Ex dropped his kid off at my house

[Anonymous]

Totally unaceeptable on your exs part. However, keep in mind that this is your kids sibling. Seems like especially as they get older they might want to have away dates at your house (but upon your invite only!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: no intentions on being unkind to the kid. I set up a movie and toys for them to keep busy and try not to wake up my youngest, who's napping.
I wish I could call the kid's mom, since I'm sure she has no idea where her child is. The part that infuriates me is that he's probably doing the same thing to my child.

Call the mother. No number? Call your ex and get her number and address. He must have them since he got the kid from some where. Tell him you have plans and need to drop off his kid in 1.5 hours. That gives you DC time to play and you have a direct way out of his weird and playerish lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

Do you know for certain this is your ex's child? Even if you do, if the mother did not consent to this, it could constitute kidnapping. OP it sounds like you just don't have enough info to assume this all legit (but annoying). I think you absolutely have to have CPS. You're putting yourself in a very dangerous situation by not reporting it.

[Anonymous]

Call 911? MADNESS! This will be very upsetting to both children.

Have you called your ex, OP? I'd call/text him every few minutes and then if he doesn't answer log the times you called and save the unanswered texts This will document attempts to reach him.

Please update us.

[Anonymous]

Update: he picked up the kid about 2h later. I chose not to call the police because my child has anxiety issues and I didn't want to make that worse. I did call and say he had 20 min to pick the child up, which he did. I have proof of all this and will be contacting my lawyer in the morning to figure out how to keep this from happening to my child.

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Anonymous wrote:Update: he picked up the kid about 2h later. I chose not to call the police because my child has anxiety issues and I didn't want to make that worse. I did call and say he had 20 min to pick the child up, which he did. I have proof of all this and will be contacting my lawyer in the morning to figure out how to keep this from happening to my child.

Unless you can be with him all the time you can't. How old is your child?

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5

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So he left a 5 year old and 3 year old on the porch as he drove away? What a complete jackass. I would let him know that you will call the police the next time he tries a stunt like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know for certain this is your ex's child? Even if you do, if the mother did not consent to this, it could constitute kidnapping. OP it sounds like you just don't have enough info to assume this all legit (but annoying). I think you absolutely have to have CPS. You're putting yourself in a very dangerous situation by not reporting it.

When a parent has custody or visitation, they can take their child where they want, and leave it with whom they want, and it's not kidnapping. The other parent does not need to consent. In this circumstance it's not OK, and it might constitute negligence given that the father didn't seem to ask permission to leave the child, or even watch to make sure an adult was home, but it's not kidnapping.

[Anonymous]

This may not be negligence, either, if he waited until OP opened the door. In any event, it is not cool and I'm glad OP is contacting her attorney. I hope your attorney gets the name of the mother and makes sure she knows what her child's father is doing when her child is with him.

Good luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

If he did that with his 3 yr old child he's probably doing it with your child. I'd report to CPS and do whatever you can for the poor dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This may not be negligence, either, if he waited until OP opened the door. In any event, it is not cool and I'm glad OP is contacting her attorney. I hope your attorney gets the name of the mother and makes sure she knows what her child's father is doing when her child is with him.

Good luck, OP.

OP here: yes, he waited till I opened the door, shouted from his car "I'll be back" and drove off. I didn't think it could be considered kidnapping on his part, since he's the dad, but I did consider if it could be seen as kidnapping on my part. I do have all this documented. Calls, pictures, all of it.

[Anonymous]

You need to find out your ex's girlfriend's name and number and address. It's likely that he has left your child with her in the same way. You need to get to know her, and talk to your ex about this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know for certain this is your ex's child? Even if you do, if the mother did not consent to this, it could constitute kidnapping. OP it sounds like you just don't have enough info to assume this all legit (but annoying). I think you absolutely have to have CPS. You're putting yourself in a very dangerous situation by not reporting it.

When a parent has custody or visitation, they can take their child where they want, and leave it with whom they want, and it's not kidnapping. The other parent does not need to consent. In this circumstance it's not OK, and it might constitute negligence given that the father didn't seem to ask permission to leave the child, or even watch to make sure an adult was home, but it's not kidnapping.

Some custody agreements have a 'right of first refusal' clause for babysitting. My sister cannot leave her kid w/ any babysitter unless the Ex has said he isn't free to watch the kid.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know for certain this is your ex's child? Even if you do, if the mother did not consent to this, it could constitute kidnapping. OP it sounds like you just don't have enough info to assume this all legit (but annoying). I think you absolutely have to have CPS. You're putting yourself in a very dangerous situation by not reporting it.

When a parent has custody or visitation, they can take their child where they want, and leave it with whom they want, and it's not kidnapping. The other parent does not need to consent. In this circumstance it's not OK, and it might constitute negligence given that the father didn't seem to ask permission to leave the child, or even watch to make sure an adult was home, but it's not kidnapping.

Some custody agreements have a 'right of first refusal' clause for babysitting. My sister cannot leave her kid w/ any babysitter unless the Ex has said he isn't free to watch the kid.

Right, but even with that clause, it wouldn't be considered kidnapping for the other caregiver.