anyone ever have a secret desire for husband to have an affair?

[Anonymous]

Yes, totally. In fact, I suspected a few months ago that he might be having one with a friend of mine, actually. And I wasn't at all upset about it -- thought it was a really stupid choice of his, since the woman's got so many issues. But at least it would give us the final nail to end the marriage. (Turns out after more snooping I don't think they actually were having one, maybe just wishful thinking on my part.) Without infidelity or abuse, it's hard to justify splitting your kids up between two houses and ruining their lives. An affair would make the decision easier -- and it wouldn't surprise me if eventually one of us does cheat since there's no love left in our marriage.