Do you ever regret you divorce?

[Anonymous]

Nope, not even for one second.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I regret it all the time. It was horrible and being a single mom is like running a marathon. But the kids and I are much happier.

How can you regret it if you are happier now?

Because I would have preferred to have a marriage that worked out and for my children to have a father in their lives.

It's not contradictory. On one hand, you loved someone enough to marry them and share a life. But the marriage didn't work out and you are better off without the constant stress when it was dying. Doesn't mean you still don't view it as a failure and wish things had been better.

[Anonymous]

A big reason for our divorce was that ex ignored me and our dc. Now he pays more attention to them (during visitation), but he's a crappy parent, and a bad influence. He also talks trash about me. So, in a way, I regret the divorce, because now I have to undo the harm he does while carefully not making him a "bad guy" to the kids.

Overall, though, divorce was the best decision.

[Anonymous]

I don't regret it, but it still hurts six months later. I didn't want to file. I HAD to file. I equate it to a drunk handing over his keys. I was too caught up by my ex-wife's spell. As long as I was married to her, I couldn't make decisions that were in my and my daughter's best interest.

Since the divorce, I've learned that there were really six other guys, not just the one I knew about. The week of the divorce she tried to shame me into thinking she really wanted to work it out. It turns out she had an abortion the same week after getting pregnant by one of the guys.

I made the right decision, but that doesn't make it hurt any less. My love for her didn't fade gradually. I went to bed happily married one night and woke up the next morning in a crisis. It takes a while for that to go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't regret it, but it still hurts six months later. I didn't want to file. I HAD to file. I equate it to a drunk handing over his keys. I was too caught up by my ex-wife's spell. As long as I was married to her, I couldn't make decisions that were in my and my daughter's best interest.

Since the divorce, I've learned that there were really six other guys, not just the one I knew about. The week of the divorce she tried to shame me into thinking she really wanted to work it out. It turns out she had an abortion the same week after getting pregnant by one of the guys.

I made the right decision, but that doesn't make it hurt any less. My love for her didn't fade gradually. I went to bed happily married one night and woke up the next morning in a crisis. It takes a while for that to go away.

Her loss. You sound like a compassionate father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't regret it, but it still hurts six months later. I didn't want to file. I HAD to file. I equate it to a drunk handing over his keys. I was too caught up by my ex-wife's spell. As long as I was married to her, I couldn't make decisions that were in my and my daughter's best interest.

Since the divorce, I've learned that there were really six other guys, not just the one I knew about. The week of the divorce she tried to shame me into thinking she really wanted to work it out. It turns out she had an abortion the same week after getting pregnant by one of the guys.

I made the right decision, but that doesn't make it hurt any less. My love for her didn't fade gradually. I went to bed happily married one night and woke up the next morning in a crisis. It takes a while for that to go away.

Her loss. You sound like a compassionate father.

You also sound like a guy who is self-aware, and has his head on straight. When you're ready, the next woman who gets you will be a lucky one.

[Anonymous]

No regrets. On some level I didn't have a choice either. He assaulted me and our child. I still have to deal with his lies but I don't allow them to effect me like they used to.

[Anonymous]

Hell no!?

[Anonymous]

Hell to the No!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't regret it, but it still hurts six months later. I didn't want to file. I HAD to file. I equate it to a drunk handing over his keys. I was too caught up by my ex-wife's spell. As long as I was married to her, I couldn't make decisions that were in my and my daughter's best interest.

Since the divorce, I've learned that there were really six other guys, not just the one I knew about. The week of the divorce she tried to shame me into thinking she really wanted to work it out. It turns out she had an abortion the same week after getting pregnant by one of the guys.

I made the right decision, but that doesn't make it hurt any less. My love for her didn't fade gradually. I went to bed happily married one night and woke up the next morning in a crisis. It takes a while for that to go away.

Buddy. sending good thoughts your way. No man or woman should have to go through that.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Wish we'd waited longer before having kids. Wished we'd stayed and just had a long separaton. I know we reallyyyy both miss each other now.

[Anonymous]

So much happier!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Wish we'd waited longer before having kids. Wished we'd stayed and just had a long separaton. I know we reallyyyy both miss each other now.

So try again! It's not too late.

[Anonymous]

My only regret is that I spent several years trying to convince myself that there was something there to save. I thought I owed that to my kids but now I realize that what they really deserve is a mother who isn't miserable. Yes, my life is much harder and I struggle with all sorts of logistics and financial things, but I'm so much happier. The person I was when I was married to him was a shadow of the person I am now.

[Anonymous]

NO, divorced by the grace of god!!!!!!!!!!