Private School Family in Public School Neighborhood - Do My Neighbors Secretly Hate Me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mann Elementary was not good enough for you?

Wow, great guess, PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mann Elementary was not good enough for you?

Wow, great guess, PP!

Was not that hard, there are not that many nabes in NW DC that are "liberal, upper-middle class [and] mini-van infested" and also have a great public school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me, it sounds like OP is the one who sees herself and her family as different from (better than?) her neighbors. If that is indeed the case, then I am sure that the neighbors pick up on it. That will be a lot more alienating than a school choice.

I agree with this, the tone of the OP's post made me want to puke, I am sure her uber-liberal neighbors also pick up on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me, it sounds like OP is the one who sees herself and her family as different from (better than?) her neighbors. If that is indeed the case, then I am sure that the neighbors pick up on it. That will be a lot more alienating than a school choice.

I agree with this, the tone of the OP's post made me want to puke, I am sure her uber-liberal neighbors also pick up on this.

You are looking for it then because it is not there (snotty tone). I am not OP but certainly think her question is carefully and kindly asked, that is unless you already have a chip on your shoulder about private schools. Ring any bells?

[Anonymous]

Ring any bells?

Nope.

[Anonymous]

What's with all the "use" Mann and "use" public schools, as if they were dish towels?

Why do you and your neighbors "send" kids to private schools but "use" public school? Hmmm.

[Anonymous]

I really doubt if your perception is accurate. I live in a Mann neighborhood. All of my neighbors go to private. We started at private and switched to Mann. I feel sorry for my neighbors who aren't at Mann! So, chances are, they are very happy with what they've chosen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's with all the "use" Mann and "use" public schools, as if they were dish towels?

Why do you and your neighbors "send" kids to private schools but "use" public school? Hmmm.

Because "send" is a more active verb - you have to actively apply and then decide to actually "send" your kids to a private (and pay for it) whereas the public school is there, its available, you dont have to engage in any additional activity to get your kid in therefore "use" it. Stop looking for nastiness where none is intended or even actually suggested. This particular forum, Private/indep schools, seems to bring out the nastiness and jealousies and insecurities more than any other on DCUM. Be happy with your choice/decision and quit judging those who have made different decisions and/or assuming they are judging you. We would all do well if we stopped worrying about what others are thinking or implying and just concentrated on our own lives and own children.

[Anonymous]

I love that you argue that public school families are jealous and insecure, underscored, and then tell us to all get along....

[Anonymous]

Because "send" is a more active verb - you have to actively apply and then decide to actually "send" your kids to a private (and pay for it) whereas the public school is there, its available, you dont have to engage in any additional activity to get your kid in therefore "use" it. Stop looking for nastiness where none is intended or even actually suggested. This particular forum, Private/indep schools, seems to bring out the nastiness and jealousies and insecurities more than any other on DCUM. Be happy with your choice/decision and quit judging those who have made different decisions and/or assuming they are judging you. We would all do well if we stopped worrying about what others are thinking or implying and just concentrated on our own lives and own children.

Think I'm gonna call bullsht on this one. Nice try though.

signed, a mom who uses private school for her son and isn't insecure about that actually and isn't jealous that you also apparently use private school for your child. she's just wondering about your "of the manor born" word choices.

[Anonymous]

Insecurity about ANY decision to send or use a school breeds paranoia and suspicion for those making the decision. If you are confident, people react to that. If they cannot handle it, screw 'em. I am wondering if the OP is the one with the insecurity...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I love that you argue that public school families are jealous and insecure, underscored, and then tell us to all get along....

I NEVER said parents who choose public school are anything: jealous, insecure, whatever. I said "This particular forum, Private/indep schools, seems to bring out the nastiness and jealousies and insecurities more than any other on DCUM." That is in general, all parents , who post on this thread: not in school yet, public, private, charter, homeschool, whatever. I actually asumed that most people posting on this forum have choosen private or are thinking of private since that would explain ther interest in the forum. For instance, I don't ever go on the TTC forum because its not an issue in my life. So, ergo, I would actually most logically be implying that private school parents are insecure in their choices but that is not actually what I meant at all either. I said exactly what I meant : this forum seems to bring out the .... in everyone. Like the Sidwell/Maret parent who tells a poster who's 4 year old got a WIPSSI score in the high 80s not to bother applying because their kid couldn't hack it academically (give me a break), or the horribleness on the Beauvoir scandal thread, or a million other nasty, mean, ridiculous, insecure comments you see on the Private/Independent School Forum. Iwas just reacting to the mean responses to the OP who was asking a question about an attitude she was sensing and she wanted to know if she was basically being paranoid (I think she was). I just didn't think she was being snotty, just a bit insecure in her choice.