My DC's personality changed drastically after entering private school.
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
NP here. If you don't like rude and aggressive, then you should not respond so rudely and aggressively. |
Anonymous
| Who calls Troll on this post? |
Anonymous
|
The real question what is the change in your child's school experience? I assume they were in preschool prior to K so they may have been in a more nurturing environment with fewer kids and more awareness on the adults part as to how the children were treating each other. Also, I assume too that this is your only or oldest child. I have found that rudeness, etc is a learned behavior with children. My oldest was really never exposed to those types of behaviors until he went to a larger school.
I agree with the poster who said to really be a constant source of support and love at home. See these bahaviors as a cry for needed love and help, nothing to be punished for. Talk to a child/family therapist by yourself if they are very troubling for you. Good luck. |
Anonymous
I'm so sick of it, and nice doesn't seem to work. |
Anonymous
| I couldn't find an all boys school that starts in K. |
Anonymous
|
My K boy changed drastically in the same way, but did not move school. Most of the little 5-6 year old boys are going through an aggressive stage - sorting out the pecking order! It's normal and it goes away.
This has nothing to do with private school and everything to do with normal development. |
Anonymous
| New poster here. I found my son whom had never been in trouble before did get into trouble the first time in Kindergarten. In fact, most of the boys in his class seemed high energy and in trouble that year - even those deemed as previously "quieter" boys by their parents. They were not malicious in any way but still I definitely noticed a change. Hang in there and I would take the previous poster's advice and be a "reliable presence, family time, etc..." |
Anonymous
|
OP, DS started acting like a rude, entitled, ill-mannered asshole a few years in at an all-boys school. The school's reputation claims that it builds character. The nice, loving treatment hasn't been working, I'm hoping outside activities engaging with "normal" people will snap him out of it. If not, we're planning to yank him out.
|
Anonymous
| Thanks much. I just needed to hear that its pretty normal. |
Anonymous
As they get older, they start immitating their parents much more. Be careful of how you behave in front of them. This has nothing to do with private school, and more to do with the type of people they have in their household. |
Anonymous
|
Anonymous
| I have a bump on my neck, please diagnose it for me without having met me, personally examined it , or done a biopsy, because I really, really want to know what it is.... |
Anonymous
For K, I would say quite uncommon, at least the aggressive and rude part. As for the competitive part, I'm surprised that you're actually seeing that, unless it's sports focused, which would be quite common for any boy. |
Anonymous
|
I would investigate the specifics of his circumstances rather than ascribe this behavior to most K boys.
Both of my sons were surrounded by the kindest kids in their K classes - boys and girls, all friends, and just really sweet to each other. Individual problems cropped up, I'm sure, but the tone of the class both times was wonderful. No "jockeying for position in the pack" sort of behavior, as was described above. |