Telling people your plate is full with friends...

[Anonymous]

No matter how busy I am happy to make new friends, but because my time is limited I am less tolerant of bullshit and more likely to let a forming friendship fade. My definition of bullshit is..

mompetitions/mommy olympics

superficial-anyone all about money and flashiness

frequent husband bashing
(There's a difference between occasionally venting or asking for feedback on something and sitting around with a bunch of cat ladies and talking about your husbands like they are a bunch of ass-holes. If you are that unhappy in your marriage, get help. I don't want to get together with you both as a couple knowing behind his back you said he's selfish in bed, cheap, and an idiot and he gets hand-outs from mommy still.)

[Anonymous]

You do realize how shallow, self centered and inconsiderate I am? I can't be caught dead with someone who's not richer, prettier or more well connected, you know the whole rarified air thing? Now RUN, RUN,RUN for the hills before anyone sees us together!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always say "I'm not accepting any more applications at this time. I received requests from hundreds of qualified applicants and the position of friend has been filled."

HA!

I want to be on the waiting list for your friendship.

[Anonymous]

I know how this OP feels. I don't have any extra time in my life for one single thing. If I am not at work, I am trying to catch up on things at home. If I am not trying to catch up on things at home, I am trying my best to keep up with the friendships we have. If I am not doing that, I am trying to keep my head above water parenting. I saw a Nick Galifinakis (sp?) cartoon the other day which showed a frantic mom of a little kid and an infant with all sorts of chaos going on in the background saying to a friend on the phone, "Can I get back to you in about 5 years?!?" and that is exactly how I feel most days! I don't know how the rest of you seem to have so much extra available time to slot a new friend in, honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a peach, OP. Definitely do these potential friends a favor and let them know that you have too many friends and don't want to connect. Say it just like that - it will do the trick and spare all involved.

Exactly! What an arrogant thing to want to tell people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know how this OP feels. I don't have any extra time in my life for one single thing. If I am not at work, I am trying to catch up on things at home. If I am not trying to catch up on things at home, I am trying my best to keep up with the friendships we have. If I am not doing that, I am trying to keep my head above water parenting. I saw a Nick Galifinakis (sp?) cartoon the other day which showed a frantic mom of a little kid and an infant with all sorts of chaos going on in the background saying to a friend on the phone, "Can I get back to you in about 5 years?!?" and that is exactly how I feel most days! I don't know how the rest of you seem to have so much extra available time to slot a new friend in, honestly.

Well you had time to read a cartoon.

[Anonymous]

it's not you it's me, I am a bitch. Please feel free to help me out and maybe I can make time to be friendly. TOODLES.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how this OP feels. I don't have any extra time in my life for one single thing. If I am not at work, I am trying to catch up on things at home. If I am not trying to catch up on things at home, I am trying my best to keep up with the friendships we have. If I am not doing that, I am trying to keep my head above water parenting. I saw a Nick Galifinakis (sp?) cartoon the other day which showed a frantic mom of a little kid and an infant with all sorts of chaos going on in the background saying to a friend on the phone, "Can I get back to you in about 5 years?!?" and that is exactly how I feel most days! I don't know how the rest of you seem to have so much extra available time to slot a new friend in, honestly.

Well you had time to read a cartoon.

Yeah, glancing at a pictoral cartoon takes just as much time as an outing to catch up with friends. Good call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know how this OP feels. I don't have any extra time in my life for one single thing. If I am not at work, I am trying to catch up on things at home. If I am not trying to catch up on things at home, I am trying my best to keep up with the friendships we have. If I am not doing that, I am trying to keep my head above water parenting. I saw a Nick Galifinakis (sp?) cartoon the other day which showed a frantic mom of a little kid and an infant with all sorts of chaos going on in the background saying to a friend on the phone, "Can I get back to you in about 5 years?!?" and that is exactly how I feel most days! I don't know how the rest of you seem to have so much extra available time to slot a new friend in, honestly.

