can i make our dog secretly disappear?

[Anonymous]

No, you can not disappear your dog. You can though, get a trainer to help you train your puppy.

Also, don't give her up - you've already put in so much work - don't let somebody else reap the benefits.

[Anonymous]

OP, I know a few people that had to rehome difficult puppies. I would go with the honest approach and tell your child that puppy is too difficult. i'm sure your child sees this. If you really want a dog, you could try another breed right away, I know someone that did this and it worked out great.
They got a 2 or 3 year old so it wasn't as wild as a puppy.

If you keep your puppy, I agree with a PP that suggested crate training. That saved my sanity when we got a puppy. If you read up on it, you will see that it is actually very comforting to the dogs because they are den animals and not like jail. My dog is 5 and goes into his open crate on his own almost every day after my kids leave for school. I don't close the door, it is always open, it is just where he likes to sleep. You can give the puppy just one room of your house until he starts to behave. I had gates on my kitchen and later moved it to kitchen and family room. They start to calm down a lot around two.

[Anonymous]

I found this out many years later and I have never fovgiven her (there are many many more instances than this, though) - my mom put our dog in her car, drove to a remote area, and pushed her out of the car. Never saw her again. Only a horrible person could do something so vile!

Learn to love your dog, please. Give her a chance. Be a decent person.

[Anonymous]

I found this out many years later and I have never fovgiven her (there are many many more instances than this, though) - my mom put our dog in her car, drove to a remote area, and pushed her out of the car. Never saw her again. Only a horrible person could do something so vile!

Learn to love your dog, please. Give her a chance. Be a decent person.

This sounds like the shit my FIL did with dogs when DH was growing up. They lived in a rural area and had pet dogs and hunting dogs. If the pets were too destructive, or the hunting dogs got too old and slow, he would drive them and put them on the side of the road. He also beats dogs viciously if they chew or jump. DH has all kinds of other issues with his father--he's just not a nice person and is controlling and verbally abusive to his wife and kids. For some reason, he thinks he's Caesar Millan (he loves the Dog Whisperer show), although he only latches onto the "pack leader" and "being dominant" aspects, and none of the trust, exercise, being aware of dog body language, and affection aspects and completely misses the point. I'm never letting him near my dog.

[Anonymous]

That was our lab until she was two year old. Now that she is five, all she does is sleep, take walks, lay around and sleep.

[Anonymous]

OP, why did you get a puppy if you were not prepared to train it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why did you get a puppy if you were not prepared to train it?

Be easy on the OP. Some dogs are very difficult and don't fit in to the existing family dynamics.

[Anonymous]

Make your husband take over the brunt of the work since he wants to dog so much. If your husband won't do it or works too long every day then get rid of it. make sure you give it to a rescue organization or try to sell it on CL. Don't take it to the county animal shelter- that is the first place your husband and child will want to look for it. Be prepared to make signs and put them up to look for the dog.

[Anonymous]

What is dog mixed with? Currently experiencing something very similar and it is starting to stress and overwhelm everyone in house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is dog mixed with? Currently experiencing something very similar and it is starting to stress and overwhelm everyone in house.

OP got the puppy at 6 months and it is now 1 year. I don't know what chews/eats everything means. Some socks? Newspaper? We have a 4 month old lab puppy who still gets into stuff SOMETIMES but clearly distinguishes OBJECTS GIVEN to him from those found. Retrieves and drops. When rowdy puppy wild I walk away and don't play. He walks into his crate for some naps and at bedtime. He does need cuddle time and is now happily chewing a bone on the sofa next to DD. He is easier at 4 months in the house than a relatives 3.5 year rescue pitbull.

[Anonymous]

Ask for help, look for resources,

A place to start:
"Giving a Lab To Lab Rescue
It is never easy to make the decision to give up a lab. If you are considering giving up a lab to Lab Rescue, read through all of the information we have to offer. "

http://www.imis100us1.com/labs/LabRescue/Adoption_Center/Giving_Up_a_Lab/ALabRescue/LabRescuePages/Giving_Up_a_Lab/Give_Up_Lab_Main.aspx?hkey=eb7d4eea-0871-4da9-8497-93211e0114ce

[Anonymous]

Don't lie to your kids. Explain that the puppy is not a good fit. He/she needs a home with a yard and a more active family.

Put the dog up for adoption now, while he/she is still a puppy and has a chance at finding a good home.

And then tell the kids that they can get a more suitable pet. Maybe a cat would work better for your family. Or perhaps an older, more docile dog.

I don't agree with all of the "hire a trainer" people. Trainers can train dogs, yes. But no trainer will completely alter a dog's personality. and it sounds to me like you have an active dog and even if trained, he/she will be an active dog for another good 5 years before slowing down.

