Vacation sleeping arrangements

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, of course. Why on earth would it be a problem for them to sleep in the lviing room?

OP here,

I'm probably over thinking this. I think if the situation was reversed, and I was a single dad vacationing with someone else's 15 year old daughter there would be parents who might feel more comfortable with a closed/lockable door between the space where my child was sleeping and the adult. In a suite I might be in and out of their space while they're asleep (say they were sleeping in late, and I wanted to walk through to the bathroom, or to go to the hotel lobby to buy a cup of coffee or whatever. It wouldn't make me uncomfortable if it was my kid, but I figured I'd ask.

I went into this thinking I'd just get two separate rooms, until I went on the website of the hotel I'm considering and realized that a suite with a living room and a bedroom would be about $500 cheaper, so now I'm trying to figure out of there's a substantial benefit to 2 rooms. The biggest one I can identify right away is 2 bathrooms, but in my mind that's not a $500 benefit.

I don't know why anyone would be concerned about a single dad in a room with two girls either. As long as everyone has privacy to change and they aren't sharing a bed, then I would be fine with it. I think for teens, having a separate room / living room would be better as they likely don't want to sleep in the same room as the parent. I think you are overthinking this. Lots of suites have doors that separate the space sufficiently.

Yeah, in theory maybe. However I would not let my dd go in a vacation with the set up above. Never, ever. And that goes for family too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, of course. Why on earth would it be a problem for them to sleep in the lviing room?

OP here,

I'm probably over thinking this. I think if the situation was reversed, and I was a single dad vacationing with someone else's 15 year old daughter there would be parents who might feel more comfortable with a closed/lockable door between the space where my child was sleeping and the adult. In a suite I might be in and out of their space while they're asleep (say they were sleeping in late, and I wanted to walk through to the bathroom, or to go to the hotel lobby to buy a cup of coffee or whatever. It wouldn't make me uncomfortable if it was my kid, but I figured I'd ask.

I went into this thinking I'd just get two separate rooms, until I went on the website of the hotel I'm considering and realized that a suite with a living room and a bedroom would be about $500 cheaper, so now I'm trying to figure out of there's a substantial benefit to 2 rooms. The biggest one I can identify right away is 2 bathrooms, but in my mind that's not a $500 benefit.

I don't know why anyone would be concerned about a single dad in a room with two girls either. As long as everyone has privacy to change and they aren't sharing a bed, then I would be fine with it. I think for teens, having a separate room / living room would be better as they likely don't want to sleep in the same room as the parent. I think you are overthinking this. Lots of suites have doors that separate the space sufficiently.

Yeah, in theory maybe. However I would not let my dd go in a vacation with the set up above. Never, ever. And that goes for family too.

OP here,

Thanks for your honesty. Can you tell me if you'd be comfortable if the situation were reversed? That is, if your son was sleeping in the living room while the single mom was sleeping in the attached, not all the way separate, bedroom and possibly walking through the living room at night -- for the bathroom or coffee maker or front door.

On one hand, I don't like the idea of double standards, but on the other hand every kid we'd consider inviting is a serious athlete (because my kid's closest friends are teammates), who is taller and significantly stronger than I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, of course. Why on earth would it be a problem for them to sleep in the lviing room?

OP here,

I'm probably over thinking this. I think if the situation was reversed, and I was a single dad vacationing with someone else's 15 year old daughter there would be parents who might feel more comfortable with a closed/lockable door between the space where my child was sleeping and the adult. In a suite I might be in and out of their space while they're asleep (say they were sleeping in late, and I wanted to walk through to the bathroom, or to go to the hotel lobby to buy a cup of coffee or whatever. It wouldn't make me uncomfortable if it was my kid, but I figured I'd ask.

I went into this thinking I'd just get two separate rooms, until I went on the website of the hotel I'm considering and realized that a suite with a living room and a bedroom would be about $500 cheaper, so now I'm trying to figure out of there's a substantial benefit to 2 rooms. The biggest one I can identify right away is 2 bathrooms, but in my mind that's not a $500 benefit.

I don't know why anyone would be concerned about a single dad in a room with two girls either. As long as everyone has privacy to change and they aren't sharing a bed, then I would be fine with it. I think for teens, having a separate room / living room would be better as they likely don't want to sleep in the same room as the parent. I think you are overthinking this. Lots of suites have doors that separate the space sufficiently.

Yeah, in theory maybe. However I would not let my dd go in a vacation with the set up above. Never, ever. And that goes for family too.

OP here,

Thanks for your honesty. Can you tell me if you'd be comfortable if the situation were reversed? That is, if your son was sleeping in the living room while the single mom was sleeping in the attached, not all the way separate, bedroom and possibly walking through the living room at night -- for the bathroom or coffee maker or front door.

On one hand, I don't like the idea of double standards, but on the other hand every kid we'd consider inviting is a serious athlete (because my kid's closest friends are teammates), who is taller and significantly stronger than I am.

PP you are quoting. I would be fine with my son (even teenager soon) going on vacation with a friend and a single mother. Yes, double standard but whatever. I was sexually abused more than once as a child and young teen and I know many many women who were as well - most only the "touch" kind of abuse, without any rape. But still. That definitely colors what I am comfortable with and how I parent my dd.

[Anonymous]

OP-what about putting the kids in the bedroom and you take the living room? Then you'd be unlikely to need to enter their space.

Also, I'd see if there are any air b'n'b or vrbo options where you're going. We've often found them to be cheaper than hotel suites, and they might have more flexible sleeping arrangements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP-what about putting the kids in the bedroom and you take the living room? Then you'd be unlikely to need to enter their space.

Also, I'd see if there are any air b'n'b or vrbo options where you're going. We've often found them to be cheaper than hotel suites, and they might have more flexible sleeping arrangements.

OP here,

To be honest? I'm getting old, my bones feel old. Plus I'm the one paying because I'm the one who works hard to earn the money. If someone is going to sleep on a sofa bed or a lumpy hotel cot, or a sleeping bag on the floor, it isn't going to be me.

The air b'n'b idea is a good one, but we're thinking of going to a specific place where that isn't an option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP-what about putting the kids in the bedroom and you take the living room? Then you'd be unlikely to need to enter their space.

Also, I'd see if there are any air b'n'b or vrbo options where you're going. We've often found them to be cheaper than hotel suites, and they might have more flexible sleeping arrangements.

OP here,

To be honest? I'm getting old, my bones feel old. Plus I'm the one paying because I'm the one who works hard to earn the money. If someone is going to sleep on a sofa bed or a lumpy hotel cot, or a sleeping bag on the floor, it isn't going to be me.

The air b'n'b idea is a good one, but we're thinking of going to a specific place where that isn't an option.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Suite with them sleeping in the living room or adjacent rooms depending on which is less expensive. I'm the single mom of a teen. Enjoy!

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a MILF?

I don't know. Is your type middle aged, overweight, and exhausted? Then yes.

LOL!