When you have a crisis, you'll wish you had made time for friends. How do yu handle work/family/life without close girlfriends? If you're too busy to make new friends, I suspect you're not keeping up with old ones either. Many of my longer term friendships are simply not as close anymore, thus freeing up time to make new friends with whom I have more in common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how this OP feels. I don't have any extra time in my life for one single thing. If I am not at work, I am trying to catch up on things at home. If I am not trying to catch up on things at home, I am trying my best to keep up with the friendships we have. If I am not doing that, I am trying to keep my head above water parenting. I saw a Nick Galifinakis (sp?) cartoon the other day which showed a frantic mom of a little kid and an infant with all sorts of chaos going on in the background saying to a friend on the phone, "Can I get back to you in about 5 years?!?" and that is exactly how I feel most days! I don't know how the rest of you seem to have so much extra available time to slot a new friend in, honestly.

When you have a crisis, you'll wish you had made time for friends. How do yu handle work/family/life without close girlfriends? If you're too busy to make new friends, I suspect you're not keeping up with old ones either. Many of my longer term friendships are simply not as close anymore, thus freeing up time to make new friends with whom I have more in common.

See my sentence #4 above. I put a lot of time into maintaining and keeping up old friendships. In fact, I would say I am one of the better, if not the best, ones in our group for initiating and organizing and bringing us all together. I really put a lot of mental and emotional energy into this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your line. I feel bad I meet so many great people but I have no time to connect.

But you had time to post this. Hmmmm.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. I work full time, but my kids are preteens, so by this time in life I have plenty of whole-family and couples friends. I'd like a close girlfriend or two, who does not work with me, to dish with and have girl time.

Hopefully I will feel that way again when my kids are older. For now, I am barely holding on and feel like I am spending too little time with the kids as is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how this OP feels. I don't have any extra time in my life for one single thing. If I am not at work, I am trying to catch up on things at home. If I am not trying to catch up on things at home, I am trying my best to keep up with the friendships we have. If I am not doing that, I am trying to keep my head above water parenting. I saw a Nick Galifinakis (sp?) cartoon the other day which showed a frantic mom of a little kid and an infant with all sorts of chaos going on in the background saying to a friend on the phone, "Can I get back to you in about 5 years?!?" and that is exactly how I feel most days! I don't know how the rest of you seem to have so much extra available time to slot a new friend in, honestly.

When you have a crisis, you'll wish you had made time for friends. How do yu handle work/family/life without close girlfriends? If you're too busy to make new friends, I suspect you're not keeping up with old ones either. Many of my longer term friendships are simply not as close anymore, thus freeing up time to make new friends with whom I have more in common.

See my sentence #4 above. I put a lot of time into maintaining and keeping up old friendships. In fact, I would say I am one of the better, if not the best, ones in our group for initiating and organizing and bringing us all together. I really put a lot of mental and emotional energy into this.

Oh. You said you were "trying your best." That didn't indicate success at keeping up with current friends. My bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Interesting. I work full time, but my kids are preteens, so by this time in life I have plenty of whole-family and couples friends. I'd like a close girlfriend or two, who does not work with me, to dish with and have girl time.

Hopefully I will feel that way again when my kids are older. For now, I am barely holding on and feel like I am spending too little time with the kids as is.

But isn't most of your evening socializing time when the kids are in bed? My kids are both under 8 and are in bed by 8:30 at the latest, so I'm not missing time with them when I go out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know how this OP feels. I don't have any extra time in my life for one single thing. If I am not at work, I am trying to catch up on things at home. If I am not trying to catch up on things at home, I am trying my best to keep up with the friendships we have. If I am not doing that, I am trying to keep my head above water parenting. I saw a Nick Galifinakis (sp?) cartoon the other day which showed a frantic mom of a little kid and an infant with all sorts of chaos going on in the background saying to a friend on the phone, "Can I get back to you in about 5 years?!?" and that is exactly how I feel most days! I don't know how the rest of you seem to have so much extra available time to slot a new friend in, honestly.

Well you had time to read a cartoon.

Yeah, glancing at a pictoral cartoon takes just as much time as an outing to catch up with friends. Good call.

My point is right there. You DO have time for more single things. Like cartoons. And posting to DCUM about how busy you are. What you should say is, "I don't care to devote time to friends."