Withdraw admissions application

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's one of the "big 3". After visiting the school and knowing a couple of students that attend the lower school (from an after school class each week), I realized that the environment would not be a good fit for my DC. It may sound strange, but DC is too polite and well mannered for that caliber of students. I am afraid he would be trampled, physically and emotionally. Academically, he is already advanced. Are these worries justified?

My son scored 99%ile and he is a minority, so likely to get into a biggie. He is also very polite and reserved. I am also concerned about the trampling, so we are looking at public or Oneness. I get the impression from my dd's school that the privates don't manage the bullies as well as publics do.

What's up with all the concern about trampling? Your children will be fine. Life's not *polite and well-mannered*.

[Anonymous]

It depends what "polite and well-mannered" and "trampling" are euphanisms for.

[Anonymous]

Our DC is also well-mannered, a little shy, and gifted. I have a family member who taught at one of the big 3 for 10 years. I asked her advice because she knows our child so well. She encouraged us to send DC in the early years to WES where DC "will get a top-notch education without the pressure."

(When you get a teacher from one of these schools to talk candidly, they WILL own up to the pressure that these kids feel. Though according to my family member, it comes from the parents at these schools, not the schools themselves).

It is working out well, and we're glad that we followed her advice. DC is thriving, her sweetness and confidence are intact, and we do intend to eventually apply to one of the top-name schools in a few years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends what "polite and well-mannered" and "trampling" are euphanisms for.

What are they euphamisms for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our DC is also well-mannered, a little shy, and gifted. I have a family member who taught at one of the big 3 for 10 years. I asked her advice because she knows our child so well. She encouraged us to send DC in the early years to WES where DC "will get a top-notch education without the pressure."

(When you get a teacher from one of these schools to talk candidly, they WILL own up to the pressure that these kids feel. Though according to my family member, it comes from the parents at these schools, not the schools themselves).

It is working out well, and we're glad that we followed her advice. DC is thriving, her sweetness and confidence are intact, and we do intend to eventually apply to one of the top-name schools in a few years.

Sounds like good advice from a teacher's perspective. But from an admission's standpoint, isn't it slightly risky? I mean how much pressure can there really be at Beauvoir, which will get you entree to NCS and GDS. WES does sound lovely, but I don't think outplacement is yet one of their strong suits.

[Anonymous]

If you know that you do not want your DC to attend a given school you should withdraw your application. 1. Why decrease another childs chances if you have already determined that you are no longer interested in the school. 2. Save some trees - the school will continue to send you tons of mail. Do you really need to day "no thanks" to feel validated?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you or should you withdraw an application that has been submitted to a school? We are really not interested in the school and got caught up in "applying to the top schools" process after receiving extremely high WPPSI scores. If by some miracle DC is accepted, I would prefer he not attend this school. So do I withdraw now or just go through the rest of the admissions process? Thanks.

This is not a big deal. Just send an email or call to say you want to withdraw the application. No fanfare needed. Pretty simple. Given one less applicant to review among hundreds and probably one less waitlist letter to mail, the school will be thrilled I'm sure. I doubt they will give your withdrawal a second thought.

[Anonymous]

Do you get your application fee back? I doubt it so just let it play out. After admissions offers arrive schools might have more events that could change your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's one of the "big 3". After visiting the school and knowing a couple of students that attend the lower school (from an after school class each week), I realized that the environment would not be a good fit for my DC. It may sound strange, but DC is too polite and well mannered for that caliber of students. I am afraid he would be trampled, physically and emotionally. Academically, he is already advanced. Are these worries justified?

My son scored 99%ile and he is a minority, so likely to get into a biggie. He is also very polite and reserved. I am also concerned about the trampling, so we are looking at public or Oneness. I get the impression from my dd's school that the privates don't manage the bullies as well as publics do.

Where does DD go to school?