Hope for overweight spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the overweight spouse. I successfully lost about 50 lbs. five years ago. Here is what DH did to help:

* Complied with my requests to keep his junk food out of the house (he is slim due to The World's Best Metabolism, but doesn't eat well)

* Ate the Weight Watchers recipes I prepared without complaint

* If I had enough "points" to enjoy one glass of wine, he had one glass of wine with me - but he didn't have three while I only got to have one. That helped because I didn't feel like I was missing out. (When he was with other people, he had as much of anything as he wanted, I didn't care...just don't indulge in my face while I'm practicing moderation, you know? Especially when it's all new.)

* He trusted me, he didn't nag if he saw me eating a chocolate bar because he (rightly) assumed I had accounted for the "points."

* He went to the gym with me.

* But - he never never pushed or pressured or made me feel like his love was conditional on weight loss. It helped a lot that he fortunately was able to remain attracted to me at a bigger size. (In fact, he enjoyed the increased bra size quite a bit.)

Your DH sounds wonderful and supportive.

[Anonymous]

How much weight loss are we talking, OP? I think the PP who listed the ideas was right on. DHs can be insufferable about it even if the amounts are minimal. I speak from experience as someone who was within normal limits but wanted to lose 5-10 pounds. DH's constant nagging and asking me to weigh my food and severely restrict my portion sizes nearly sent me around the bend. Don't do that.

Signed,
5'4" 120 lbs

[Anonymous]

Talking about 50-60 pounds

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was the overweight spouse. I successfully lost about 50 lbs. five years ago. Here is what DH did to help:

* Complied with my requests to keep his junk food out of the house (he is slim due to The World's Best Metabolism, but doesn't eat well)

* Ate the Weight Watchers recipes I prepared without complaint

* If I had enough "points" to enjoy one glass of wine, he had one glass of wine with me - but he didn't have three while I only got to have one. That helped because I didn't feel like I was missing out. (When he was with other people, he had as much of anything as he wanted, I didn't care...just don't indulge in my face while I'm practicing moderation, you know? Especially when it's all new.)

* He trusted me, he didn't nag if he saw me eating a chocolate bar because he (rightly) assumed I had accounted for the "points."

* He went to the gym with me.

* But - he never never pushed or pressured or made me feel like his love was conditional on weight loss. It helped a lot that he fortunately was able to remain attracted to me at a bigger size. (In fact, he enjoyed the increased bra size quite a bit.)

Your DH sounds wonderful and supportive.

+1!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was the overweight spouse. I successfully lost about 50 lbs. five years ago. Here is what DH did to help:

* Complied with my requests to keep his junk food out of the house (he is slim due to The World's Best Metabolism, but doesn't eat well)

* Ate the Weight Watchers recipes I prepared without complaint

* If I had enough "points" to enjoy one glass of wine, he had one glass of wine with me - but he didn't have three while I only got to have one. That helped because I didn't feel like I was missing out. (When he was with other people, he had as much of anything as he wanted, I didn't care...just don't indulge in my face while I'm practicing moderation, you know? Especially when it's all new.)

* He trusted me, he didn't nag if he saw me eating a chocolate bar because he (rightly) assumed I had accounted for the "points."

* He went to the gym with me.

* But - he never never pushed or pressured or made me feel like his love was conditional on weight loss. It helped a lot that he fortunately was able to remain attracted to me at a bigger size. (In fact, he enjoyed the increased bra size quite a bit.)

Your DH sounds wonderful and supportive.

+1