bridesmaid dress for this weekend is cut for a D-cup...I'm a B... help!

[Anonymous]

OP, I feel for you! I wouldn't (and haven't, in a similar situation), shelled out yet MORE money for an UGLY dress that I will NEVER EVER wear again (every bride thinks her choice is the unique example of a wear-again bridesmaid's dress. They never are!). Find some safety pins and pin the dress on the sides, and stuff your bra or use pads (which you can reuse, unlike the dress). No bridesmaid ever looks gorgeous (I wonder why. . . . ), so I would just suck it up and remember that everyone is focused on the bride anyway.

[Anonymous]

OP, have you talked to the place where you picked up the dress? I bet you a million that they gave you a dress for a different bridesmaid.

My sister was in a wedding once--she is 5'11. She arrived for the fitting and the dress shop had already lopped off about 6 or 7 inches off the dress meant for her while altering the dress on the shortest bridesmaid who was around 5'.

[Anonymous]

Thanks everyone. I'm so torn between the posts that say "run out and get alterations done - you need to look good for the bride's sake" and the post that says "I wouldn't shell out more money for an ugly dress I'll never wear again." I am going to go see if I can get some falsies (would love to get a boob job in theory, but I know in reality I never will!).

My mom is coming in from out of town to watch my son for the weekend. I'm going to have her try to pin me all up tonight. If I wear a seriously padded bra and pull the dress back at the zipper and pinch an inch or two, it looks fine. Hopefully I can recreate that with pins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pads. You need more than a push-up, you need falsies. I speak from experience.

Ah, can you say more about this? Where should I buy them? This could work. I don't have any cleavage though - will it look totally obvious?

I think I've seen the gel "cutlet" type falsies at target. Don't know if they would work, but worth a try! Good luck with it-this is totally something that would happen to me.

[Anonymous]

What a bitchy bride - almost $500 total!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pads. You need more than a push-up, you need falsies. I speak from experience.

Ah, can you say more about this? Where should I buy them? This could work. I don't have any cleavage though - will it look totally obvious?

I think I've seen the gel "cutlet" type falsies at target. Don't know if they would work, but worth a try! Good luck with it-this is totally something that would happen to me.

These are great. I got them to go in a strapless bra under a strapless dress, too. I got mine at Macys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a bitchy bride - almost $500 total!!!

OP here - I don't think it's out of the ordinary. I've been a bridesmaid five times and it always runs about this much. Dresses are $150-250 plus we always get our hair/nails done together. And then sometimes shoes and bras depending. Then there's the bachelorette, shower, and gifts. It's pretty expensive to be a bridesmaid - that's no secret! It's easier to spend money on the hair and nails and the parties, because that's fun. And bras/shoes you can typically wear again. It's spending another $100+ on alterations for an already expensive dress that I will literally donate the next day that I have trouble with Was just hoping there was a better solution. I'm totally wearing the cutlets and pinning the heck out of it. Hoping my falsie doesn't fall out on the dance floor!

[Anonymous]

Get a pashmina or scarf for the reception... or maybe bring a cuter dress

[Anonymous]

Double Sided Tape

It will not fix 3-inches worth of a gap, but if you can use falsies or minor alterations to shorten the gap, it will certainly help.

My wedding dress was strapless, and when I bent down there was a 2-inch gap between my back and the dress. Double sided tape fixed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely due to my procrastination, but also, I'll admit due to me not wanting to spend any more money on alterations after spending $200 on the dress, $50 on undergarments, $50 on an updo, and $50 on shoes. Picked up my bridesmaid dress last week for a wedding that is tomorrow and it's huge on top. I probably should have ordered a size down anyway, but even so, it appears that the dress is just cut for someone with boobs, which I unfortunately don't have. Even with a push-up bra on, the boning makes it stand out from my chest three inches. And it's an awful color on me. And it's stapless and a weird length. It just looks so terrible.

Two things - 1) tips for pining it or fixing it myself somehow? and 2) how can I get over that I'm going to feel really unattractive for an entire evening? I guess I'm also just complaining. Women over 30 - please don't pick out matching dresses for your bridesmaids. Please?

nothing wrong with fooling a few people for a weekend

Trust me; once they see those Ds, the color, strapless style and weird length will NOT matter.

[Anonymous]

OP, I feel your pain. Last time I was in a wedding, I spent more having my hideous dress altered to actually fit me than I spent on the ugly garment itself.

Be grateful though, it is WAY better that the dress is a D-cup intended for a B-cup wearer than a B-cup dress intended for a D-cup wearer!

[Anonymous]

What did you end up doing, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I feel for you! I wouldn't (and haven't, in a similar situation), shelled out yet MORE money for an UGLY dress that I will NEVER EVER wear again (every bride thinks her choice is the unique example of a wear-again bridesmaid's dress. They never are!). Find some safety pins and pin the dress on the sides, and stuff your bra or use pads (which you can reuse, unlike the dress). No bridesmaid ever looks gorgeous (I wonder why. . . . ), so I would just suck it up and remember that everyone is focused on the bride anyway.

And I"m sure you were the perfect bride and didn't do anything that offended anyone at your wedding. Oh, you got eloped or got married by the justice of peace? Then you offended all the people you didn't invite to your wedding. You just can't win if you're a bride.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I feel for you! I wouldn't (and haven't, in a similar situation), shelled out yet MORE money for an UGLY dress that I will NEVER EVER wear again (every bride thinks her choice is the unique example of a wear-again bridesmaid's dress. They never are!). Find some safety pins and pin the dress on the sides, and stuff your bra or use pads (which you can reuse, unlike the dress). No bridesmaid ever looks gorgeous (I wonder why. . . . ), so I would just suck it up and remember that everyone is focused on the bride anyway.

And I"m sure you were the perfect bride and didn't do anything that offended anyone at your wedding. Oh, you got eloped or got married by the justice of peace? Then you offended all the people you didn't invite to your wedding. You just can't win if you're a bride.

Not the person you're quoting, but I had my sister as a maid of honor (no other bridesmaids) and let her pick her own dress. Seemed to work for everyone.

Does anyone truly like being a bridesmaid?

[Anonymous]

Please don't blame your friend - bridesmaid dresses and bridal shops just SUCK and have the weirdest sizing known to mankind!! I had to order a size 18 dress to fit my size 10 body a couple years ago. Apparently I have incredibly wide hips for the bridal industry (this has never been a problem before!) because when I got the dress, it fit at my hips and was massively huge at the waist and bust (I was a C cup, and still had to have the bust taken in).

I learned from this lesson, and had my bridesmaids pick out their own dresses from j.crew in the same neutral color, which I've actually seen all three wear again either at other weddings or cocktail attire events - success!!