Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is complicated for me to answer. My ds is 8 and was diagnosed at 3. He's made tremendous progress and academically and intellectually he's an interesting kid. He's in a very small private school that says it is MS but has quite a few kids who are quirky or have ADHD or other issues. He is noticeably odd and I think anyone with experience with kids his age would know he has ASD (limited eye contact, somewhat strange, flat speech patterns, and unusual interests). He doesn't "pass" as typical at all, and the deviation from what is typical has become much greater and pronounced over time. In preK or kindergarten our family and friends didn't "believe" he merited the diagnosis, but I doubt anyone thinks that now. We did tons of therapy and early intervention. I think it is really really hard to predict outcomes. In a funny way his becoming more different has corresponded to me becoming less anxious about his future. I feel like he is becoming who he is, and the best thing we can do is just support that. There's no longer the intense anxiety to try to get him to behave as a normal 8 yo would, because I know that isn't in his capability. But he is polite, kind, helpful, and many other good things, and that is enough.
Love your answer! May I ask what school?