Sigh, sigh.....What to do now?

[Anonymous]

How can you possibly attract a good guy in your life with this loser hanging around.

Step 1: Kick the loser to the curb. Contact public domestic violence counselors (look under your county's family court division) if you are scared for advice and help if need be.

Step 2: Move - If in an apartment, you could see if another unit is available in the same development. I agree with the PP's advice, talk to the landlord. Paint the picture, tell the landlord of your boyfriend's criminal history, they will probably agree to let you out of your lease or let you move to another available unit. Helping you will help get your boyfriend out of their property.

Step 3: You should probably seek individual counseling to find out choices you are making that are attracting men like your boyfriend to walk over you. People can only treat you how bad you let them. Why did you let your boyfriend move in with you anyway? Wouldn't just the fact that he has a history of domestic violence and a rap sheet be enough to keep you from having any type of relationship with him? A leopard will not change his spots. He served time for a reason. Why would you want someone like that in your life? You deserve better. Anyone deserves better. Sets your expectations higher and you will find a good guy. A counselor can help you with this process.

[Anonymous]

This is OP's third post of this nature, and I believe she was called out as a troll, yet continued to post. So very strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP's third post of this nature, and I believe she was called out as a troll, yet continued to post. So very strange.

Isn't she a nanny too? Scary. She's posted a few different troll posts on this forum and she honestly sounds mentally unstable. I really hope she gets help before something happens to the children she's in charge of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I don't understand it. Where are all the good guys at?
Yes, I did have a horrid relationship with my father. But seriously....?? It seems every guy I meet is a jerk slash loser.

The guy I am currently dating just got evicted from a room he was renting for non-payment of rent and now he is living at my apt. His car isn't running and I seriously doubt he will ever have the money to fix it. (Cat Converter issue, $1,000 repair.) Plus, he needs to register it and insure it which he most likely won't have the money to do.

He works two hrs a night cleaning up after events and only makes about $300-$400 every two wks.

Since he has been living with me, he hasn't paid any rent or helped out with the electricity and water. He promised he would, but when his check comes, he always claims he needs to buy such and such and that his next check he will help me out. Never happens.

He eats my food and when he runs out of money, he begs me to go to the market and get more.
I drive him around town on my own dime, I "loan" him money I never see again and when he is down and out, I am the one who saves his ass.

And yet last night we had an argument about him not improving his life.
He laughed in my face and told me I WAS the loser. That I was a terrible person and that my parents did a horrid job of raising me. He stated that I was a liar in denial just like his bitch ass mom. <--- His exact words. He hates his parents, siblings and all of his ex's. He blames them all for screwing up his life. His mom has a protective order on him as we speak. The only time we get along is when he smokes weed and is relaxed.

I want to kick him to the curb, but he has a violent history.
He spent some time in the pokey for domestic violence and he has severe anger issues.

I am just terrified if I kick him out and he is on the streets, he will turn meaner and try to seek revenge.
He once told me when he was mad at me, "You know what?? I have been to prison....I learned life skills there. I can destroy EVERY element of your life if I so chose to. But you are not worth an ounce of my time and effort."

Help.
What should I do?

You need to call Tyrone.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I don't understand it. Where are all the good guys at?
Yes, I did have a horrid relationship with my father. But seriously....?? It seems every guy I meet is a jerk slash loser.

The guy I am currently dating just got evicted from a room he was renting for non-payment of rent and now he is living at my apt. His car isn't running and I seriously doubt he will ever have the money to fix it. (Cat Converter issue, $1,000 repair.) Plus, he needs to register it and insure it which he most likely won't have the money to do.

He works two hrs a night cleaning up after events and only makes about $300-$400 every two wks.

Since he has been living with me, he hasn't paid any rent or helped out with the electricity and water. He promised he would, but when his check comes, he always claims he needs to buy such and such and that his next check he will help me out. Never happens.

He eats my food and when he runs out of money, he begs me to go to the market and get more.
I drive him around town on my own dime, I "loan" him money I never see again and when he is down and out, I am the one who saves his ass.

