Let's talk about introverts!

[Anonymous]

I'm definitely an introvert, married to an extrovert. I like parties, but they tire me out. I prefer one-on-one or small group conversations. I need time alone to recharge my batteries. I don't get bored by myself. Ever. I don't like to "think out loud"--I want to reflect before I express myself. I don't like to talk on the phone and I don't like to cold-call people--I'd prefer my husband to make all the phone calls to the plumber, landlord, etc. People don't think I'm an introvert, because I can be vivacious and charming and am great at public speaking, and people usually think introvert = shy.

[Anonymous]

I hate that my husband has me do all the calls, appointments, negotiating (car-buying, for example), inquiries, etc etc etc etc. I get that I'm "better" at it but I don't love doing either and I definitely don't like being the one to do it 100% of the time.

[Anonymous]

Being a shy extrovert is hard!

[Anonymous]

I'm an introverted snob.

[Anonymous]

Friends invite us over for dinner and I hate the feeling that I must reciprocate. I hate having people over for dinner. Well, I dread it. I get anxious, upset, wondering when they (even if I like these friends) will leave and the night will end. I don't mind going over to their house if it's only them, not six other couples, but I feel like my space is invaded if they come over.

Is this crazy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I avoid social gatherings; however, one on one I would be described as very friendly. Totally need to be left alone to recharge and I don't like talking on the phone. In person, I can talk for hours one on one to someone I like who I haven't seen in a while. I won't open the door if someone just shows up at my house, uninvited. I tend to avoid group activities, i.e. acting ensembles, etc. I don't like being rushed or pushed into making a decision or engaging in an activity. As a performing artist, my avoidance of social gatherings and "networking" has been problematic. In general, I love spending time alone to create, read, reflect, etc.

This is me, minus the performance artist piece. I just came back from a family vacation and felt so much better after I left my DC and DH home while I went to aimlessly wander the supermarket aisles for a half an hour mor so. I just needed some time to myself. I always find myself escaping to recharge. Even from those I love...

[Anonymous]

Read Susan Cain's Quiet. It's fantastic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell me what you think of them, what you know of them (me)....

Isn't this thread a bit oxymoronic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being a shy extrovert is hard!

Yes! I am married to an introvert. Once we had a stand off over who would call to order take out. Then I realized I could order it online! Woot. He made me answer the door, though.