mil gripe

[Anonymous]

I would never begrudge my husband for talking to his mom for an hour. Is this an hour every day?? I don't see where you're coming from, OP...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps she thinks this is a good time to talk. She probably doesn't want to bother him at work or during the work week at night. Maybe she thinks Saturday and Sunday are too busy for you. Everyone today loves to tell everyone else how busy they are. It always feels like it is never a good time to call anyone. Older generations are use to talking on the phone. When do you think it would be a good time for her to call. Maybe your DH could just tell her a time that is better to call.

Exactly. He talked to her, too. Why is your subject not "dh gripe"? If it's not a good time for him to talk with her, then you need to have a conversation with him about better times to chat. He can then either not answer at inconvenient times, or answer and ask to talk another time.

You sound jealous of his time--and their relationship. Beloved son? That should be a good thing, not a snarky comment.

[Anonymous]

You can't have a quiet Friday evening relaxing after a week's hard work without somebody interloping, and MIL at that, who can't stop talking. DH should call her on Sunday and not answer on Friday.

A long time ago, when his 4 kids where little and my BIL was going crazy, he would just disconnect his phones each and every evening. DH's family is large and used to be constantly in each other's business, so I call that rather plucky of him.
Of course, there was the odd day when he would forget to reconnect his phones and no one could reach him in the morning or leave a message during the day... but overall it worked out

[Anonymous]

Um. Don't answer the phone.

Ask your husband not to talk if you don't want him to.

I have plenty of issues w/ my Mothers in law (yes, plural) but I think you're wrong to pin this on her. She's figured out a time when she can reliably reach you and her son is available for long chats. That's a success in her book.

Your issue is with your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't a MIL problem, it's a DH problem.

+1.

OP, I know you know this is small but if it's an ongoing annoyance can you ask DH to call her pre-emptively before dinner so Friday evening is free and clear?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps she thinks this is a good time to talk. She probably doesn't want to bother him at work or during the work week at night. Maybe she thinks Saturday and Sunday are too busy for you. Everyone today loves to tell everyone else how busy they are. It always feels like it is never a good time to call anyone. Older generations are use to talking on the phone. When do you think it would be a good time for her to call. Maybe your DH could just tell her a time that is better to call.

Exactly. He talked to her, too. Why is your subject not "dh gripe"? If it's not a good time for him to talk with her, then you need to have a conversation with him about better times to chat. He can then either not answer at inconvenient times, or answer and ask to talk another time.

You sound jealous of his time--and their relationship. Beloved son? That should be a good thing, not a snarky comment.

Agreed. Taken at face value, without additional background, OP sounds weirdly jealous. There's a difference between a "momma's boy" and a man that has a good, loving relationship with his mom. The former is the be avoided, and the latter sets a better tone for how a man may respect women. I'm not a MIL at 34, or anywhere close to it, but OP you sound a little kooky.