I think a far better plan would be to adopt out the puppy and look to adopt an older dog through a foster. That way, you'll know the dog's personality. You can specifically look for a dog with the right personality for your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't lie to your kids. Explain that the puppy is not a good fit. He/she needs a home with a yard and a more active family.

Put the dog up for adoption now, while he/she is still a puppy and has a chance at finding a good home.

And then tell the kids that they can get a more suitable pet. Maybe a cat would work better for your family. Or perhaps an older, more docile dog.

I don't agree with all of the "hire a trainer" people. Trainers can train dogs, yes. But no trainer will completely alter a dog's personality. and it sounds to me like you have an active dog and even if trained, he/she will be an active dog for another good 5 years before slowing down.

I think a far better plan would be to adopt out the puppy and look to adopt an older dog through a foster. That way, you'll know the dog's personality. You can specifically look for a dog with the right personality for your family.

I think the OP should do what she needs to do and just put the dog up for adoption, but why are you telling her to look for a more suitable pet? Clearly she is not a pet person. A cat could possibly be just as annoying, they get into things (especially young ones), you have to clean the litter box, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is dog mixed with? Currently experiencing something very similar and it is starting to stress and overwhelm everyone in house.

OP got the puppy at 6 months and it is now 1 year. I don't know what chews/eats everything means. Some socks? Newspaper? We have a 4 month old lab puppy who still gets into stuff SOMETIMES but clearly distinguishes OBJECTS GIVEN to him from those found. Retrieves and drops. When rowdy puppy wild I walk away and don't play. He walks into his crate for some naps and at bedtime. He does need cuddle time and is now happily chewing a bone on the sofa next to DD. He is easier at 4 months in the house than a relatives 3.5 year rescue pitbull.

There are even well trained dogs who never lose the chew-everything inclination. People just learn how to set the dog up for success by not leaving things around that the dog can destroy and/or wearing the dog out in other ways to minimize the chewing habit.

I think that the new trend is for people to say "hire a trainer" whenever someone has a dog who is incompatible with his/her family. Yes, training is good. And a good trainer can really help with undesirable behaviors. But dogs have personalities, too. They aren't automatons that some trainer will magically program to be the perfect pet for you.

The training helps compensate for certain personality issues, but some dogs have personalities that some human personalities will NEVER fit right with. And as much as you can train a dog and a human, teach them how to effectively communicate, learn how to establish some sense of order, routine, et cetera, you can't completely change a dog's personality. You can only help the dog to be the best he/she can be.

I think that this current emphasis on "any dog can be trained" really denies the reality that dogs are individuals, too. And sure, any dog can be trained, but not all dogs can be trained TO BE WHO YOU WANT THEM TO BE.

You have to be able to discern whether training will be enough or if the issue is that the dog is just not the right dog for you. For example, an active dog can't be trained to be a not active dog. You can only train to discipline and learn how to exercise the dog so that his/her active nature doesn't devolve into a neuroses. So if you don't want an active dog, no trainer in the world is going to solve your issue. The best thing is to find the dog a new home and try to find a less active, perhaps older, dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't lie to your kids. Explain that the puppy is not a good fit. He/she needs a home with a yard and a more active family.

Put the dog up for adoption now, while he/she is still a puppy and has a chance at finding a good home.

And then tell the kids that they can get a more suitable pet. Maybe a cat would work better for your family. Or perhaps an older, more docile dog.

I don't agree with all of the "hire a trainer" people. Trainers can train dogs, yes. But no trainer will completely alter a dog's personality. and it sounds to me like you have an active dog and even if trained, he/she will be an active dog for another good 5 years before slowing down.

I think a far better plan would be to adopt out the puppy and look to adopt an older dog through a foster. That way, you'll know the dog's personality. You can specifically look for a dog with the right personality for your family.

I think the OP should do what she needs to do and just put the dog up for adoption, but why are you telling her to look for a more suitable pet? Clearly she is not a pet person. A cat could possibly be just as annoying, they get into things (especially young ones), you have to clean the litter box, etc.

Because it's clear from OP's post that the rest of her family wants a pet and likes having an animal around. So a compromise would be to find a pet that doesn't annoy the crap out of OP. Even though OP won't lavish the pet with attention, it sounds like OP's husband and children will.

It's not like OP's entire household hates pets/animals. So the key is to find an animal that doesn't drive OP crazy, so that her children and husband can still have what they want, which is an animal companion.

If OP were a single person or if OP's husband didn't like having a dog, then no, I wouldn't suggest a pet. But it is clear that the problem is that OP is the only one in the house who hates the dog. So OP should be honest with the others and work out a compromise, which is lets find a pet that OP can live with. There are so many different kinds of dogs and cats. That's why I suggested a dog or cat that has been fostered, so that the foster person can tell them the animal's personality and increase the chances of a successful match.

OP's kids and husband are less likely to be bitter toward OP if it isn't just "i hate the dog, no pets at all." Being in a family means compromise, and I think pets are good for children.