Filing for divorce

[Anonymous]

OP here, absolutely not a hundredth of the summary of the shit he has pulled. Too long for this thread. Thanks for some of the thoughts above. Whole purpose of posting is to be reintroduced to reality. I know that I am 99.9% luckier than most humans on this earth. However, this man treats me and others like shit with no remorse. Possibly it is the hand I have dealt myself. But possibly it was the hand I dealt myself at a time that I simply felt that I wasn't worth anymore than he had to offer. But I'm crawling out of that mold and, terrifying as it may be, it doesn't make me needy or immature or selfish. So, PP, fuck yourself. You cannot speak to what you do not know. Best of luck in your new year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, absolutely not a hundredth of the summary of the shit he has pulled. Too long for this thread. Thanks for some of the thoughts above. Whole purpose of posting is to be reintroduced to reality. I know that I am 99.9% luckier than most humans on this earth. However, this man treats me and others like shit with no remorse. Possibly it is the hand I have dealt myself. But possibly it was the hand I dealt myself at a time that I simply felt that I wasn't worth anymore than he had to offer. But I'm crawling out of that mold and, terrifying as it may be, it doesn't make me needy or immature or selfish. So, PP, fuck yourself. You cannot speak to what you do not know. Best of luck in your new year.

Why so nasty? I simply asked a question and even said that some of the behavior was reprehensible.

[Anonymous]

OP - I hear you girl! What you describe is exactly how my ex-husband treated me. Best thing I did was move out. Don't be afraid! You deserve to be treated with respect. And your kids need to know that its ok to leave a bad relationship, especially if the husband doesn't want to work on it. My ex refused counseling because "everything was my fault". NOT! Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Oh and we were married for 10 years, 14 year relationship and I moved out when my daughter was almost 5. Hard on her but honestly the best thing I did for myself. Getting away from the constant negativity has been WONDERFUL!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, absolutely not a hundredth of the summary of the shit he has pulled. Too long for this thread. Thanks for some of the thoughts above. Whole purpose of posting is to be reintroduced to reality. I know that I am 99.9% luckier than most humans on this earth. However, this man treats me and others like shit with no remorse. Possibly it is the hand I have dealt myself. But possibly it was the hand I dealt myself at a time that I simply felt that I wasn't worth anymore than he had to offer. But I'm crawling out of that mold and, terrifying as it may be, it doesn't make me needy or immature or selfish. So, PP, fuck yourself. You cannot speak to what you do not know. Best of luck in your new year.

Why so nasty? I simply asked a question and even said that some of the behavior was reprehensible.

I was referencing the spoiled, selfish poster, so sorry.

[Anonymous]

saw this subject. i read somewhere once the husband was talking to a marrage counsoler, he said what would you miss the most about your wife if you divorced her, the man said her cooking, dr. said get divorced. my case i wouldnt even miss that, if i dont cook, her idea of meals are stick in microwave or go out. i work 50+ hours a week, she is a SAHM kids are 8 and 10 so they are in school most of the day, all she does is sleep and complain about me. she does have depression(takes meds). she said i dont know how to handle money or the bills. we were using her disability checks to pay the monthly mortgage, but for some reason the last 2 months she took HER money out to spend for christmas, never mind we are already behind on mortgage and are set up and a re-payment plan to get caught up. i'm to the point i what a divorce but im here for the kids. we have 1 car, she is not working and the state decided since she can go to church every sunday she can get a job and kicked her off disibility starting next month. 8 years ago i said, she has no common sense (cant remember what she did, but common sense should have kicked in first) she then decide i was calling her stupid, took an OD, thats how she deals with our fights, says she going to take all her pills. its to the point if she does succede, i am only worried there is no way to raise 2 young boys with my work schedule and the money i make cant afford a babysitter or nanny. her mom only hears wife side of things, thinks im bad with the kids, has offered to take the kids to raise them, i may take her up the offer and leave. but she can sit here and be-little me every day, then wonder why i dont want to snuggle or cozy up to her. ok, thanks for finally letting me vent