What are your sleeping arrangements and how is you intimacy?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I sleep on a single mattress. Yes, a single. It's cramped and irritating but we live in a tiny apartment and even if we could afford it, there is no room for a bigger bed. The upside is that we both love to cuddle - we usually fall asleep spooning and I will eventually roll to my tummy, but if either one of us stirs in the night we'll go back to spooning.

[Anonymous]

King size; sleep with a wide gap between us. Sex about every other week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and I sleep on a single mattress. Yes, a single. It's cramped and irritating but we live in a tiny apartment and even if we could afford it, there is no room for a bigger bed. The upside is that we both love to cuddle - we usually fall asleep spooning and I will eventually roll to my tummy, but if either one of us stirs in the night we'll go back to spooning.

OP here. If it wasn't for my habit of pulling a leg up when I sleep, I think we could sleep on a twin. It would be reminiscent of the college days.

[Anonymous]

We sleep together in a king bed. We fall asleep cuddled a little (usually spooning) but go our separate ways at some point during the night.

Intimacy/comfort/sex life is great.

Even when we shared a full-sized bed in our 20s, we didn't really sleep all entangled. Not our thing.

But I would not be okay with sleeping in separate rooms. That was the beginning of the end for my parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and I sleep on a single mattress. Yes, a single. It's cramped and irritating but we live in a tiny apartment and even if we could afford it, there is no room for a bigger bed. The upside is that we both love to cuddle - we usually fall asleep spooning and I will eventually roll to my tummy, but if either one of us stirs in the night we'll go back to spooning.

Reminds me of college days, sleeping over in my gf's tiny dorm bed. I don't know that I could sleep like that now. But then it was great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you still share a bedroom? What size bed? Do you sleep back to back? Face to face? Holding hands? Do you feel you have a high level of intimacy (not necessarily sexual) or a high level of comfort with you spouse/SO?

I ask because DH and I have recently gone from a king to a full sized bed during a move and we actually love it. We sleep like a pretzel with our legs woven together and arms wrapped or linked or hands being held. I feel like I sleep better knowing I'm not alone. In our king bed, we had a tendency to separate and have no contact at all. You could've put 2 more people between us most nights. I don't know if the small bed requiring us to be close is what did it or what, but I feel like our relationship has impoved, even with the moving stress.

THis is my very definition of night time misery. I also do not equate being in an effective furnace of 98 degree bodies as intimacy. We sleep in a king bed and when it is time for sleep we move to our separate sides.

Our mantra is that beds are for two thing and two things only…fucking and sleeping. We will be curled up on the sofa in about 30 minuets watching a moving and drinking a big glass of red wine. I will probably end up with my head in his lap and I will get a heavenly head massage…that is more my style than being a sweaty mess at 2AM.

[Anonymous]

We sleep in a queen but I want a king. DH jerks, twitches and snores and it is causing me to lose sleep.

Can we buy two XL twins instead of a king, and put them together? Wouldn't that be the same size?

[Anonymous]

King bed with separate comforters. We snuggle and do the crossword together before we go to sleep, but each sleep on our separate side. High level of intimacy.

[Anonymous]

queen with a kid between us. no intimacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:queen with a kid between us. no intimacy.

I was wondering why there weren't any cosleepers in this thread yet.

I will probably end up with my head in his lap and I will get a heavenly head massage…

That is not what I was expecting would happen with your head in his lap.