Polyamory: When three isn't a crowd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Date lab sponsored a match like that this week. See the WaPo magazine.

I am the only person who was really offended by the Date Lab story this week? Thank goodness my kids are still too young to read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every time I read about or watch a show about these groupings, despite their protestations it's always apparent that someone is getting the shaft (in a bad way). It's usually the case that the woman still has warm feelings for the first boyfriend but wants to bone someone else, so she convinces boyfriend 1 (who's massively beta) that open-minded, enlightened people can free themselves from the shackles of monogamy imposed by society. So, to save his dignity, he tells himself and the world that he chose this lifestyle. Meanwhile, he dies a little inside every time he hears his girlfriend getting it from boyfriend 2., who cruelly flaunts it in his face because, after all, he's totally cool with it!

I kind of feel the same way, and know lots of people who follow this lifestyle. Another issue I find is that it's never the attractive people who are in poly relationships. I'm surprised most people in them could find even one person willing to f*c! them long-term, let alone two.

"Lots" of people? Seriously? Define "lots."

[Anonymous]

I curse how jealous I am, because I've always thought it would be nice to live with a man and a woman. It rounds things out nicely. I know it would never work for us, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I curse how jealous I am, because I've always thought it would be nice to live with a man and a woman. It rounds things out nicely. I know it would never work for us, though.

Agree. Would be nice if it could work....

[Anonymous]

All the real life stories make it look and sound ugly - no one is well in both body and mind but I wonder if that causes them to seek out this lifestyle or if the stress of it makes them ill. If it could be more like Big Love with less murder, I would it more appealing.

[Anonymous]

I live a poly lifestyle, I'm not ugly or issue ridden or insecure. My long-term partner and I have an extraordinary trusting and loving relationship, but we don't live together and only see each other 2-3 times a week. Everyone has their way or reason. I'll talk about mine if you're interested, but its a bit different than many folks I've met. Self growth, pushing boundaries, etc. Funny thing is, with stable, true folks that have interesting/creative lives, you almost forget about it. My man has been too busy to care about other ladies, same with me. It's not a big deal because we get so much from each other. I do think that's the critical thing, if you wish to explore this path- your relationship has to be rock solid. Many folks don't have that and enter these relationships with wrong intention. Drama ensues.

Also. I think it's sad if anyone believes that a reality show would show any real truth. They are manufactured to get a reaction, for ratings.
Making fun of those you deem unattractive is grade school shallow. I'd dump a man that engaged in that sort of talk.

Love, is love, between consenting adults, why do you care?