And yet last night we had an argument about him not improving his life.
He laughed in my face and told me I WAS the loser. That I was a terrible person and that my parents did a horrid job of raising me. He stated that I was a liar in denial just like his bitch ass mom. <--- His exact words. He hates his parents, siblings and all of his ex's. He blames them all for screwing up his life. His mom has a protective order on him as we speak. The only time we get along is when he smokes weed and is relaxed.

I want to kick him to the curb, but he has a violent history.
He spent some time in the pokey for domestic violence and he has severe anger issues.

I am just terrified if I kick him out and he is on the streets, he will turn meaner and try to seek revenge.
He once told me when he was mad at me, "You know what?? I have been to prison....I learned life skills there. I can destroy EVERY element of your life if I so chose to. But you are not worth an ounce of my time and effort."

Help.
What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Holy Cow...if this is real, why are you even with him??? Is he funny? Good-looking? Does he have a schwanschtooker the size of an Italian bologna?

Step 1: change locks
Step 2: restraining order
Step 3: stay indoors until you figure out what the fuck you are doing with your life.

[Anonymous]

This is a known troll. Pathetic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I don't understand it. Where are all the good guys at?
Yes, I did have a horrid relationship with my father. But seriously....?? It seems every guy I meet is a jerk slash loser.

The guy I am currently dating just got evicted from a room he was renting for non-payment of rent and now he is living at my apt. His car isn't running and I seriously doubt he will ever have the money to fix it. (Cat Converter issue, $1,000 repair.) Plus, he needs to register it and insure it which he most likely won't have the money to do.

He works two hrs a night cleaning up after events and only makes about $300-$400 every two wks.

Since he has been living with me, he hasn't paid any rent or helped out with the electricity and water. He promised he would, but when his check comes, he always claims he needs to buy such and such and that his next check he will help me out. Never happens.

He eats my food and when he runs out of money, he begs me to go to the market and get more.
I drive him around town on my own dime, I "loan" him money I never see again and when he is down and out, I am the one who saves his ass.

And yet last night we had an argument about him not improving his life.
He laughed in my face and told me I WAS the loser. That I was a terrible person and that my parents did a horrid job of raising me. He stated that I was a liar in denial just like his bitch ass mom. <--- His exact words. He hates his parents, siblings and all of his ex's. He blames them all for screwing up his life. His mom has a protective order on him as we speak. The only time we get along is when he smokes weed and is relaxed.

I want to kick him to the curb, but he has a violent history.
He spent some time in the pokey for domestic violence and he has severe anger issues.

I am just terrified if I kick him out and he is on the streets, he will turn meaner and try to seek revenge.
He once told me when he was mad at me, "You know what?? I have been to prison....I learned life skills there. I can destroy EVERY element of your life if I so chose to. But you are not worth an ounce of my time and effort."

Help.
What should I do?

Are you dating my ex-bf? That was him to a T (minus the violence and prison). Always the victim, always saying he just needs a little help to get a leg-up. And yes, when we broke up, he did threaten and harass me for a couple months (but never acted on anything).

I wasted 5 years thinking he could change. Luckily I was able to bail by 25. Please start over without him and do whatever you need to do to stay safe. Crash with friends, family, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm... I think you should have a kid with him, that will snap him out of it

+1 There are no guarantees, but having a kid may settle him down.

Also, if you could somehow increase the amounts of money you are giving him, it would reduce his stress while job hunting.

I agree. I would start with a kid with this guy, but then go on to have a bunch of other kids by different, but similar, fathers, so you can diversify your portfolio.
You should have your wages go in to his bank account, and that way he can decide how much he allows you to have, which may also reduce his stress.

Good idea. The other violent felons could also protect OP from the original baby daddy. What could go wrong?

[Anonymous]

What is the point of posting this abusive bf story over and over again?

[Anonymous]

Because OP is sick in the head. She's made several fake posts before

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I cannot even believe your post is real. Basically you are allowing a homeless, unemployed loser to mooch off you. Go to the police station and see if they will help you evict him. Get a locksmith and an ADT alarm system.

+1.

But you forgot to add "violent felon" to the list of this guy's qualities.

And numerous kids from baby mammas.
And lost his license due to being a deadbeat father.