Step parents and tuition

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My nephew attends the same school as his step brother. His dad and stepmom pay for him to attend since my sister could never afford the tuition. His dad wants both of his kids to have the same educational opportunities (he adopted his new wife's son, who is 2 years older than my nephew) Thankfully his new wife is very nice and was on board with this since it is her income that makes it possible for them to pay for two kids.

Wow! Step moms pay attention. This is how it's done.

Not how it is done, sorry. I wouldn't let my husband adopt my son. He already has a father.

Then you either married poorly or you suck as a mother for not keeping your family together.

[Anonymous]

I'm a step mom. Our kids live in different states. My husband wanted all the children in private, and that was factored into child support. Ex wife pulled the kids out of private a couple of years ago.

Our son together still goes to private. I pay that, because husband is paying almost $40,000 in child support. I'd be happy with public, but we started him in private when the other kids were in private. I don't want to move him now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My nephew attends the same school as his step brother. His dad and stepmom pay for him to attend since my sister could never afford the tuition. His dad wants both of his kids to have the same educational opportunities (he adopted his new wife's son, who is 2 years older than my nephew) Thankfully his new wife is very nice and was on board with this since it is her income that makes it possible for them to pay for two kids.

Wow! Step moms pay attention. This is how it's done.

Not how it is done, sorry. I wouldn't let my husband adopt my son. He already has a father.

Then you either married poorly or you suck as a mother for not keeping your family together.

Oh STFU. God forbid someone respect their ex and that ex's relationship with his biological child enough to not support an adoption by a step parent.

[Anonymous]

I'm a stepmother to three daughters from my husband's first marriage and two children from our marriage. My husband and I pay the tuition of all of our children from our joint account. I want the best for my step-daughters in the same way that I want the best for my biological children.

[Anonymous]

Not high school. DSS's mom is/was essentially a deadbeat since she chooses to be a starving artist on the edge of poverty instead of actually getting a real job, contributing next to nothing and certainly no viable child support. DH and I have shared accounts, nothing separate. We jointly pay for his education.

When I married the man, his child was part of the bargain. Not always easy, but you know that going in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would be easy to be a great stepmom if you were loaded. Money is no longer an issue. Many arguments between blended families revolve around how to fairly allocate the available resources. They luckily don't have that issue.

My mom had two stepfathers (my grandmother was widowed once and divorced once). The poor stepfather was the keeper.

[Anonymous]

OP,

I think it just depends on income, net worth, number of children involved in the mix, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In those of you with blended families with children in private school who pays their tuition does that come from the family account does money that comes from their biological parents pay for the private school and what is the deal is the actual other parents can't afford private school as expensive as the stepparent do your children go to different schools

In our family my ex-husband and I split the cost for private school. My husband is not my child's father and has no financial obligation to support my child.

[Anonymous]

14:41 I know stepfathers and stepmothers who contribute to their stepchildren's education and other expenses. No one is talking about obligation. Further, if you're ex-husband's circumstances were less fortunate, your current husband might feel an obligation.

[Anonymous]

I love my stepdaughter very, very much. Of course, her father and I paid for her private schools and her college. I wouldn't have it any other way.

[Anonymous]

My kids do not go to private school but my DH's family set up a trust fund for my older dd's education (my DH's stepdaughter) as well as for our kids together. My dd's dad is very active in her life and pays CS but has no extra money. I work but my DH makes way more than I do and as a family we pay for all my dd's expenses. I am the custodial parent, though, which might make a difference.