in desperate need of help with "cocktail attire"

[Anonymous]

OP, I'd suggest a nice pair of crepe or other flowy material black pants worn with heeled pumps. The heel doesn't need to be high -- 2 inches is plenty. I'd look for a top that is two pieces -- a simple silk shell and a flowy jacket or cardigan with or without some sparkle. Add a bit of jewelry and you are good to go! The best part is that you'll still feel like "you" rather than dressing in a way that feels uncomfortable.