wanted to pursue.

That sounds dramatic but really think about the kind of person your BF is, what he prioritizes, how much he values you, how he would handle his mother when kids come along, how he would handle THE KIDS when they come along.

I echo pp and suggest premarital counseling.

+1

IT WILL get worse if you marry and have kids. BF needs to let you know how he will handle her. Parents can ruin a marriage, IF you let them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your future MIL is at the age to be around for a long time and your future DH does not already have a sense of what a horror his mother is and does nothing to run interference for you (his future wife). I would really think hard about whether it was a marriage I wanted to pursue.

That sounds dramatic but really think about the kind of person your BF is, what he prioritizes, how much he values you, how he would handle his mother when kids come along, how he would handle THE KIDS when they come along.

I echo pp and suggest premarital counseling.

+1

IT WILL get worse if you marry and have kids. BF needs to let you know how he will handle her. Parents can ruin a marriage, IF you let them.

If you've read my previous comments you would know that he has backed me 100%. I am not the slightest bit concerned that she will come between the two of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious what you consider hate speech since that term seems to have lost its meaning.

So that you can determine if I am accurately assessing the terms "vile hate speech"? I'll let you know when I need your approval.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is your MIL - are you such a freaking left wing ideologue weirdo that "the principle" is worth more than having peace with your MIL and husband? For goodness sake, everyone has different political views, just agree to disagree and don't engage her conservative or annoying FB posts. Your marriage is more important than being the "winner" in a political debate or over-analyzing her political views.

I'm one of those " freaking left wing ideologue weirdos" that poster describes and I actually agree with this. Up to a point. If its truly hate speech (ie bigotry in any form. etc) then I think you have a good leg to stand on and I would make it damn well known that this won't fly around kids you have. If its just loony tunes ramblings trying to perpetuate the myth of the huge numbers of 'welfare queens', etc. I would ignore.

[Anonymous]

De-friend her from Facebook. She will get the message.