Do you argue or fight in front of the kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You want them to be able to see conflict and how it is resolved. Its not a bad thing.

But you don't want them to see fighting, cussing, and screaming matches.

This. We have arguments, but then we make sure that DD also sees it when we make up, say we are sorry, and say, "Let's start over and move on." I don't want her to fear conflict (DH"s family is like this) and to know that people can disagree, and then life goes on.

+1

Yelling at your kids is a whole other issue, though. Sure, everyone loses their patience at times, but condoning yelling because they need to know the consequences of their actions is poor reasoning. You can clearly tell someone how angry you are, and as a result x will happen without ever raising your voice.

[Anonymous]

Every couple has those moments where they get into it going back-and-forth about contentious issues or just being snarky and trying to one-up the other or get the last word in but when it comes to actual fighting (verbal) as in yelling and such, no DW and I don't do that. If things escalate to that level or if we suspect an issue is potentially so combative that it may escalate to that level we'll agree to talk about it later when we're alone and not in front of kids.

[Anonymous]

We don't think that healthy arguments need to be hidden from kids. All out fights, for sure, but we disagree in front of the kids, as did my parents (who had a wonderful healthy marriage), and feel like they are not hurt because of it.

[Anonymous]

Of course, arguments are normal and resolutions are normal. Our children are a lot more resilient than we believe.