39 and in dire need of change, considering Landmark Forum

[Anonymous]

I also went in my early 20s - definitely got something out of the weekend. But I don't think it really promotes lasting transformation. And there is definitely a hard sell at the end, blech. Don't think it's a cult, fwiw.

[Anonymous]

Convert to Mormonism.

[Anonymous]

the only person I know who did it talked about how life transforming it was, etc. really made him figure out who he was, found his inner self, broke down boundaries, etc, This also entailed him getting back together with the woman he had recently dumped. they got back together, engaged, and he dumped her a few weeks before the wedding. Not saying that landmark is at fault, but i question the ability of any course to totally transform your life. Transforming your life is a commitment to self, and it shouldn't have to cost a lot of money.

to the OP--self help courses and the like are incredibly appealing when we feel down because they seem to make it easy to become our best selves. But self transformation is an ongoing process.

I like the idea of meditation, a yoga practice, volunteering fostering an animal, etc. --doing something very different. Taking a trip by yourself, etc. Doing something you love.

[Anonymous]

Lots of high pressure and group-think. Cultish behavior. Recommend against

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the only person I know who did it talked about how life transforming it was, etc. really made him figure out who he was, found his inner self, broke down boundaries, etc, This also entailed him getting back together with the woman he had recently dumped. they got back together, engaged, and he dumped her a few weeks before the wedding. Not saying that landmark is at fault, but i question the ability of any course to totally transform your life. Transforming your life is a commitment to self, and it shouldn't have to cost a lot of money.

to the OP--self help courses and the like are incredibly appealing when we feel down because they seem to make it easy to become our best selves. But self transformation is an ongoing process.

I like the idea of meditation, a yoga practice, volunteering fostering an animal, etc. --doing something very different. Taking a trip by yourself, etc. Doing something you love.

OP here--you are very wise. Thanks for the simple but common sense approach!

[Anonymous]

I second the recommendation for a trip by yourself. I found it to be transformative.

[Anonymous]

An emotionally vulnerable person should not go. I have seen the group cause two break ups that were unnecessary. They like career success but I think they would rather have people emotionally dependent on them. Outside relationships threaten that.

[Anonymous]

I was "forced" to attend - boss made it mandatory It was cool at the time but the minute you walk out the door, you're back to your same old habits. Its also really expensive.
Save your money. You know what you need to change, just do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:STAY AWAY. Super creepy. I went to an intro event after constant pushing from a friend. Awful. The people are super weird and cultish and all they care about is getting your $$. Stay away.

Have you been to it?

Can you read?

[Anonymous]

It's for sheep... people are able to "discover how great people are" and better themselves w/o paying a groupthink leader to teach them how to do so. If you're going to pay someone to help out with this (and you should if you are motivated to make changes and be happy(ier)!) I suggest a yoga teacher or a therapist.

[Anonymous]

How is following a yoga teacher or therapist not sheepish?

[Anonymous]

go to mclean bible . t's a great place if you're sad and lonely.

[Anonymous]

Cult. Do not do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is following a yoga teacher or therapist not sheepish?

A yoga instructor or therapist = a cult leader? really? People who are educated to provide a service vs. greedy yet charismatic quacks? Please.

[Anonymous]

I did it many years ago b/c my then wife pushed me into going. was it life changing? no. was it interesting? yes. did I come away with some tools and things I could use in real life- yes. it definitely helped me deal with my recent divorce - and ironically it was my ex-wife who seems to have forgotten ALL the lesson of LF. I did the forum and the advanced course (which is far, far better than the forum). I skipped almost all of the seminars - and whenever the folks at LF gave me a hard time, trying to use guilt and other ruthless tactics, I turned it around on them by saying that I am living up to other commitments I had made before LF and just because my schedule doesn't allow me to do both, you have no place to say anything about it.

Is it worth the few hundred bucks - maybe. But there are tons of good books you can buy and which will help you. the one thing LF has going for it over books is that you have to show up - whereas with books, if you don't crack the first page or are not committed =, you'll never get anywhere. so bottom line is if you need a push to motivate you, LF may be a decent choice - but DON'T sign up for all the extra crap they push (except for the advanced course).