Your relationship with your grandparents

[Anonymous]

Interesting that most people say mom's side.

I'm the OP, and it's the same here.

Dad's dad died young, and my paternal grandmother was always on the very old side. Loved us dearly, but she never was able to take care of us.

Mom's parents lived a few minutes away, picked us up from school, took us for long weekends, and even into adulthood took us all on vacations together.

[Anonymous]

Closer to Mom's side bc they lived four hours away by car and we saw them three or four times a year. My dad's parents were a plane ride away and my paternal grandmother was in the hospital for five of my first ten years, so it was hard for them to visit us. My dad usually went alone to see her. My paternal grandfather didn't seem to like little kids much but after my grandmother died we saw more of him, and I actually became closer to him when I was in HS and college. He taught me to drive and took me shopping for my first suit

[Anonymous]

Very close with my mom's side. I had a great-grandma who passed away a couple of weeks ago, my grandfather who passed away a few years ago, and my grandmother who is still living.

My dad's side my grandma died when I was 2 from breast cancer. I don't get along with my grandfather - we're cordial when we have to see each other. He's very bitter, very selfish, very manipulative, and very bigoted.

[Anonymous]

My mom's side. My dad's mother was okay, but she wasn't very warm. My mom's parents loved to be surrounded by lots of grandkids and spoiled us all rotten.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you grew up with 2 sets of grandparents, which are you closer with (mom's side or dad's), and why?

Mom's side. Saw them more.

[Anonymous]

Neither, really.

Mom's dad was deceased before I was born, mom's mom had a stroke when I was 3. So while we saw her weekly, her short term memory was not in tact, so she only very rarely remembered who I was and had no idea who my brother was since he was born after her stroke.

Dad's dad was an abusive alcoholic who mercifully left my grandma shortly after I was born. I think we saw him once a year on Christmas morning out of obligation until he died when I was 9. Dad's mom was a lovely women, but I was the second, less loved granddaughter because I was neither first nor a boy. The sun rose and set on my brother as the only male grandchild. So while she was very nice and we saw her at least once a month, she clearly favored my brother.

No one lived more than 20 minutes away.

[Anonymous]

Dad's mom always lived at least 5 hours away. She's my drinking buddy now though.

Stepmom's parents I've always tried to avoid.

[Anonymous]

Dad's mother, but not father (they were divorced and dad's father largely disappeared after).

My mom's parents had favorite children and my mom was not one of them. Therefore, they had favorites among the grandchildren and I was not one of them. We would see them at Christmas and they would buy presents for their favored grandchildren, but not for others, including me and my siblings.

My dad's mom would have (and did) do anything for us. I like to think she made up for my other grandparents.

[Anonymous]

In most cases it is the mom's side because the mom will gravitate toward her side of the family and will feel closer to them than her in laws (unless her family is crazy, issues, etc). I know that is how it is with me. I have a toddler and we see my mom a couple of times a week and my inlaws once a month. Both are nearby. It is also because my inlaws are not drop in kinds of people and need notice and my mom is quick to pitch in and we can randomly call her to drop DS off to go to an appointment or movie, or also can call her at the last minute to go to lunch, the park, etc with us.

[Anonymous]

Closer with my dad's. My maternal grandmother died when I was 1, my maternal grandfather died when I was 6.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you ask OP?

Why do you care why she asked?

[andrewsy03]

Not really close as I only got to see them only once or twice a month. But I wished I would've gotten to know them better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you ask OP?

Why do you care why she asked?

Wow. You're an ass! This is not an uncommon question on posts.
Maybe it was to see if op had a reason behind her original question or maybe OP has a scenario that others can relate to or use to further the conversation.