Does any one else find doing homework with your kids hell?

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Anonymous wrote:It depends on the child, OP, so do what you think is best!

My 7 year old has an ADD/executive functioning disorder and needs help with organization and staying focused.

17:30 here. Both of my kids (ages 7 and 9) have ADHD and we have always worked with the teacher on organization strategies. I still stay out of the homework. Kids need to learn consequences.

NP here -- also withe a child with ADHD -- just FYI he didn't struggle significantly with homework until he hit 4th grade. UP until 3rd grade I would have been able to say the same thing -- "I stay out of HW, he needs to learn the consequences etc" but when he hit 4th grade it became clear that he was only learning to give up because he was not capable of figuring out what he needed to do to improve.

Also -- if my second child had been my first, I would had thought I was the worlds best, most relaxed mom about HW. What's the big problem? Wow, so much in child raising depends upon the type of child you have and what his/her temperament is!

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if homework is a problem the teacher should deal with it. the teacher needs to see what the child struggles with and if homework in general is a struggle, the teacher should also know this. If your child refuses to do her homework, she will deal with the consequences. Take yourself out of the picture.

A 7 year-old shouldn't have the kind of homework that is a struggle. If your child is always forgetting things the teacher should be working with him on organization skills.

No, it is the parent's job to work on organizational skills with regards to homework, not the teacher's. I agree that parents should not do homework for kids, and that children should deal with the consequences of not completing it, but it is the parent who has to teach the student how to manage their out of school time.

[Anonymous]

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A 7 year-old shouldn't have the kind of homework that is a struggle. If your child is always forgetting things the teacher should be working with him on organization skills.

No, it is the parent's job to work on organizational skills with regards to homework, not the teacher's. I agree that parents should not do homework for kids, and that children should deal with the consequences of not completing it, but it is the parent who has to teach the student how to manage their out of school time.

Agreed. Parents have to model good organization habits for their kids such as keeping binders and folders neat and labeled. They need to teach kids to pack their book bag the night before, check their hw agendas, and check boxes when tasks are complete.

Teachers usually have organizational strategies built into how they run the class and how kids keep their notebooks and folders in order. Parents have to practice organization with kids too, so it becomes a habit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends on the child, OP, so do what you think is best!

My 7 year old has an ADD/executive functioning disorder and needs help with organization and staying focused.

17:30 here. Both of my kids (ages 7 and 9) have ADHD and we have always worked with the teacher on organization strategies. I still stay out of the homework. Kids need to learn consequences.

If your kids are ADHD do they have IDPs? iNDIVIDUAL development plans. Not ADHD development plans.

All kids are different - right?