Sister and BIL embezzling from mom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thats amazing that your sister relinquished POA voluntarily. I'm surprised. But I think this is a case of be careful what you wish for. I hope things work out for you - truly I do, now that you are holding the bag for your mom.

This will become of my DH's parents. His conniving brother WILL clean them out of hundreds of thousands of dollars, we won't get 1 penny. But I swear to god, because that's the case, I will refuse to do anything as far as setting up the parents assisted living, nursing home, etc. care. If my BIL and his shit wife are going to take them to the cleaners, they can do all the cleaning of the mess too. I have already let go of resentment over us getting zero. It will happen. And it's not fair.

So in this your biggest resentment is that you will get nothing...not that the conniving brother is endangering and bankrupting the elderly parents?
Geez...are u any better than the BIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thats amazing that your sister relinquished POA voluntarily. I'm surprised. But I think this is a case of be careful what you wish for. I hope things work out for you - truly I do, now that you are holding the bag for your mom.

This will become of my DH's parents. His conniving brother WILL clean them out of hundreds of thousands of dollars, we won't get 1 penny. But I swear to god, because that's the case, I will refuse to do anything as far as setting up the parents assisted living, nursing home, etc. care. If my BIL and his shit wife are going to take them to the cleaners, they can do all the cleaning of the mess too. I have already let go of resentment over us getting zero. It will happen. And it's not fair.

So in this your biggest resentment is that you will get nothing...not that the conniving brother is endangering and bankrupting the elderly parents?
Geez...are u any better than the BIL?

Or that they'll be asked to bail the parents out once the BIL takes all the $$$.

[Anonymous]

If they have been kind to you mother in other ways, and the amount they have taken is less than what it would cost for full-time care, maybe it is not a big deal assuming you don't want to take on the responsibility of caring for your mom.