I just want to be friends

[Anonymous]

I'd leave it alone OP. If you seriously don't want a romantic entanglement then don't poke the beehive.

Either he's uncomfortable because he senses your attraction and isn't interested or doesn't want the entanglement. Or he's trying to be respectful of the fact that you're a married woman. Or he's just not as into you and a friendship as you imagine. Or he is into you but is smart enough to keep some boundaries up so he doesn't get into a mess, or who knows what other scenarios there are.

It doesn't really matter. You're in no position to push for a deeper relationship and it doesn't sound like he is wanting you to. In fact, he may actually be discouraging it. You sound like you're looking for trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd leave it alone OP. If you seriously don't want a romantic entanglement then don't poke the beehive.

Either he's uncomfortable because he senses your attraction and isn't interested or doesn't want the entanglement. Or he's trying to be respectful of the fact that you're a married woman. Or he's just not as into you and a friendship as you imagine. Or he is into you but is smart enough to keep some boundaries up so he doesn't get into a mess, or who knows what other scenarios there are.

It doesn't really matter. You're in no position to push for a deeper relationship and it doesn't sound like he is wanting you to. In fact, he may actually be discouraging it. You sound like you're looking for trouble.

OP, you are playing with the locks of Pandora's box by trying to forge a friendship with a man you're attracted to. What you really need to do is to back off for a while until the attraction fades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd leave it alone OP. If you seriously don't want a romantic entanglement then don't poke the beehive.

Either he's uncomfortable because he senses your attraction and isn't interested or doesn't want the entanglement. Or he's trying to be respectful of the fact that you're a married woman. Or he's just not as into you and a friendship as you imagine. Or he is into you but is smart enough to keep some boundaries up so he doesn't get into a mess, or who knows what other scenarios there are.

It doesn't really matter. You're in no position to push for a deeper relationship and it doesn't sound like he is wanting you to. In fact, he may actually be discouraging it. You sound like you're looking for trouble.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He does want to be friends. He's the one who initiates most conversations, etc. . .
No, I won't be banging him.
I am attracted to him. He might guess that but I'll never tell him. But whatever he may feel for me, the facts remain the same: mutual or not, we won't do anything about it. I know him well enough to know that he has the capability to keep his hands to himself and his mouth shut on that topic. I can too.
I can't say it because he doesn't acknowledge the awkwardness / tension / whatever. I have other guy friends without this tension and with them I could say it in a joking fashion, though I don't need to. Somehow he's just really strange about this.

How come you have so mAy guy friends you are attracted to? you are married now.

[Anonymous]

Easy: tell him you are trying to figure out which of your friends to set him up with. Let's him know you are interested.

[Anonymous]

Drop him. You are a married woman. You don't need a friendship that causes you to seek advice on a relationship board.

[Anonymous]

Stop seeking a valid excuse to fool around and just fuck him already. There is no justification for your wanton wishes.

[Anonymous]

16:37 tried that. He let me introduce them at a party but then showed no interest.
16:20 I'm not attracted to anyone else at the moment. I can't control who interests me, only what I do or don't do about it.