Am I crazy for this to upset me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree that the gift money should be shared. My mother gives me money (like $100 or $200) in a card every year for my birthday. I should share that with my husband? His parents do the same, I would never expect him to share it with me.

There is a difference between $100-200 for your birthday and a substantial amount of money.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why you have separate accounts when you're married. My DH and I have all joint accounts and we've NEVER had any issues. You are married and have a child together, how can your money be separate? If you trust someone enough to marry them and have a child with them, how can you not trust them enough to combine your assets?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. No, he doesn't feel like a partner in raising the baby. We have a 15 month old. He leaves everything to me, which is fine because I work less than he does, but, sometimes, on weekends, I need a little help. I usually have to ask. He disappears into his office when he feels like it. He only takes her when she's all clean and quiet. He says "he'll clean up" but I never see him actually do it. I can deal with all of this, but I can't deal with him constantly turning disagreements with him back on me. He always says that I think he always has really bad motives. He said I had depression after the baby. He said I was holding a grudge against his dad for not inviting me on a trip (and just said his dad was "sentimental"). His dad only invited my husband adn daughter. He often misremembers events or says he did things that I clearly know he did not.

When I married him, I thought he was kind and considerate and ambitious in all the best ways. Now, I have knots in my stomach because I'm so unsure...I'm a little scared. I need to figure out what I can do to fix things.

Gaslighting

Counseling, asap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree that the gift money should be shared. My mother gives me money (like $100 or $200) in a card every year for my birthday. I should share that with my husband? His parents do the same, I would never expect him to share it with me.

There is a difference between $100-200 for your birthday and a substantial amount of money.

+1. DH's parents give DH the full amount excluded from gift tax every year, 28k most recently. Of course he shares it with me and our children. We are married, we are a family.

OP, your DH does not understand what it means to be married and be a father. Counseling will help, make him go. He is being a selfish jackass.

[Anonymous]

1. Your husband is wrong on so many levels.

2. Why do you use credit cards to buy non-essentials like vacations?