Dreading going to work each day--feeling tired and stressed.

[Anonymous]

I would suggest figuring out how to enjoy your evenings. If you're doing errands, figure out if you can consolidate them or order stuff online to reduce them. I also think that having a cleaner home would help. Whenever things start to feel dirty or cluttered my husband and I spend an evening (or an hour, or every commercial break) cleaning and organizing. It really makes us all feel better to get rid of things (donate!), put things in their places and have surfaces wiped clean.
Good luck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No kids? HAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

Sweetheart, Buck up.

Signed,
Your future self.

how is this helpful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I was you, minus the graduate degree in the field I was in. I took a job at an organization that was, on paper, a perfect fit for me. The work was rewarding, interesting, challenging in all the right ways. I enjoyed the work itself very much. The office, however, was toxic. Toxic coworkers who were constantly trying to undermine each other made the environment absolutely poisonous. I tried to keep my head down and stay out of the fray, but in a small office in which the majority of people are engaged in drama, that's basically impossible.

I quit. I was dreading going to work every day. It was spilling over into the rest of my life. It wasn't worth it. I am now at a less fulfilling job professionally, but could not be happier with my colleagues and the supportive positive atmosphere of my new office.

Good luck.

This was me, I kept attempting to find new ways to approach going to work, ways to ignore the toxic environment and co-workers. After 6 months my husband pulled me aside and told me that he felt I should quit or star seeing a therapist because it was so obvious how miserable I was and it was impacting my relationships with friends, spouse, kids etc. I'm in a much better place, lower salary, have to re-build vacation time lower job BUT I'm happy, enjoy my job, my life and family again.

Sounds like time for a change. Its tough but sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to try a different approach.

[Anonymous]

More sympathy. I'm in the same situation, but with 2 kids. I'm lucky if I can take a week vacation by the time I cover half of the sick days, dr appts, school events, etc. I know I need to start looking, but hard to find the time or energy for that!

[Anonymous]

I too left a great company and job because of a manipulative, selfish boss who wouldn't manage any of us. Eventually of her 5 person team 4 of us left. 1 stayed but she has been there forever and barely knows right from left. Queen bee boss lady just keeps churning through the good people every couple years...
It's sad how useless HR or higherups are when they have 1 bad manager wrecking havoc on her group, productivity, morale and people's careers.

[Anonymous]

Is also sad how people interviewing never seem to ask real questions. Like what is the management style, culture, why did XYZ leave, what type of person would enjoy working here, etc.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately vacation isn't an entiltlement in this country. My DH rarely gets a vacation, he is encouraged to work his two weeks and get a "bonus" at Christmas. Of course the "bonus" is just his cashed out vacation pay.

[Anonymous]

No other PTO? sick days?

call off a monday sometime soon and take that extra day to relax!

[Anonymous]

OP, I get it. You are probably young and brought up to believe that there is something called work/life balance and that such balance is what both you and your employers are invested in to grow an employee such as yourself, one who is dedicated, energetic, intelligent.

This is an ideal and, while excellent on paper, bears little to no resemblance to what happens in the work world today.

For whatever reason, you really don't understand that you are lucky to have a job in this economy and still expect someone to appreciate you. We are all stressed out. Nobody is getting adequate vacation. Everyone is tired on Mondays. No one appreciates us and we can be replaced with someone just like us in a hot second.

Maybe you have a parent's basement you can move into when you lose your job. Many people don't. That makes them hungrier than you and more willing to embrace a job with a whopping two weeks vacation without complaint.

You have some options, including the one the PP recommends, having kids. Of course, having a kid just because it might give you purpose (or code: make you feel appreciated when you aren't appreciated by your job...) might not be the best strategy.

A kid should be wanted for themselves. They shouldn't be a Plan B.

[Anonymous]

OP, ignore all of the "you're lucky to have a job/2 weeks is a lot"posts. That kind of thinking leads to a race to the bottom as far as employee protections go.

I think maybe you have to try to find a way to accept that some things around the house aren't going to get done. Meanwhile, look for another job.

I would caution you, though, DO NOT QUIT until you have secured another job. It's is far easier to find a job while you still have one. It's a shame that it is like that, but it is.

That said, if you do get interviews for a new job, ask specific questions about leave, telework options, et cetera, before jumping ship. Sometimes the grass looks greener but isn't.

It's funny how people on this thread will jump all over the OP for feeling worn out when it's clear from other threads that a lot of people on here can afford housecleaners. There's a lot of hypocrisy.

OP, hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. You are probably young and brought up to believe that there is something called work/life balance and that such balance is what both you and your employers are invested in to grow an employee such as yourself, one who is dedicated, energetic, intelligent.

This is an ideal and, while excellent on paper, bears little to no resemblance to what happens in the work world today.

For whatever reason, you really don't understand that you are lucky to have a job in this economy and still expect someone to appreciate you. We are all stressed out. Nobody is getting adequate vacation. Everyone is tired on Mondays. No one appreciates us and we can be replaced with someone just like us in a hot second.

Maybe you have a parent's basement you can move into when you lose your job. Many people don't. That makes them hungrier than you and more willing to embrace a job with a whopping two weeks vacation without complaint.

You have some options, including the one the PP recommends, having kids. Of course, having a kid just because it might give you purpose (or code: make you feel appreciated when you aren't appreciated by your job...) might not be the best strategy.

A kid should be wanted for themselves. They shouldn't be a Plan B.

Um, if the OP can't afford a housecleaner with the job, how is she going to afford to have a kid and quit? What a weird response this is!

And again, yeah, everyone is stressed/rough economy, et cetera, but it's pretty clear from these boards that there are huge differences in income, so a lot of people on here have a stressful job but at least get paid enough to afford a housecleaner. When your job is stressful and you don't make enough for hired help at home and you don't get much time off, it's a different story.

[Anonymous]

That's why people go into lucrative professions. Duh.

[Anonymous]

OP, what kind of hours do you work? You said "full-time."

My job is 9-5, with an hour for lunch (35 hour work week). Before I had kids, I used to arrive by 8:45am and work till 5:30 or 5:45pm every day. I like my job and I was eager to be there and I got caught up in things I was doing.

Then I had kids and had to do daycare drop off/pick up and my hours immediately went to 9-5. No longer did I work that extra time. And, frankly, I still got all my work done.

If you are feeling tired/overwhelmed, and you are working more than your actual work day, consider cutting back to what your actual work day is.

Set aside 2 evenings/week to get stuff done that you wind up doing on the weekend, like grocery shopping, laundry, etc. Then you'll find you have more time on the weekend for fun & relaxing.

Also, I have found that it we go out or do something fun (like have friends over for pizza) on Friday night, it winds up making the weekend feel much longer than if we just come home and crash. Nothing crazy - we don't stay up half the night, but if we do something fun/social on Friday night, it definitely makes a difference to the feel of the weekend.

[Anonymous]

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